Hello gentlemen there's this shy HB7 in my one very small class, ten (people at most). I had been meaning to talk with her after, but I haven't gotten the opportunity, cause she promptly leaves -maybe she has another one right after but whatever. She's always early and always leaves on time, so maybe she has her shit together.

I've managed to chat her up once or twice before class and I've dhv'd a bunch in the class; I've shown off my smarts and wit, plus I've broken the prof's chops (whom I've known for a few years now) and I've cracked her up a few times. I've sat next to her twice now (I'm in the damn room all day so she technically has sat next to me) so I figure I have to move either on gaming her or physically away from her before it gets creepy. It's like three weeks in now, so it's this week or never.

I'm on a bit of a time constraint, so where do you think I should go from here? I was thinking about adding her on FB if I lose the opp. to get #-close after next class but I thought I should check here first. What're your thoughts? Your advice is appreciated

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"There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

"If you get tangled up, just tango on."--Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman

why dont you mack really hard before class and get her # before class.

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2 Bottles Shawty, 2 Bitches Waitin, 2 10's thats a win/win situation.

I'm planning to flirt either way before class but there's only ten of us we're actually sitting all around a table next to each other so there's no privacy so I would have to attempt a # close in front of everyone and if I fail, I fail hard.

I'm thinking get her attention as class ends and get my shit ready a few minutes before if I have to attempt and walk and talk

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"There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

"If you get tangled up, just tango on."--Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman

well you can tell if you are going to number close our not and if you feel like you didn't really have a good interaction dont ask her for her number.

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2 Bottles Shawty, 2 Bitches Waitin, 2 10's thats a win/win situation.

Thanks HBFucker, should I continue to sit next to where she sits for this interaction? I was planning on moving before the class after the next one anyway, but the only problem with this is I'd be sitting across from her, erecting a significant physical boundary.

If the interaction doesn't reach #close territory before class (I'll have a total of like 10 mins cause I'm in the class already and she's punctual as shit, hence the darting out) should I go for the kill after class?

Oh and what do think of adding on FB ?

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"There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

"If you get tangled up, just tango on."--Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman

She sits next to you? As class ends, ask her to wait a minute while you pack up your stuff, and get a # close then. Say something like "I'm moving classes soon, but I'd like to keep in contact, any ideas?" Make her believe it's her idea to give you her number, increases her validation and your chances.

Thanks man. To answer your question I moved my seat a couple classes ago to next to where she usually sits (by virtue of being in the same class beforehand) so I'd be able to chat her up more easily and she continues to sit in that spot. I'm not sure if that was slick or weird

And yeah is that inception best b/c she's shyish?

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"There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

"If you get tangled up, just tango on."--Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman

Exactly.

Alright, ran into a little trouble. I'm thinking I'm gonna have a window after class cause my jokes go over really well (even got in a goodhearted dig at her); she laughs at basically everything

Anyway so I say something to her at the end of class which makes her laugh then I go to hand in my essay. Meantime she heads out like nothing. I'm not kidding she BOOKS it again. Dayum this woman's got places to be.

Anyway I add her on FB cause there's a 2 week break between next time we see each other in class. (She accepts shortly after) Where to go from here?

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"There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

"If you get tangled up, just tango on."--Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman

Wow, you we friends with her on facebook the whole time? If you absolutely can't #close her face-to-face, do it over facebook, its the easiest thing to do. Just start messaging her, be funny, joke with her, and ask for her number! Im certain if your already friendly youll get it no problem

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"The bird sets itself on fire… and in the embers is an egg. In order to do great things, you've got to recreate yourself again ,and you can’t do that holding to a glory or a failure from yesterday. "

Nah man, just added her today. But yeah I'll do my best to # close online cause I won't see her in class for two weeks or so online is necessary. I really don't do fb game (I prefer text) any good articles to read?

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"There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

"If you get tangled up, just tango on."--Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman

i had this same problem in one of my classes. The route i went actually worked really well.

You can message her on Facebook and say, " hey i think it would be a good idea if i had your number in case i'm sick or miss an assignment one day"

Did this to a girl in my class over email and got her digits within a couple hours.

If she already accepted your friend request on facebook then she probably wont mind you talking to her. That is unless shes an attention whore (which i highly doubt, since she books it out of class every day)

Good luck bud!

Hey thanks man. I could still do that but the only problem is she knows my best friend is also in the class and I'm chummy with two or three other (of the measly ten ppl in there) so it might seem disingenuous (which it kind of is?)

She does have her # posted on her profile but I think I should still "get" it from her. Thoughts?

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"There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

"If you get tangled up, just tango on."--Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman

Bump - On winter break, going back next week. Wondering about hitting her up on FB.

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"There are only the pursued, the pursuing, the busy, and the tired." - F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

"If you get tangled up, just tango on."--Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman

seriously her number means jack fuck nothing, it is just a way to contact her, and that means talking to her, making a damn connection with this girl is way more important, and you will have to face your damn fear and show intent at some point, it is just a phone number, stop being so timid, the approach doesn't have to be perfect, it just has to happen, it is a yes or no, don't be so in your head about this, what if xyz happens?, but what if because of abz she doesn't like me? what do I do?

go check out the definition of confidence in the dictionary, do you think all this overthinking makes you seem sure of yourself?

just go corner her ass, tell her you think she is cute but there is no time to talk to her in class and you want to get to know her better (seriously fucking sprint after her if you have to), start chatting her up for a tad, if she has somewhere to go, don't stop her for too long, either walk with her (in the direction she has to go in) or tell her you have to go too, then pull out your phone and just say, what is your number? start texting her that day and set a frame that it is normal for you to just text, do this for 1 or 2 days to get a tad of rapport established, get to know her and invite her out asap, and fucking move forward, try to kiss her within first two days meeting up with her, don't tounge rape her on the first kiss, and go in slow, same with the phone number, it is either yes or no, if the number is a no, she is a giant waste of time and not interested, if the kiss is a no, give it a good 5 tries, if she gives number but has excuses why she never wants to meet you, she is a waste of time, there are shit loads of girls in the world man, you have to get used to just talking to them and meeting them, it isn't a big deal to talk to people and doing so will improve your odds more then waiting for the perfect moment and then never talking to them

the more sure of yourself and what you want the better, the more you dance around what you want, act unsure, wishy washy, can't just get to what it is you are about, the worse off you will be

don't put so much pressure on yourself to do well, or do bad, the pressure is not on you, the pressure is on her to say yes or no

free yourself from the burden of not knowing, so you can either get down to buisness or move on

GOOD LUCK