Hey poeticlyskuac i came across this thread for the first time yesterday and my god your posts are so insightful probably my favourite thread on this forum now. I couldn't stop reading everything you've written was glued to the little screen on my phone. With the limited time I had before going out I consumed as much information as I could and i wasn't going to approach blindly, instead study everyones body behaviour and look for signals.

My main focuses were body posture, eye contact, smiling and being non-threatening. Although it was new years eve, i had multiple girls coming up to me either dancing in front of me with their ass out, pinching my ass, grinding me with what i thought was their boyfriend 2ft away and I had even a girl constantly try and make eye contact with me before half hesitating walking over like she was a nervous kid and coming up and getting a photo with me like i was famous. These girls were all 4-6's out of ten but still this never has happened.

There were two situations on the night that I hope you can decipher for me. The first was a girl standing at the bar with two of her friends I was standing on the other side of the room. I was standing in an alpha stance with my friend and also dancing, I saw this girl and she was very attractive and after about 10seconds she caught my eye and looked away. A minute or so later she looked at me again and this happened about 3-4 times. During this period she wasn't completely facing the bar and her torso was slightly facing me as she stood behind her friends. The only indication I was getting was eye contact maybe torso as well which I didnt notice at the time and this wasn't enough for me to approach. I was eager to study her and others more. I wasn't sure how I would approach her do I go and lineup in the bar behind her and wait for a signal? Do I go straight up to her and open with a compliment or an observation? Is it possible I missed signals and is eye contact alone enough to mean interest?

The second situation was something thats never happened to me before. I was walking down the street with my friend looking for a food place with good posture, chest out and head up. From behind a tall blonde very attractive and slim, taller than me with heels (I'm 6ft) Puts her arm around and keeps with walking with me not saying anything. After a few seconds I look up shes looking straight forward I ask are you ok? thinking this girls drunk and needs help walking. She replies yeah i compliment her on her top and that gets her talking still looking straight forward as we walk. Shes saying shes a life saver and we joke about how she saved my life from the car i was going to walk into. I couldn't see but I think she had a few friends walking behind us and after our few minute chat she parted from my side to go wherever her friends were going before my mind could register the situation.

Was this girl interested then changed her mind? She only saw me from behind was my body posture still visible and what made her approach me? I feel like this was a missed instant close maybe fclose because it was past 1am we were on the street and with most people being tourists where I was, hotel rooms weren't far away. How could I have stopped her from parting ways? I felt like maybe she was obligated to leave to stay with her friends.

I'm planning on reading this whole thread when I have time and have more questions but I hope you can clear some of these instances up for me it would definitely help me and probably others.

Also with the eye contact should I be smiling? I've found it hard to get a smile in before they look away so I was pretty much smiling almost the whole night lol what do you do?

Quick question, I always relax my face but I find when I do it and look in the mirror it actually looks quite dull, bored and withdrawn so I have to put on a bit of a smirk to lighten it up and look more alert, but this require conscious effort and is hard to maintain.

Any tips how to counteract this?

I do have to write this. You guys should be studying body language everywhere, I am always watching people. You should be reading people, I get a lot of conversations started by reading their mood and how they feel. Watching people can teach you so much, you need to learn to decipher things quickly and a good way of doing this is studying other people socializing. Courtship is my favorite one to watch, I can normally tell what each guy did wrong. Remember 93% of communication has nothing to do with what you said but how you said(tone, speed, pitch, etc.) and conveyed it(body language). If you watch other people you can learn what they did wrong, and you can learn from others mistakes.

A wise man learns from is own mistakes, a wiser man learns from the mistakes of others.

Please, please study body language everywhere including home. TV body language is no different than in person body language(if they are good actors) all the same things happen, we just don't notice them, it is a solid way to watch some body language at home. Mute it figure out what is being said without hearing a word. Always always watch body language I can't stress that enough. You have to practice it everywhere.