For those of you who have read my other posts about my amazing perfect girl friend who got drunk and shagged some random guy that "just happened"

I've found this really hard, like most people would. And just the fact that she was such a nice girl who I had regular sex with but that week didn't because I had work to do... you know... makes me really wonder what I did wrong or how I could have prevented it.

Went out a few times this week looking around, and I am just thinking... do all girls cheat? One of my good friends has slept with 50+ girls and a few of them had boyfriends, iv even been with some girl who was amazing who had a boyfriend who nobody would have suspected that sshe would have ever done such a thing.

When I was out this week, chatting to a friends girl friend and I told her about how my girl friend cheated on me (i was drunk) and i was saying how much it has affected me and told her she better never do anything like that, and her tone of voice changed, and her eyes started getting really heavy with tears, although she did not cry it looked like she had guilt inside her.

I never said anything else after that, but im pretty sure she has. I now feel as though I could never cheat on someone. Before I didn't think I could at all. Now definitely not.

What are you thoughts on this?

Once a cheater always a cheater? (one that im a believer of)
and...?
been cheated on, never cheats?

I don't know if anyone's found a pattern, but it seems as though in today's society a lot of people think it's ok to cheat. -_-. Maybe it just comes with experience... but with so much promiscuity etc.. being publicised compared to say the 1940's. To get that girl who doesn't cheat, does she need to have been fucked and chucked around a bit to have that concrete foundation to her?

Whoa dude that sux, sorry to hear that. How long were you with this girl?

I know for a fact girls here in NZ are the most promiscuous in the world. They think it is ok to keep up with the guys.

I don't know what its like to be cheated on, but with the amount of distractions and idle gossip, I can easily see how it happens as people choose not to work on relationships and go for instant gratification.

I know that many woman, especially the ones at bars and clubs, or girls in certain industries like hospitality and marketing seem to be easy even when they are in relationships.

I can say I know many guys who have slept with girls that have boyfriends or husbands. It's rife. Maybe change where you meet these girls, and also make sure you give them amazing orgasims.

I don't really know what else to say, but keep pushing forward mate.

I'm sorry to hear that you are hurting, but never blame yourself for what happened. The worst mistake you can make right now is wracking your brains trying to figure out where you went wrong. Don't.

Not all females cheat. Being completely honest, finding a human being who doesn't cheat is tough in today's society. Sex is too easy to find, people are too willing to add drama to their personal lives. It's everywhere. Facebook, clubs, bars, etc. Sometimes I'm embarrassed to be female. My friends act terrible when they're out. I can't say I've always been on my best behavior but I never cheated. I guess it has a lot to do with maturity/self esteem levels? I'm not sure. When ever the conversation comes up, they always say they "don't know why" they cheated on their man.

On the other hand, you admit to sleeping with women who have partners. Doesn't this add to the problem? Why would you knowingly help someone cheat? Can it be considered "cheating" when you help someone cheat? Your question is too broad to be answered completely without adding in factors like these.

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Most people think that there is only a small amount of girls that would cheat on their boyfriends. A tons of friends of mine who have girlfriends would be ready to bet hundreds of dollars that their girlfriend would never cheat on them­. So I would normally think like them...

But,

but... I go out in the clubs every weekends, and I'm the kind of guy that will talk to a ton of people.

The funny thing is that I never see any girls that I know cheat on their boyfriends... They know I'm there, so they won't cheat... But I always see random girls who cheat on their boyfriend. As a matter of fact, I've been with a couple of girls who had boyfriend (They never told me about it, but I could always find out because of facebook). Let's take yesturday for example, I had a date with a girl who had a boyfriend (She's the one who invited me) but I ended up not showing up, went to a club and got a girl who ALSO had a boyfriend.


I think that MOST girls WOULD cheat on their boyfriends. It's just a matter of logistics! If she drank (Perfect excuse), with who ( Depending on the guy, if he's got good game or whatever... I don't think that most 16 years old girls wouldn't cheat on their boyfriend if Justin Bieber wanted to have sex with them), if they know anyone that could potentially tell their boyfriends and a couple of other things...

Anyways, I'm tired so I could probably edit this later! Ask me if you want any clarifications or whatever!

