Hi

So I have this problem.
I saw a girl for 3 weeks and we kissed, fucked etc. Slept my place, slept her place. Have toothbrush at each place. She is 20 and im 28. Then suddenly I felt something was wrong and ask if she just wanted to be friends with me. She said yes, because I had more feelings for her than she had for me. I told her I’m not sure if I could be here friend but I would think about it.

So I thought a bit and went into her next day to talk a little about it, we ended up by agreeing to be friends but not fuck friends cause then she would get to many feelings for me.? What the hell?
Anyway I was laying on the couch and ask about a necklace she promised to make me but she haven’t ordered the materials, 1 minute later she is looking for the stuff on the internet and when we had to pay she pulled out here card to start paying but I said that I would pay and she said I could always give here the money. Then later she ask If I want to sleep there or go home and I said sure I just sleep here I have a long way to drive and I’m tired.
Then I freeze here out for a few days until she text that she now has the stuff for the necklace, then just some small talk after that. I tried texting a little with here this Saturday when we were out drinking different places and I ask If I should sleep at here, but she said the following “not today, my girlfriend is staying here” if I recall correct she was having a girls night and one of here really good girlfriends have over 100 kilometers home from town so I find this reliable. I just wrote okay

How to solve the problem?:

Time too freezeout to get here interest back to me? Or any other advice? Was thinking about writing today something about “hey, feeling okay after the drinking yesterday? Just got this awesome movie about a treasure iland…:) to try and invite here to an indirect movie time with me today/night? What you think?
I must say that here first boyfriend ever left here in early December and she was crushed and not ready for relationship now, as I was. I probably moving too fast forward but she showed a lot of interest so I thought wtf.

Hoping for some help and that others can learn something from this!

I would push back, game other girls and this girl won't be able to resist those 'feelings' she's having, show her you're not just going to fall in the friendzone, back of a little theres something she's unsure about. Wait till she comes back with something a little more positive, dont reward her negative behaviour

Anyone else has another input on this ?;)

Another victim of freeze outs, why don't you people read my posts on this?....
Freezing out a girl thats not totally in love with you = FAILURE
your taking a girl that kind of likes you and saying "i dont want to see you for at least a week" - shes not going to take that well

My input is do anything but sit there A.K.A. freezing her out. Obviously freezing hasn't worked on her in the past, only a idiot does one thing, fails, and does it again the same way expecting a different result.

she seems really experienced in simple PUA tactics; rejecting the FB offer so she doesn't get attached to you - sounds like shes trying to let you down easy, first no sex, then just friends, then not seeing you, and little texting; you either need to do something extreme and make a fool of yourself, or move on

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Did I give any sort of timescale? In my experience I get a txt through in a couple of days asking 'you ok?' or some other attention seeking txt, when I get the text, I call her straight back so I know she will answer, and I'll get a date or sometimes I won't go for the date, just build enough rapport so the next time you phone you know shes going to answer.

Charblade.
Actually after my post I been reading on this forum for a few hours about your comments about freezing out.

Anyway here is were we are at now. I wrote if she wanted to see that movie, got no answer so called her 3 hours later exspecting here not to pick up the phone but she did! I tryed aranging something tomorrow/tuesday and she said "yeah I think I can this day but Im not sure" I just told here that she should let me know tommorow cause It was the only day this week I could make it and she said "sure I will" then just some small talk back and forward about last night out.


Now I have't heard anything from here yet, mayby I wont here anything and mayby she will write last minute when Im gonna pick here up at the station or something.

If she write last minute or call shall I tell her I arrange something else since I dide't here from here ? and if i dose't here from here tommorow were the movie time was half planned what is my next move? Ive been too needy over this girl were she were needy in the beginning when we startet seeing. I wanna go from AFC>aplha with this girl, is that possible to turn around? Which exstreme things could I do ?

ANy help is very much appresiatet! sorry for long post:/

PS.She is 20, dont think she read pua tactics, she had only one boyfriend and probaly no sex since him than me! I would rate this girl a HB7

What he just said.

I had a similar experience with a girl in the summer. We started out extremely affectionate, fucked etc.. but during a conversation it came up that a friend of hers she was living with knew she and I were "friends" only. Long story short I allowed myself to get strung along and eventually no sex, hardly any affection and yes, she'd start being a aloof and flaking more.

Save yourself the heartbreak, move on, forget her, there are so many girls out there who'd want to give you their time. Fuck this bitch she's not worth it hurting your ego over. The shit's toxic like cancer.

Update.

Got this msg today.

Hey sweety:) have to cancel our apointment today had forgot another apointment I had

Any advice what too doo ? have't answered her but I dont wanna be a little girl and not write back , cause that would look like Im mad or something ?

'too bad for you' 'your missing out' 'ok, your loss' any of these are fine

Or shit, dont' respond at all. If she's not coming it's not like you need to call her to decide when you're leaving and shit. AND GAME OTHER GIRLS, FOR FUCK'S SAKE.

Amen Brother!!!

Same boat man.. same boat.

New girls can be flakey man!! Thats why you have to have more possibilities so the numbers turn themselves around, what you are looking at here is oneitis, what I get roped into is texting TOO MUCH. Too many of these girls build comfort over SMS, thinking its better...but the best way is face to face interaction, just weed out the flakey ones

Dosen that sound a bit childish? dont misunderstand me I apressiate your time and effort put into this thread

Still have't answered now 6 hours ago I got the text.

What you mean when you say "decide when you'er leaving and shit"

Have't responded, so mayby she is thinking why I have't ? how do I arrange another day too watch the movie from here or shuld I just forget it now?