Ok so I 've been going out with this girl well over a year, We go out quite often everything is great but... Should the men pay for everything or should we split it?
Personally I pay for everything I think it's a man dutie to provide. But It'll be intresting to get some other views on this.

Thanks For Reading.

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It boils down to whether you want to set a frame as a lover or as a provider.

-Wolf

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fuck that.

You can buy her something, once. But there must be balance for me, else i feel like a bank.

Id say 75 percent of the time the guy should pay. If you are taking her out, pay. But when she gets hirl girl ideas of things she wants to go do, she should pay

I agree with Wolf, you don't want her to expect your wallet, you want her to expect the slab. Paying for a meal occasionally is okay, but don't go out of your way to provide for her. Think about it from a woman's standpoint, you have a man buying everything for you, would you leave him? The answer: No, until something better comes along.

Money can buy vagina, but not affection.

no men should not have to pay for everything

You know what, girls complain about double standards so I say fuck that, pay only if you want to but not because you assume you HAVE to.

i think ur a gentlman if u pay for her

pay the first few times for sure but don't always pay, if she grabs your hand saying come on let me pay! then say, we'll split it and then that shows you're not just buying time with her basically

What's ironic about these situations is that even though you're paying for everything, she owns you. Paying for everything is way too old school and society has changed a lot in the last 50 years.

Does she work? Does she ever offer? I would feel used if a girl never offered and we've been going out a couple of times already. The problem with women these days is that they want best of both worlds. They want men to pay like last generation did but they also want to be in power and control like this generation of women and feminists.

I get what you mean guys, But I like to treat my Girlfriend if she deserves it or on special occasions. She always offers to pay she doesn't like me paying and refuses to go out sometimes if we don't split it. I just think it's nice to be able to provide for a woman and what I get in return makes my decision to pay for everything allot easier if she has a good day/evening I have a good night .

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

I see. She sounds good then, but you should at least let her split it sometimes, or let her get desserts or something. Don't let your emotions make bad relationship decisions. You can always do other things to make her feel special like cook or take her on a road trip, etc.

yes even for sex.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

It's the 21st century and women can make just as much money as we do. Pay for her when she absolutely deserves it, (she's been treating you really good for a week or two, its her birthday or its your anniversary) but for majority of your dates you two should go half and half. Or make it so that you pay for the bigger part of the bill (a meal or movie) while she foots the smaller portion (tip or snacks), this way you'll still feel like a provider but not a chump for paying the entire bill.

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Pretty little girls, so used to getting your way. Along comes a man who challenges you, and suddenly you don't know what to say.

Well, I think, if you're taking her out for a meal, dinner or somewhere else, but you take her out, as if you invite her, then its ok. I mean, I don't mind paying for anything, when we go out to dinner or the movies, or some place else. But if she wants to buy new clothes or new shoes while she is with you, you shouldn't have to pay for it, unless you want to give her a gift ...
I personally don't feel good if a girlfriend asks me to split the check, my own personal opinion. Not because of the money, but its more of a personal matter to me, I like to pay for it, I think that if she asks me to split it, it makes me feel less. But then again, I haven't met a woman who makes as much or more money than I do, most of them don't work.