Hello all, glad I had the time to be online for a while.

Anyway, here's the problem: I just met a girl a week ago (Friday). I saw her applying for a job at our office, I just sat beside her and then the first time I saw her, I advise her what to do to pass the interview (since that was her first time applying for a work).

Well, there are times in our lives that we fail during our first encounter on doing things. Hence, she failed the application. I talked to her a little bit about what she should do next time and advise her to apply again after a month or look for another one in her case. I needed to get back to my work so I bid her adieu and then asked for her number so that we can talk to each other again.

So I got her number, I texted her about things and we talked to each other all night. Then the 2nd day of phone game came, when she called me Sunday night, note: it was a call.

She asked me if we can meet at the office on Monday because she wants my notes regarding our job as a Technical Support for an ADSL network, and as for my case, I agreed.

So we met Monday at around 1 pm and I gave her my notebook. After that, I was about to go inside the office because I was in the middle of my work and to my surprise she opened her arms wildly and she hugged me. I took this as a hug for a friend-zoned guy but nevertheless, I hugged her back.

My colleagues and I took our lunch at 4pm, I received a text message from her asking if it's already our lunch break or not. I said yes then she asked where I was, I replied that I was at the playground and then she just said that she's coming to see me.

The next thing happened was that we were with my friends and there were kinos, tons of it, like holding hands, punching and elbowing. I think she normally punches/elbows people in a friendly manner whenever they make jokes so I think that's normal. But only the two of us made kinos the most (i.e. holding hands, for that matter) so that made me assume other things.


Question:

am I friend zoned, being flaked or what? I am totally confused, WHAT KIND OF SORCERY IS THIS?!

Yet again, sorry for my grammatical mishaps. English is not my native language and I am too tired as I type this topic so I don't have much time proof-reading and editing it. Thanks much.

Well she isn't disgusted at the thought of holding hands with you, so that's a good sign. Can you remember if she played with your hand at all? If she did that's a clear sign she's interested. Mutual hand caressing is a very boyfriend/girlfriend activity, and if she's doing it, she's imagining what it's like to be your girlfriend.

Next time you're interacting with her, be in the mindset that she wants you bad, and you are not in the friendzone at all. Keep up the kino, don't talk about her problems, and ask her out.

Flaking is when you have plans to go out with someone, but at the last minute they cancel on you. That didn't occur here so no she didn't flake on you.

I am by no means an authority when it comes to pick up but I am pretty sure she likes you but if you wanna move it in another direction you really need to stop just acting like an AFC because if your as uncomfortable around her as you sound in this message than I am sure she can tell.

One thing I tell myself is that women are evil: they see you as a door mat there gonna step on you, that is what a door mat is for right?

What I advise:

This is just what I would do, I am sure some master PUA might be able to better help but I would take control of things, man up, you don't need what she got. Now don't flip mental state over night after reading the advice here because then the game is up but to get her, be prepared to lose her because if she don't like not having control over you, then throw the deuces!

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Thank you for the advise. And that's the point, I don't want to act like too needy or a good-for-nothing AFC that's why I want to clarify what I should do next. What about stop texting her until she text me first, would that be plausible?

Oh, and about the holding hands thingy, well we played with each other's hand but just once since we just met once.