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

i've gotta ask this as it is playing on my mind so much.

before she cheated on me that night i went and saw her before she went out. She loved it that i surprised her and i rubbed my aftershave on her. Could this have subconsciousnessly made her horny and feel excited?

Any ideas? I know i shouldnt keep worrying about why it happened, but my bad game, and I find it hard that someone so nice could go out, get drunk, lose her keys and camera that night and then end up shagging some guy ruining something so good.

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Law of Attraction

If you are speaking about women not girls then no, the majority don't cheat. If you are talking about 19 year old party girls then yes, majority does.

I'm 25. With life experience I see women mature and make better choices. But at the same time I have seen my buddies bang married women. I honestly think if a women is happy in a relationship and she has a soul, she won't cheat.

I think it just depends on the person. But seriously don't get that shit stuck in your head. It will just make you either a women hater or a jealous insecure guy.

I think one of the worst things is...

I go out, and expect to bump into this guy who shagged my ex gf. It's like he's got one over me, and everywhere I go I'm constantly looking around...

is that just extreme me being fucked up?

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Law of Attraction

PUA Advice-Don't be affected

Human Advice - Man what you are feeling is natural. You were hurt, decieved and disrespected. It's gonna sting for a while but all feeling fade eventually. Try to meet a rebound or step away for a bit. Whatever will help you heal.

Its fifty fifty, I've never cheated.

Yes it is you become fucked up. But that is oke, it is a natural reaction. Try to get your shit together by doing stuff you like, meeting new people ect.. so your core (own) value gets back to what it used to be.

I think every girl has the potential to cheat..

It's gonna depend on:
how happy she is in her relationship
how much she fears losing her BF if he finds out
how are her morals
how high is the attraction she feels for potential cheater.

As someone already said, any 16 yrs would cheat her bf with justin bieber.. I always say these.. that any woman would cheat her husband/BF with Brad Pitt..

That's why Mistery says that you shouldn't take ur GF to night clubs, cause you risk losing her right in front of you..


As an example, I've been 9 months into a relationship with a girl that used to cheat all her previous BFs..
But I was the one who kept her attracted during the relationship, so she didn't cheated on me (yeah, I'm pretty sure about this)..

No not all girls cheat. Many of them do, but many of them don't. It depends on the girl: her maturity, her experiences, her values etc.

For example my ex cheated on me a few times. I only found out after we had broken up but she fucked me around whilst telling me on the other hand that she was completely happy and had never had better sex. She had cheated in past relationships but i ignored that. It turns out she was just a liar, untrustworthy and thoughtless. I personally now have huge trust issues, i will not trust anyone completely. You can not let a new partner see this but it pays to have your eyes open.

I now have a new girlfriend, we are doing long distance, we are happy, we have amazing sex when we are together. we were close friends for along time before we hooked up so i know her well. However, the fact of the matter is either of us COULD cheat at any time. I KNOW i will not and i BELIEVE she will not. That is all any of us can ever know and it is unrealistic to think anything else.

I now believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. I also believe that no, not everyone will cheat. I also know that you can only ever trust the other person and that goes as much for a marriage as a girlfriend of 3 months. It takes a brave man to trust, you just need to analyse the girl in question and decide if you can or not. And if you get it wrong, her loss - break up with her immediately.

guys cheat, girls cheat, not everybody cheats, but I say, go out, live life, fuck around, get married when you are in your 40s, if your monogamous, just trust your partner, even if they do cheat, if you don't find out about it, who cares, and most people that get cheated on, don't find out about it, and if you do, just dump her and find a new girl, no harm no foul, if you have a kid with a chick, no matter who she is, get the baby tested to make sure it is yours

no point in stressing over something that is outside of your control, but yeah, lots of girls cheat, and lots of guys cheat and I find girls are far far far more discreet about it usually

In my experience the girls who are pretty openly sexual tend to cheat or get very curious if your sex game isnt strong. There are also plenty of "good girls" who wont cheat out there as well

you sir have nailed it! way too many girls here in nz that are willing to settle for cheap thrills. i have a bit of a theory on this however, - the younger the girl , the higher the probability of her cheating. im saying this because i have been the cheater or the guy that some girl cheated on with and its enough for me to say that if you are an incomplete man ( low self esteem, no direction of life, act like a Beta ) then you are more likely to get cheated on. just my 2 cents