I'm in college. I see a hot girl at a party or club or wherever. day or night time.
this is a really hot girl that probably gets hit up 1000 times a day.

does she go for the guy that confidently approaches her but openly shows interest?

or do she go for the guy that is (or acts) indifferent and ignores her, doesn't approach. she live by the "I want what I can't have" theory.

i'm torn because sometimes I feel like I should just go out have fun and not pay attention to girls because they will discard any guy that openly shows interest, since they are approached so much. even if the approach is confident and non outcome seeking.

where is the middle point where too much interest early is too much

FACT:any woman in the world(unless she's desperate)works in the "I want what I can't have" theory.

on the other hand,if you got mad game...she wouldent say shit and play along.

remember,if you're not wiling to lose a girl,you cant have her either.

dude,be awesome

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she will go for the coolest most attractive guy reguardless of the approach,

how ever if you don't approach her she is not very likely to approach you, and there is a big line between expressing intent and sharing feelings, and being needy and supplicating,

a cool guy is cool, a loser is a loser,

be someone you would like to hang out with, if you can live up to that, chances are you can get the girl, don't be an ass kissing loser, but at the same time don't be the ice cold asshole that everyone hates to be around either, find your middle groud and just chill and flirt/escalate

also if she is as attractive as you say it is really unlikely that she gets hit up 1000 times a day as the majority of all guys are giant flaming pussies, and their idea of an approach is the most indirect timid little girl approach ever and on top of that she probably gets her ass kissed heavey and the guys never flirt or even express intent untill weeks to months after meeting the girl and establishing massive comfort before begin expressing any intent or escalating (this is the ticket to the friend zone, via being a pussy), don't fall into this trap, but at the same time don't fall into the creepy sex guy trap either, talking about how you like anal and she would be a great anal partner probably wont go over so well in the first 5 minutes, just sayin

be different from the other guys and be confident and fun to be around

ya its kind of a difficult debate to me. its like well if i approach her then she knows whats up.. but if i dont she wont even know my name or be inclined to approach.

I'm feeling the best approach would be confident approach (self amusing frame + fun) then back out leaving her wanting more. because its college i'll probably end up seeing her again. or if she 100% shows iois i can close. this seem like a fair approach?

She's going to pick the hottest, most socially valuable guy. You can be that guy regardless of your approach. But realize this: A valuable guy goes after what he wants. He doesn't hesitate to say hi, or to make a move. A valuable guy also has other options, he never has to pester a girl for attention. Find a balance there.

Couldn't agree more!! That's where pre-selection and Social proof comes in. I'd suggest you approach and open her.. be cool,cocky and funny then eject, and go open some other hot girl at the party or where ever you are really.. that alone will make you cool in her eyes. I've done that approach it worked most of the time. I open and whether it hooks or not, i eject and go hang with a buddy or an other hotty then later re-engage only to find she's more friendlier and interactive then before. And believe me you can be confident and different lol..

Confidence is key mate!!

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