| heres the thing man, you want good relationships, you have to be yourself from the start, if you have to fake a personality to get the girl, it was not meant to be in the long run (unless you want to be a fake tryhard actor/manipulator for your whole life), further more, you are pursueing young girls, for the most part girls in the 18-24 year old range that are even remotely physically attractive have guys trying to get with them left and right, you have to take into account that most of them want to not be viewed as sluts so they hookup into ''relationships'' but they don't usually last long and cheating is often a factor (they are just like guys they want to just have sex with guys they find attractive), sure some do stay completely monogomous but if you are going for party girls that hookup with guys at parties or go clubbing on the regular and that is where you met her, chances are she is interested in the party scene more then a serious monogomous relationship, if you could go out and get brand new attractive pussy every day you went out with little to no effort would you want to hook up and stay faithful to one girl? when you know you could probably cheat on her and she would still want to take you back cause she needs you anyways?
and you saying you can get almost any girl you want is not shown with your actions and words in your previous posts, your neediness is evident and does not reflect someone who has alot of attractive female options, you should be out slutting about like a man slut and if that is not your thing stop going for the female ying to that yang
you are young, stop taking relationships so seriously at this point, if you want something serious pursue a girl that is either
1)displaying a need for you
or
2)is more mature and experienced
often times girls losing interest is just a lack of action on the guys part in my opinion, they want to get swept off their feet and seduced, and a guy fails to take action cause he is afraid of what the girl will think of him, somehow thinking that being respectful and waiting for the girl to escalate will somehow make the girl like him more, when in reality if the guy would just go for it, the girl would be more likely to sleep with him then if he waited, and if you never go for it girls will just move onto guys that actually take that action, it is not that hard in reality, just takes a bit of courage and some effort with an understanding that some girls will be up for it, some won't, don't be butthurt about the girls that give you a no, just move on and find girls that say yes, when you are hanging out make it happen, or it simply wont happen (or it will but the circumstances will be dependant on external factors and will be more rare then if you made it happen)
further more learning social skills does not mean that just because people find you more likable and you see better responses/recieve more validation, does not mean that everyone that likes you is attracted to you, you can get tons of girls to talk/flirt with you that have no intention of sleeping with you, the only way to find out is to actually try to sleep with them, and some girls no matter how much game you have will simply just not find you attractive and it is not the personality that is lacking for them
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