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PostPosted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 10:22 am 
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Instead of posting one topic per field report or update I decided to follow what most guys are doing and post a single thread with frequent updates.
This sound as a good idea also because it can serve as a progress gauge and eventually as a reality check if I ever start to loose momentum.
Just for the purpose of keeping track I will include the title for my first post in this thread (since I canot post a URL yet.:
"first-field-report-feb-12th-2012-adivices-are-welcome"

So let's talk about the latest updates:
1- I had already ready "The game" and "The Mystery Method" some time ago. Now I got my hands in a copy of Neil Strauss' "The Rules of the Game". I did the first day challenge, which consisted in having small talk with 5 strangers, it was very easy and I did this at the gym, the problem is, although the challenge said it could be anyone, I think I kept within my comfort zone. I am shy but not that shy, I can talk with strangers my anxiety mostly regards chicks! And did not had small talk with one single girl! Then the challenge for tomorrow is to the same but keep eye contact, I will stack another level of difficult to that and try to do that with woman. I am going to some shopping mall and try to have small talk with 5 girls looking at then in the eye... We shall see:)
2- I manage to contact gambit_101, who is also member of this forum, and we are going out next weekend to sarge in the Sydney City.
3- I enrolled myself in a workshop called: "Flirting Your Way to Success (For The Men)" that is organized by a PUA from Sydney. I am not sure about how good it will be but anyway it is free, and free tips wont hurt anyone. This will tak place in two weeks time. Besides that this guy does bootcamps also and I can use the occasion to discuss the bootcamps with him.
I will try to do at least 3 challenges from "The Rules of the Game" this week and after going out on the weekend I will post another field report.

Cheers


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PostPosted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 3:42 pm 
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I decided to copy my last week report to this thread before posting todays report:

Hello mates,

This is my first field report. My expectations where high, but I am afraid the report is shameful.

Before start the report I think some context may be needed.

I was in a long term relationship for several years so my game was non-existent at this point, and after the end of that relationship I moved from Brazil to Sydney and have been here for a few months. When I got here I was not in the frame of mind to get involved with girls, just wanted settle down and let the bad memories fade.

Now the time has come to change that, and after reading Mystery and Neil Straus books (asides some others on body language and PNL), I went to my first experiment today. Until now I was just trying to condition myself to keep my gaze and smile when I see a girl, this is idiotic, but it is not easy to suppress the reflex to look away...

Also I don't know many people in Australia besides the guys from work and some neighbours, none of them are suitable wing men, for many reasons that are not important to explain now! Then I am going out solo, which makes everything more difficult.

Anyway let's go to the report itself, shall we?

I heard of this cuban bar and I knew for a fact that there would be lots of girls there today so there I go. wearing nice shoes with jeans and long sleeves shirt with a scarf matching the colors, and given that I am Brazilian and have the physical traits of south-american I really was looking properly dressed for the place. Well, aside from good Mojitos the place was crap! 45 later minutes I left and decided to follow a suggestion from this forum and go to CARGO Bar in darling harbor.

There, since it was 8:30 pm most of the people were having happy hours with large groups eating and drinking. Large groups seating are a challenge I can't deal with, therefore the bar was the best option. In the bar I see these two girls wearing exactly the same clothes, and I open with a joke regarding the clothes, they laugh say it was a coincidence and runaway... Crap! I try on more set and fail again.

So, I decided to find myself a guy to be my wingman. I see two guys drinking on a table I open then and they tell me politely that I am interrupting their date... They were gay... Crap again!

Other 2 guys and I approach them trying to be friendly but more cautious, after the gay couple episode. They are friendly, but them the rest of their groups get there and they leave to other venue and leave me alone again. I got a little upset...

I grab a bear and starting watch a soccer match on the TV while I wait for the happy hour to end and the action begin.

