Hello, so here's the thing, I know I am attractive, every now and then I get hit on by attractive girls, I'm tall, I've been told I was "model-cute". I work with little kids (I'm a coach), I don't know why the hell I can't just ignore comments from little kids who comment on my looks, sometimes they comment on my nose or whatever, kids are just too upfront and rude with you sometimes for no reason and without knowing it, and even though I know my nose is perfectly fine, it stays on my mind for the whole day. How do I ignore comments from these kids, since I KNOW that they almost always are sincere about what they say, so I think "oh it must be true" coming from kids who are just too honest. I've even thought about quitting my job and find some other job with mature people, but I don't want to have to do that because of my self esteem :/. Anyways, I just needed to get that out.

I've been around some kids in my time. Not like your situation as a coach. I personally always try to use humor to deflect anything that's from a kid. A couple strategies I would use are 'turning it against them in a funny way' or 'absurdify'

So if a kid was like 'your nose is big' I would say "I know, it's so I can smell really good. Did you take a shower today' Or 'your nose is really big' then I would say "Isn't it the biggest nose you've ever seen. Like I think I should get an award for having this thing on my face"

Of coarse both things should be said with a smile on your face and a general happy tone. That's how I get through that stuff.

Supernaut,

The reason why you are sensitive to their criticism is because of one or several beliefs you have.

Let me explain:

If somebody starts laughing at you for having two arms, are you gonna feel bad? No, because that's a retarded thing to criticize you about. It's normal to have two arms.

Receiving criticism from somebody can't make you feel self-conscious... unless you give their comment a meaning. And the meaning you give their comments comes from your beliefs.

I can't know for sure without talking to you, but I would assume that you have beliefs similar to "It's bad to look bad" or "I'm not attractive" or "'I'm ugly" or "I'm inadequate" or "I'm weird". And those beliefs are making you feel bad when you receive comments like those. It's worth noting that you can disagree intellectually with a belief you have... and still believe it.

Let me ask you: if you REALLY believed that you are perfectly normal and okay JUST the way you are, no matter what people said, would those kids' comments make you feel bad? No, you'd probably laugh it off.

My advice is: find all of the beliefs that are causing you to feel like this, and then eliminate them. Once you do that, receiving criticism from people will no longer cause you to feel bad.

I know this shit because of personal experience. I took Morty Lefkoe's official course to eliminate beliefs. It works like magic.