I've been seeing this girl for around 8 months now, we aren't exclusive and she hasnt brough the dating talk up yet. I personally like her and could see myself dating her, we get along great, and are very homogamous.

What do you guys suggest i do for valentines day for her?

Should i get her flowers? Chocolates? Go to dinner? Or do nothing

Well since the two of you are not together I wouldn't do anything for her. You would be rewarding her for absolutely nothing. Then your life will be all downhill from there. She will try to beta-ize you and you will end up buying her gifts and taking her out more than you want to.

But if you really want to do something then you should take her out to eat at some fancy restaurant like McDonald's or something.

Should i call her or text her anything

and what if she calls me out and says "so were are you taking me tonight?"

I wouldn't take her anywhere because she isn't your girlfriend. You have been dating her for eight months. Why aren't the two of you together?

she got out of a 2.5 year relationship; her and i jumped right into things. We both didnt think it would last this long, we thought it was a fling but we liked each other and got along too well.

I guess she's still not over him or wants to keep her options open because the last time she was single she was 18 and now shes 21.

What should i do in regards to texting/calling her on valentines day and what do you suggest i say

Not knowing the real ins and outs of the relationship, I'd say maybe do something subtle and inexpensive. Leave her a flower on her windshield with maybe short note accompanying it or something like that, if it seems appropriate.

She wants to keep her options open?? If that's the case then I wouldn't get her anything for V-day and I would start looking for another girl. NEVER be an option to a woman. SMH

Yes I know i've lost my PUA ways and i got too comfortable with her and am now an AFC again..its disgusting.

Regardless, if/when she calls me out or asks what im doing with her for Valentines day, what should i say?

There are obvious problems here with your relationship, fling, thing, that you have going on. You know you are wrong. You know you deserve better. You know that her making you wait 8 months is bullshit. I stick to what I said about not doing a single thing for her. In fact, I would find another girl that is deserving of you taking her out. She is keeping you at arm's reach. She doesn't want to commit, but she wants to keep you around yada yada yada. You spoiling her on any level would only make the beta-ization process that much worse. PLUS she wants options....

I completely agree with you and thats what im going to do

Talk to he first, make things clear between the two of you about the relationship that you have whatever it is. Ask her what she wants and tell her what you want. Dont Assume about things, that's one of the big problem of every relationships.

_________________
Read this Blog http://www.myadultdatingblog.com

After 8 months there would be nothing to assume. EIGHT MONTHS! Yeah I would talk to her. I would tell her that I want more and if she doesn't give it to you then you need to bounce. You are already waiting for her. How much more beta-ized are you going to have to be before you realize that she is making you wait. You said it yourself, she wants to keep her options open, no amount of talking or any of that would make me want to stay. You are AN OPTION not THE OPTION.