They open the dance floor and I see this 3 girls (1 brunet 8, 1 blond 8 and a skiny brunet 7) dancing alone. The sound is to loud to try to open using standard techniques , therefore I try to exploit one of my strengths... I can actually dance quite well, tehrefore I go to the dance floor and start dancing close to these gilrs, they seems to like it and start giggling a and look at me, and show other clear IOI. Long story short, others guys come to the dance floor, but my dance technique kind of keep me as the alpha and the girls really look like being interested. I was still using my scarf and the brunet 8, grab it and pull me closer... I was not going to let her lead the way, so I took it from her and after she made a sad face I get my scarf put around her and pull her close. after some minutes like this, the other guys around start even to be suportive of my approach, and I was under the impression that I was the alpha male at the dance floor. But suddenly the girls got their stuff and leave. One of the guys around ask me what happened and I cant say what was wrong, against the advise of that guy I leave after the girls but after I got to them outside of the venue I realize that it was not a good idea. Too late... they simply ignore me and the security guy did not let me come back in the same way I came out and there is a huge line to get in again.

Upset I decided to go to another venue. I have been before to a place that plays 70,80,90 music (The Retro), so just to be in a familiar place there I go. Again loud music and dance floor. Again the same technique: find some pretty girls and start dancing around them. and again the same result, giggles, they come very close starting suggesting dance with me and then leave. this happens around 4 times. I stoped doing this and observed that other guys use about the same system but they end up on what I would call dirty dancing. The problem is that if I try the dirty dance stuff my understand is that I will probably be skipping steps and the aftermatch can not be very positive. And I really don feel confortable with the dirty dance approach...

Summing to that, one of the bartenders (blond , gave me lots of IOI's, but since she was working I could not approach her. Perhaps she was just playing the patrons but I did not see her doing the same to other guys..

At 2am my feet are hurting and I deceided to go home.

Well, that is it. Any comments, suggestions or advices?

Cheers
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SoloWing

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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 2:11 am Post subject:
You are totally right: no girl is worth me running after them. Should I have not left the cargo bar, I would probably have a better outcome, because I was already established in the social hierarchy regarding the other guys who were kind of supporting me, and there was also lots of girls around staring at me and the 3 girls. I could have used the support of the other guys to help me open other sets, and practised cold openings.
Also, in retrospect, if I have locked the brunet in putting my scarf on her, she might not have left...
Anyways, life is learning!
I am going out with some guys I met here in this forum next week...
Cheers.


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PostPosted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 4:53 pm 
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Hi Mates,

Today I have met Gambit to go sarge in Kings Cross. Nice Guy... The other guy who was suppose to join us could not make it.

I have got there earlier and spend some time at the World Bar, it was kind of empty because I got there before 9pm, so I order a cocktail teapot while I was waiting for my wing man. I noticed this huge group that had 3 attractive blondes (would say HB8), I could not guess how many they were, but their social dynamic did not look like a date, although there were many more guys than chicks... I supposed they could just be some group of back packers that share the same hostel and came together to party, but it was just a guess. Later in this story the reason I am telling this will be explained.

Gambit got there and we decided change venues. Went to the Empire, it was kind of empty too, but we hang around there just talking while we waited to the place to get full.

After some time I see the same groups of guys and chicks that I have seen on the previous venue arriving at this place, and some of them sit around where we were sitting, including the blond I liked the most. I open one of the guys and found out they are all from the Aurtralian Royal Navy and they are in Sydney for 3 days only doing some training. I crack some jokes, the guy is a little of drunk. I asked how many they were and he told me around 15! Then I asked to him: "Hey, if I get into a fight would you guys cover my back?" He crack up a laugh and promise to protect me. Then I exploited his good mood: "Hey do you consider yourself a Gentleman?" He bites and say yes... And I say: "then you should introduce me your friends!" pointing to my favorite blond. He actually introduce us, I try to start a conversations but without success, Gambit tries too, but without success as well. Whatever, lets move on.

We bounce to another venue and the vibe is good but looks like there is to much celebrities there for our small game and it is still a little empty!!!

