| Approach Anxiety prances upon everyone's mind, its a poison that we have acquired over time and now it's stuck in us until we cure ourselves. So to list a few steps to get rid of Approach Anxiety...
1) You're eventually going to die, I am very sure you have heard this one before, but honestly think about your future, you're going to look back at all of this and laugh, thinking you should have taken that step, I think its much worse going home and not approaching a girl who you wanted. It's a bad situation, so just approach.
2) One of the biggest thing's (these numbers aren't listed in importance) is getting into a good attitude before you enter the club/bar/store/mall/coffee shop wherever your going. It's easily for me the biggest thing and it's even mentioned in "The Game" by Neil Strauss, to me this is a very crucial step, I jam the music with my wing, we cock our heads back and forth, and as the girls drive by us, we get a laugh and even a number sometimes. Getting ourselves into a good mood before we head in with our head's held high and a smile that is genuine, welcoming, and comforting will put the mood upon those who notice you. It is also much easier to approach as your in such a good mood. Remember, what you project is the mood tune for how others perceive you. You're having fun and sticking out then it's much easier to get that attention.
3) Another big step beyond all of that is simply to clear your mind. For some this is easy for others its a bit tougher. When you see a girl, there's a three second rule, courtesy of Mystery in "The Game" by Neil Strauss, he describes the three second rule approach is so that you don't keep starring at them and come off as creepy or weird. Which is the basis of it, but there is another good reason, and that is to just go for it, don't think about it, just DO it!
My perception of it is basically just like a roller coaster. You are extremely fucking nervous to hop on that roller coaster at first, maybe even regretting it while your initially on it, but as you begin the ride and it goes around and you feel the fun of it, you love it, and you don't regret it, yet you wish you did it more. Approach Anxiety reminds me of a roller coaster for that very reason, the initial anxiety on the roller coaster is the girl, but just take that risk, just for it, you will not regret it in the end. So what if the girl rejects you? Is that going to hurt your reputation or outlook to anyone else? Nope. Every single person in this whole entire world has to get comfortable with rejection occasionally, whether it be job's, education, or girls. We have been programmed to hate girl rejection the most, when its not even as IMPORTANT as a job or education rejection, or much of anything else for that matter. She turns her back to you and ignores you, she tells you not interested, or she does any other rejection to you, just say fuck her and immediately scout for other girls, there's plenty of fish in the sea.
Your looks is not the thing that is going to mainly turn girls heads, its your output, its how you act, hold yourself high, think your alpha male, be cool, smile and laugh, communicate with the guys around, once your warmed up bam bam bam bam... You got the girls lookin at you thinkin "That guy is fun looking, Interesting looking, blah blah" they will begin talking amongst themselves, maybe give you the eye for IOI. Hey eye and IOI get it? Lame joke, anyways, how you act when you enter is one of the biggest things I think, so I hope steps 1,2, and 3 assist.
Hope that helps your approach anxiety, sure has helped mine, it's how I look at it... Good luck.
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