I have been talking with this cute girl I met on POF pretty much every day for 6 weeks. It was winter break at our college and we were both hours apart so we couldn't meet earlier. We've texted most days and recently started talking a lot on the phone. Sometimes up to an hour at a time. We both feel very comfortable with each other and so far her interest level has been high. She called me super cute when she was drunk and her friends facebooked me before she did. Anyway the thing is, she doesn't like to eat in front of guys she has just met. I've busted her balls on this multiple times (as a weird/funny issue). So we ended up meeting each other for the first time last night.
Basically we drove for a while, went to a mountain top and talked and had a lot of fun. I didn't get to do any routines since 80-90% of our date was me driving but we talked a lot and I was mostly myself. I got her to laugh a lot though and teased her a lot. We teased each other a lot about assessing each other and if we both passed ect and when she asked if I thought she passed I kissed her. Just a light kiss. She didn't seem that offended but I did a lot of kino and it was only when I was dropping her off she wanted to give me a hug and said she has only been in one other relationship and likes to go slow. She's also a virgin by the way which was surprising because she was telling me how she made out with random guys while being drunk downtown ect. I thought she was as experienced as I was.
She asked me a lot of personal questions and all that too. So she said she wants me to text her and continue seeing me but she likes to start off slow. So I guess I sorta screwed up? In the past I never made the move and kissed and this time I did and I screwed up doing that. I feel your damned if you don't kiss her and damned if you do. We were making a lot of eye contact though and the moment just felt right. Guess it's hard to tell. I felt if I hadn't have made the move I would have risked being friend zoned.
However.. right when I got home afterwards she started texting me and starting a conversation just how the night went and she wished it could have been longer ect and that lasted an hour. I eventually ended the conversation/left her hanging and went to sleep. She still wants me to come downtown with her tomorrow night with some other guy friends of hers that are in town. So I agreed but I honestly am just not seeing this going anywhere. She claims to want to start "slow" but honestly I feel like I'm friend zoned even though the night went relatively well until she didn't reciprocate any of my kino.
Today being Friday, I was busy most of the day but now it's night and I have nothing to do so I invited her to come with me to grab a bite or get a quick drink (since she wants to get to know me more) and maybe run some routines on her that I didn't get to do last night. However she said "I would have invited you over to my place but there's nothing to do here" after I texted her "I'd invite you out to eat right now if you were not so afraid of food
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So I don't know, I'm starting to think I"m just wasting my time. She's a good quality girl but I don't know if her intention of going "really slow" means being friends for a while.. you know? As of now we plan on going downtown and maybe some alcohol will help but I made the moves, she shows IOI's and constantly text's me but I don't know where to take this. I'm starting to give her short responses and IOD's because I honestly am losing interest. Her unwilingness to physically escalate is losing me. She won't even grab my hand or playfully hit me or simple stuff like that.
If I decide to go downtown with her and her friends tomorrow, how should I act with her? I figure I should act friendly but disinterested and maybe try and flirt with other girls.
What do pua's do if they are strung along in this scenario?
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