Me and my GF planned on going on a vacation together this summer to an All inclusive resort in Egypt, cost is about 1000$ per person ..

Now today she told me she is doubting about vacation and that she maybe wanted to go to Ibiza with 2 of her friends (1 girl and 1 gay guy).

I asked her why she doubted and said she wanted to go with me but she doesn't have a lot of money.

Normally i would be really pissed off here because Ibiza is way more expensive than Egypt so its a bullshit reason but i played it off nicely..

I told her that she should do whatever was most fun for her and she kept saying she was doubting, i said something along the lines of:

''Just go with ur friends! Its obvious you want that more so you should just do that!''

Her: ''It seems like you don't even want to go with me on vacation anymore?''
Me: ''I do ofcourse ! That would be great! But i just notice that u want to go with the others more then with me''
Her:'' No thats not true.''

I just played it off like i was cool with it and all but in my head i was pissed but didn't act like that.


Now my question: How should i handle this situation? Or is this just one big shit test? I don't think it is..

Its funny cause i have always wanted to go to Ibiza... Maybe an idea how i can get her to invite me along? (Assuming she really does wants to go with me)

I'd say it's a massive RED FLAG. I would go to Egypt yourself and have a mad time, and don't contact her the entire time.

Hmm, care to explain?

Ibiza? That's like one of the party capitals of the world. My problem with that would be trusting her 100%

Well I don't know the full story of your relationship, the dynamics, how long you've been dating but in my experience if im going somewhere my gf would bend over backwards to come with me...that is of course until the relationship starts deteriorating. Of course she could be testing you to see if you really want her to come with you but its hard to gauge by the info you gave.

I'm her first boyfriend ever, she hasn't been with a lot of guys, like maybe kissed 1 before me and thats it. I also took her v-card, we are having lots of fun but last 2 weeks kind of got into a argument a little bit too much but now we're on the good road again

So if that's the case I don't see the reason you should play games. Tell her you want to come to Ibiza with her ect.

I find it weird to ask her if i can join her on vacation, i want her to ask her myself ...

I just feel shit about this eventho she says i can trust her and blabla but i dont know

I had a very similar problem with my girlfriend but your actually seems worse.This is a HUGE red flag and its like to make herself feel better she's turning the situation around on you like "you don't want me to go it seems anyway" thats bullshit and its exactly what my gf is like.

If i was you id have it out with her say that yous both planned on going away together and now she is ditching you...man that is having fuck all respect for you! If swhe goes to Ibiza she will have 100s of guys hitting on her the temptation will be huge and especially if she drinks...The only way i'd let her go is if i could go and if she says no i'd just presume the reason is that she wants to cheat and i'd dump her and find a girl who cares about me as much as I care about her.

Basically you got to let your gf know how you feel otherwise she will walk all over you man..dont be afraid to upset her, if she really loves you she will understand so in away its time for her to pass your test now..good luck!

Thanks guys !

I talked to my gf about how i feel and i got a response i didn't expect .. She said:

''Oh i didn't knew it bothered you that much! But don't worry! If you don't want me to go i won't go!''


She said she thought i didn't care about her anymore because i said everything was fine and she could go and stuff (lol?)