I am in a relationship with a girl who is very held back. She won't give much to me physically as she is religious and believes all of that physical stuff should happen when they fall in love... I am going to be best friends with my hand for a while I know, I Have tried everything. The seduction ladder, slowly making things more intimate, she stops me before I can get my hand past her thong. Opinions?

Anyways, the point of this, three weeks in, I have become that "good guy", the "gentleman"... I'm great with her friends, I'm great with her, they all know I'm a good guy, that card has ran its course I think.

At the beginning she was texting a lot, she was really interested in me, i never responded straight away, I Had her... I gave away my feeling very early on, because I wanted to, because I began to really like her for who she is. Now she doenst text as much, now she is a bit more distant. When im with her its good, she doenst say much, I do... Im the one with the cute words. But she doesn't give me much. She says she can't say sweet things, it's true... she tries a lot, she even texted me saying she spoke to her friend about it and tried to send me a cute text..

The other day I texted her something really sweet, something I would never say, because she doesnt, and when I sent it I was like, fuck man its been three weeks...

I want her attention again, its been three weeks. I dont want to ruin the relationship, I just want her to like she was before, the interested part

I really like this girl, i fucked up by telling her my feelings to early on

You are coming on too strong. You're basically doing all the sweet talking and she's done nothing to earn it.

The other problem is that without building up intimacy, you're going to have a really hard time getting her to invest further now.

You're probably boring her and being needy. Time to back off a bit and let her chase after you again. That said, probably no great loss if you lose her, unless you're really enjoying the whole hand thing.

I feel like she is a good girlfriend. She doenst need to be ignored, and if I ignore her to get her to come towards me I would be playing games. She just texted me goodmorning babe xox

I am wondering whether I should reply or maybe there is no need to even ignore her...

Is it okay for a man to ignore his gf to get her interested, keen, eager? Does it work or backfire?

Don't ignore her, just back off a bit. If your not being so "Cute" She's going to wonder why you have all of the sudden stopped. She will start to feel like your pulling away slowly, and if she really does care for you, she will ask if anything is wrong.. you just say "No, nothings wrong (Smile)". Be there, but don't be to much.. Show her a good time by doing things with her.. But wait for her to give you the love. If you're in a 3 week relationship and she doesn't try to hug, hold or kiss you.. Idk what kinda relationship your in. You'll get her to crack, just takes time, DW.

~Goodluck

I don't think it's too late to save this. You are just investing way to much, much more than she does. Bit of an AFC syndrome.

She has all the control in this relationship now, she is contolling you especially by witholding sex.

I would just freeze her out for a few days, but don't make it seem that you are igonoring her on purpose. Just be busy with other stuff.

With girls like her it is extremely beneficital to sleep with her early on. It's crucial because she will than think that you are special. I like this exaple: for girls who's had many sexual partners having sex is no big deal. Just like selling one cheesburger for McDonald's is no big deal either. It won't change too much.
But it's the complete opposite case here! Having sex with her is a huge thing for her, so start working on it. She will put a great vaule on you just beacuse of that, beacuse that will make you very special for her. Read more about LMR.

Stop acting like a nice guy. Imagine how a real bad guy could rock her world. He would just come in, sweep her off her feet, fuck her and leave her wanting more. Get out of her frame, don't play along with her religious background either.

Having sex with this girl should be your no1 priority from now on. Of course it is not the most important thing on the long run, but it's definitely the most important next step.

Also freeze her out a bit.

Remember, no girl will leave you if you don't love her, but they certanly will for loving them too much.

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Well you definitely made the mistake of coming on too strong, but you already know that. You should hold off on the "i really like you" talks for now. She knows how you feel, no need to keep on. If she sent you a text like that, which is something that you wanted, you should give her some positive reinforcement. I'm sure she would have been waiting to see your reaction to it. Don't be all afc about it, but text her back to let her know you appreciate it, etc. She will do more of this behavior. Also, keep in mind that a lot of women will pull back their emotions at some point in a relationship, for many reasons. She may just be taking time to see if she feels the same way. Don't play mind games with her if she is doing nothing wrong! She's texting you in the morning, she may be re-attaching herself to you. Who knows, but you have to give it time. Play it cool, think James Bond 007. Just chill. Now about the sex part, you have to discern for yourself if that is something that you want to have to deal with. There are girls out there that will give up the cat on the first date. So it's important that you know what you are getting into. If you decide she is still what you want then you need to keep that sexual pressure there.

I like the advice you gave me. I agree with the last part (the quote about loving a girl too much she will leave)...

Guys you have to understand, she is my girlfriend. I am dating her, i would feel bad if I freeze out...

Also freezing her out, how would that bring up the excitement

Girls need to feel the whole range of emotions, that's exciting. Everyone's agreed here that you are coming on too strong, so you have no other option but backing off a bit.

Also have sex with this girl ASAP as I explained earlier. It helps if she drinks

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Wayne Gretzky

One more thing, you also wanna show her that you are desired by other women as well. But don't make it obvious, like making her jealous or something.

Just get a few female friends to post on your facebook wall, like you statuses, photos, etc. Receiving one or two text messages while you spend time with her will also make her wonder who you got those messages from. Also, be friendly with every girl you have around. This way you DHV.

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"You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take."
Wayne Gretzky

i have done what you said, has worked amazingly and I have her in the bag emotionally. now seriously, how to have sex with a girl who when I get near her bottom she hits me away and says she wants to do it only if she is in love

This is teh biggest task with a girl i have gone through

Well of course. She is going to make you work for that ass.

Save a dying relationship.

This is specifically referring to those relationships where the “spark” has decayed because your girlfriend is getting bored of the same jokes you use every fucking week. It’s better to be admit to yourself that your relationship is going downhill than rationalize your position and wait till she leaves you for someone else to do something about it. This is not necessarily the “best” way, nor the only way, but the easiest way. It’s a three-step process.


1. Be less available. Go no contact, ignore texts more often, call her less, disappear randomly sometimes, and turn off your phone for two days. If the patriarchal dynamic required to maintain a successful relationship becomes disturbed, the man must regain power by forcing himself to become the person who cares less. If you want to keep a girl, you must not be afraid to lose her. If you push for more attention when she is trying to get space from you – you will only push her further away from you.


2. Make some type of drastic improvement to your self and make sure she notices. Start going to the gym for 3 hours a day, suddenly throw out all your clothes and dress MUCH better than before, or get a promotion at work. The form of improvement is irrelevant as long as it accomplishes these three goals: It must make her wonder WHY you are working so hard (why is he suddenly going to the gym?), it must make her more attracted to you (wow he looks a lot better), and it must give you more confidence (oh shit, I do look better). But do NOT make it look like you are trying to impress her/


3. Make another girl like you. It’s not evil, people WANT to be seduced. Your intention is to create a breeding ground for emotional fluctuations in your girlfriend, especially ones that increase attraction and sexual anxiety.
***You must retain plausible deniability in whatever way you choose to do #3. It cannot be “obvious” that you’re using jealousy to delineate attraction.