Hello! I'll start of by thanking everyone on this forum, I've done a lot of research during the last two months to improve my game. This website has helped me a lot, thanks everyone for contributing to help us less experienced!

In the middle of november there was a new, hot girl who came to a weekly event I go to. I got to know from others that she was from a foreign country and doesn't speak my country's native language that well. I happen to know the language spoken in her country so I headed up to her and opened a conversation in the foreign language. As I opened up the conversation I noticed how she lit up by the fact I spoke her native language, the conversation carried on and went fairly well. However, this is where I made my first mistake.

During our first meeting I hadn't really done any research about picking up girls, I just went by natural talent. This hasn't previously gone that well. One mistake I've done is waiting to long and not asking for her number. I did that mistake her as well.
I never asked for her number during that night and thought: "I'll ask next week".

Upon coming home I started to do research and learnt a couple of things.
When the next week came I opened up a conversation. Once again it went fairly well, the conversation was fluid and natural, without any awkward silences. I also noticed several IOIs such as: twirling her hair, leant forward towards me and looked me deeply in my eyes when talking. But I never dared to ask for her number.. The same was repeated during the next week, which was the third time I met her.

One thing I did notice then was that she didn't show as many IOIs anymore, this encouraged me to get the job done so the next week I got her number.

At the point when I had her number Christmas break was not far away, and during the break she would travel home to celebrate Christmas. This combined with the fact that I already had talked to her several times made me skip the texting, I just wanted to meet her before she would leave town. So I called her, we did some chit chat and then I asked her out. She agreed. But on the day of the date I got a text from her saying she was sick and couldn't come, but that she'd love to go some other day.

At this point I was quite sure that this wouldn't be going anywhere, but I decided to give her once last chance just in case she would have been genuinely sick. I called her back a couple of days later but she hit the deny button. I decided to move on.

After the Christmas break the weekly event continued and I went to it as usual. I saw her there but I did not talk to her.
During the following week she liked one of my status updates. I was kind of surprise because she hasn't done any form of contact since her flaking me, but didn't think much about it. I've met a lot of new people during the last two months and her flaking me doesn't bother me at all anymore.
This week I was at the event as usual, and she was there as well. As last week, I did not make any contact with her. But here comes the intersting part. When I was leaving I walked past her, as I passed she said bye to me in a kind of desperate tone. Confused and surprised I managed to reply but I continued walking and left.

I've been thinking of the situtation and I've come to a conclusion. I think she for some reason regrets flaking me. Here's my theory:

1. Flakes me
2. Regrets her decision and hopes that I will talk to her after the break
3. I do not talk to her
4. She tries to show her interest by liking my status
5. I do not approach her so she desperately says bye

But as I said, I've moved on, know a lot of new people and do not have any feelings for her anymore. However, I don't want to miss a potential opportunity, so I'm thinking of how to approach this. I do not want to push this forward, she'll have to chase me. If it turns out that my theory is wrong, that she isn't interested in me, opening a conversation would be weird and she'd think I'm a idiot who doesn't understand that she flaked me.

So here are my questions: How do I put her in a chasing position? How should I act around her? Do you think I should greet her the next time I meet her? What would you do in my scenario?


Big thanks in advance!

girls hate being ignored! You did the right move by moving on and not worrying about her anymore. Look at where it's brought you now. Girls hate not getting there way and especially not getting what they want.

In my opinion i would just play it cool like you have been. Don't initiate the conversations, have her do it to you. Since you said that you've moved on, don't worry about her and if she comes to you and starts talking to you again, then more power to ya!

It was her loss that she dropped you so fast, and now nothing can stop you. Make sure at the frequent meetings that you start talking to other women. This will demonstrate higher value and make her more jealous and keep on coming back for more. She has your number, she can text you too if she wants to talk to you so bad...

Act confident around her, make her regret not being around that energy that you now possess. It's called the "game" for a reason, and you my friend are just following the rules.

Good luck!

So how did the story end... did you end up hooking up with this girl or not?

I always (never intentionally -- I am busy) take my time and sometimes dont respond to girls, and if you're a cool dude

THEY ALWAYS COME BACK

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Big thanks for the tips and interest! I appreciate it a lot

During the event a week ago she was there. I enjoyed the time and talked with a lot of people of both genders, but once again, I did not approach her. I noticed her glancing at me multiple times, on one of these occasions I decided to pull the 5 lies game on the girl I was talking to. She fell for the trick as expected and she playfully hit me on the arm. I'm quite sure the girl who flaked me noticed this, but she did not approach me.

I've learned a lot during the past months. I'm far from mastering the game, but I feel I want to share a tip which has helped me A LOT to progress to my current stage: stop worrying about what girls think of you.
This is hard. I know. But I personally have been amazed about how important this is. Before I began my journey towards being a pick up master my conversations with women often were dull and constrained. My biggest challenge has been to overcome approach anxiety and the constant worry about what the girl thinks of you.
I have no intentions to progress with the girl I pulled the 5 question game on, and I've never had (because of a numerous number of reasons). That fact has made me relaxed and allowed me to be cocky and funny. The results have been great and this has boosted my courage a lot around other women as well.