Bounce again to another venue, and it is too loud to approach anyone, besides that, the people over there is kind of strange.

We decided to go back to the Empire, and agree that to force us to approach. We will challenge each other, in turns to see if we can get over the approach anxiety. For our surprise when we get there it seems like all the girls left the place or went to the toilete... The guys hugely outnumber the chicks. We hang around, I see the buddy from the navy again and try to talk to him, after all, there is other chicks that he did not introduce me. He hugs me, because he is even more drunk and suddenly I felt like I was in some Village People video clip. After the hug he told me they were leaving and say good bye. Meanwhile Gambit is trying to find a set to open, but the women head count is still low.

I propose him that I will find some set to open and he should join me afterwards to do the mid-game. I walked around, got a glass of water and saw these 2 chicks (HB 7 and 8), that don't look like locals. I just sit around them, pretending I did not care that they are there, and try to come up with something to open them. I really don't like to use canned material to open, because this kind of stuff simply don't sound right when it comes out of my mouth. I usually try to use situational stuff... Out of blue the most bizarre and providential event happened. I weird looking guy sits in front of me and start starring at me. I check around to be sure it was with me and get the confirmation that it was the case. I assume he is gay and is trying to approach me... I stand up, sit by the side of the two chicks I was trying to open and say: "Do you see that guy over there (pointing to the weirdo over my shoulder) I think he is gay and he is trying to approach me! Can you tell me when he is gone and it is safe for me to look that way again? " Then I manage to crack some joke on the subject and introduced myself! They told me they were from Sweden and would be in the city for just tree days, because they are on a 2 month trip around the world. Wow, I think, swedish gilrs!!! That was my doom, because my AFC kicked in and I was not able to do anything right anymore. I told them jokes they laugh (actually one of the girls was so quiet that I have to make a joke saying that she was freaking me out with that face), then they offer me to sit in between then to be able to talk to both. At this point Gambit join us and I salute him, but I was not able to include him in the conversation... Don't know why. Poor eye contact, poor kino escalation, 10 minutes into this and I am becoming bff with them, luckly Gambit propose we change venues, I said good bye to them and we left.

We go to a bar that is not very nice and after a round we decide to go check out the celebrity place we have been before. On our way out we see the swedish girls getting in and I just say: "Are you following me?", The more talkative one answers: "yes". we leave anyway and we never see them again.

On this last venue we decide to call the night off. Actually after Gambit left I changed my mind and went into the World bar again. There I spot a set of three girls, one of with I would say was HB8.5 blond. She is using a very uncommon high hills shoe, and I thought I could use that as a opener, but she is so drunk that I could not find a way to talk with her that would not be weird. While I am standing there waiting for her attention to allow me to comment on her shoe, this HB6, kind of chubby girl, pass by me, checking me out... The HB6 sits in this sofa, cross her legs "Sharon Stone Style", turns them so that I can see and starts putting on her lipstick. "Me not stupid", easy kill, she was crying: "come and open me, I need some cock!". But I could not decide if and easy kill like that was worth my standards to go lower. I have promised myself never go for anything bellow HB7, and try to keep on 8 and above... I really went into analysis paralysis, thinking if it was better to stick to my standards or just seize the opportunity... While I was thinking about this the Blond HB8 that I was interested at first was in the dance floor grinding this EMO guy, and the easy kill pass by me stomping her feet on the ground as if to say "idiot you lost you window of opportunity".

That was enough for me. I called the night off. On my way home a whore offer me her services... I say, thanks but no thanks. Have a good night!

Summary: I stayed away from the dancing floor, and tried standard situational openings. I am still suffering from lack of confidence, and approach anxiety. Besides even after a successful approach my mid-game is non-existent. But I will keep trying to address my approach anxiety before concern myself with my mid-game.

Tomorrow I am meeting Gambit and Deeper to go sarge again!

Cheers!


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