Hiya everyone, I'm newish to this, been reading the forum for a while, read mystery method, feel like it needs another read to fully 'get' it.

So I broke up with a girl recently, started something up on POF. I met a girl, we got off to a good start a couple of days ago, bit of back and forth, but i'm finding it difficult to put into practice controlling the frame and understanding the nature of qualifiers.

Anyway summary is, she started a new job blah blah blah, we were back and forth all day every 30 minutes or so till around 10, following day nothing as she just started her new job, i went out training and didn't respond till late...last messages were
It was late and i didn't put much thought into the message, do you guys think i screwed it up here? SHe's logged on since but not replied. I should probably give it more time. I'm just trying to see where i went wrong or if i'm on the right track. Can anyone lend a helping hand or throw me a few pointers?

Appreciate your help guys

I don't think you've screwed anything up here. The best way to go about online dating is to make sure that you have a good time. Don't do anything that isn't fun. Calling the girl pinky is playful, even if she doesn't entirely get it. The line about the fancy establishments is fine. I don't even think it comes across as cocky, much less arrogant.

The bruised wrist thing is kind of weird, since it kind of suggests that you were put in handcuffs, but I imagine it will pique her interest. We'll see.

The only thing I would say here is that you're just sort of spinning your wheels. You should be trying to escalate every step along the way. This how was your day/where do you hang out/ how do you like Grenwich loop is not going to help you get the girl. It will build up more comfort, but it won't apply once you meet in person. You've already exchanged a lot of emails, its time to take it to the next level.

At this point, tell her (nicely) that you're fed up with typing back and forth and that you would like to speak on the phone. You're (hopefully) in this game to meet women, not to get penpals.

Good luck!

JPow

jpow, thanks for replying.

You're right. she did reply in the end, but only with some thing about 'did you get my last message'. Whether thats true or not i don't know.. I replied and probably continued spinning the wheel as you put it. Next stop, i'll jump for the number i think as i think i've got rapport now and the fact she emailed back is an IOI i guess. I was just concerned it had only been 1 day of messaging and only 2 messages the following 2 days, didn't want to push it.

I'll update this topic as i go, hopefully the mystery method kicks in if/when i meet her! Thank you again for responding, really appreciate the help.

p.s. bruised wrists comes from me mentioning i do juijitsu... i left it open though to see what she might say..

Good! And good luck getting the girl's number!

I've met around 80 women online. I'll tell you this much: you can't tell very much about a person's personality until you meet them. Online dating allows you to get an idea of what the person's interests are and a little about their backgrounds, but that's about it. I've gone out with girls who couldn't make eye contact, couldn't have a conversation, were narcoleptic, had hygiene issues and similar problems that eliminated them from contention right away. Its not very economical to spend a long time going back and forth with any one girl.

Real life game is about triggering attraction mechanisms, and you can apply Mystery's stuff here. The difference is that comfort-building is only necessary to the extent that you need the girl to feel comfortable enough to give you her number. This requires much less work if you ask early on. There's also a portion of the girls online who are not actually interested in meeting anyone. Asking early will help to weed them out.