I was dating this girl for about 5 months it was all going well, one night she went out to this party and her old school friend was there who she hadnt seen for about 3 years.

she told me that they were drinking shots together all night and catching up, then she and her housemate invited him back to her flat to carry on drinking, she said they both just passed out in her bed at about 5 in the morning. she asked me to come round the next day because she had such a bad hangover and wanted me there. we had sex that night aswell even though he was in her bed the previous night!!!

so what do you guys think? why would she tell me about all this and if she did cheat on me why would she invite me round the next day and have sex with me? we're not going out anymore she said i was too nice and immature even though i treated her really good, got her flowers, presents etc. all her other bfs cheated on her and treated her bad but she would always take them back:S

so i guess i just got played right? i need to get some game and stop being a too nice to these girls i think!!!

In order:

1. She tells you because you were dating and she was honest with you

2. She fucked you because you were dating and she enjoys sex

3. You didn't get played, you are a paranoid jerk. See, this is the thing about "nice guys:" very few of them are truly nice. You tried to buy her affection with gifts, how is that any different from offering a woman a hundred bucks to blow you? It isn't, it demeans the woman and turns her into a hooker. Plus, it's clear you were only nice to receive something in return. Finally, you have no goddamn clue if her exes all treated her badly, you're just still upset because you have a massive ego. She rejected you for other guys, THEREFORE ALL OTHER GUYS MUST BE EVIL

Well i dont think she was honest with me cus she said they just passed out on in her bed cus they were so drunk and doesnt like people sleeping on the sofa etc. which i just dont belive something definately happend. ok she sleep with me the next day cus she loves sex which she does but why was she so adamant on me coming round more than usual and she was all over me that night she just couldnt keep her hands of me kissing me like she was in love with me or something?

And i do know her bf's treated her bad cus not only did she tell me but her best mate did aswell and she had to cancel her facebook cus girls would always message her saying they saw her bf out with another girl. her best mate said she would always take them back but they would just cheat on her again and treat her bad. she even said im just not used to guys being nice to me. and she always goes on about how disgracefull guys are for cheating and that she has never done it and never will but she goes and does that to me? i am abit bitter about it cus i got emotially involved with this girl and tried my best to treat her right but she treats me like shit in return!!

where have i gone wrong for a girl to cheat on me then dump me? maybe i was just to needy and got to paranoid. she was my first gf so i was a fish out of water really. never gonna let that happen to me again, no way!!

From my experience if you believe a girl is cheating, then it doesn't even matter if she is or isn't (though she probably is). That idea is already stuck in your head. I suggest you let her go before you catch an STD or much worse, oneitis.

She told you about all of that because she knew you would be a pussy and not get upset about it... And you still went over to her house after she just let some other guy sleep in her bed.. Are you fucking kidding me dude? lol

Its over dude, yes she cheated.. Get over it and move on with your life. This is not the girl you wanna be with.

You got played.. Yes, Tell youself one million times. Get it in your head and move on.

When girls are cheating they get really aggressive about having sex with their boyfriends because its they're way of trying to wash away there wrongs.

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Totally agree.. Especially about the part about being aggressive after cheating.. From personal experience, if I do anything wrong like whatever it is , I act differently around the person if they are involved. I become a jerk and in this way i try to reason my mistakes.. I don't know if this makes sense, as i don't know how to explain it. Good luck

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She cheated and she had sex with you right away because she felt guilty.
Honestly, do you think after a night of partying and drinking, that they would sleep in the same bed and not fuck? You know her, and you have doubts. I'm saying women get extremely vulnerable and make bad impulsive decisions after drinking and partying. Between the drunkenness, and the emotional high of partying, they are extremely turned on and are much more likely to have sex. That's why they have clubs in the first place. Sometimes its not about trust. Women are emotional creatures, given the right scenario they all will cheat. A good woman is smart enough not to put herself in those scenarios because she knows what the outcome will be.

You will never know for sure unless she comes clean and she probably won’t. Dammit we need to bring back the old school James bond bitch slap sometimes.

But it’s not worth the time or effort..although it’s easier said than done sometimes, we must all learn to move on.

Although they may act like they are more reserved sometimes, a woman’s urges are not any different than a man in matters of sex. What would you be thinking if you brought a girl home after a night of drinking?? I mean who does that unless they need some privacy? And passing out in bed??? Really?? You really think the guy didn’t try anything, wouldn’t you?? And if they wound up in bed…you really think she didn’t let him? In my experience I’ve noticed that a woman’s bed is sacred to them, it means something. And her telling you? Hey I did that before when I cheated a long time ago on this girl I cared little for..simply saying I met an old friend and we went out innocently for a beer and I ended up kinda wasted haha ha ha ahem. But the friend was a date i ended up fucking, this was my intent all along. I told the other one about the meeting (not about the sex) just so I had something kinda true to tell her so that if questioned it would be easier for me not to screw up my story…also..the sex after…yep I agree…guilt sex. Try to remember if she was dismissive and trying to change the subject when she told you about her night with her “friend”...her body language as well.

She had no business bringing a guy back to her place period, I mean what the hell. A woman would not want you to bring another woman to your place so it’s certainly true the other way around. This is a form of disrespect, the way she did it anyways.

What I sense is that yeah you probably are the easy push over that tries too hard to be liked, this is a form of pussification that we can all fall victim too if we are not careful. There are far worst things to be my friend so don’t beat yourself up too much. Nowadays we are all at risk of being cheated on because people don’t have much discipline and respect but far more egocentrism…when we want, we take and there are less and less boundaries. We can’t be everything so if a woman needs something we are not giving her well she might look elsewhere to get it regardless of what it may cause. So learn to keep a tight ship, be an old school man not a “girlfriend” like that effeminate Timberlake. To quote Jim Wendler: we should all “Move north of Vag and never ever go back”.

Well i guess i just wasnt giving her exactly what she wanted so she has gone elsewhere, i mean our sex life was good she gave me so many compliments, well endowed, hot body etc, maybe she was just abit of a slut i dont know. she is bisexual and said she is constantly horny, she even has a stash of porn films and dildos for when shes on her own so shes very sexual person.


im just pissed of with myself for letting her disrespect me and insult me, then not do aything about it and just let her get away with it. the funny thing about that night when i came round after the other guy was there, while we were having sex the bed broke!!! the side panel that connects the two legs snapped, so either im just an animal in bed or it was weakened from the night before while she was probably shagging that guy?


do you reckon shes prob been of with other guys aswell? even though she always goes on about what a disgrace guys are for cheating and that she would never do it, we even made a promise to each other one night that we wouldnt chat up any one while we were together, i guess she broke that lol!! i cant let girls do this to me cus its embarrising and crushes my ego, what the fuck do i need to do to gain some respect from these girls?

She most likely cheated.


You think you treated her nicely, but she didn't want that. You probably did, but that is boring. You bored her to death. Girls would rather be with a man that physically abuses them than with a nice guy who is actually vindictive underneath it all. She probably just slept with one guy, and it doesn't matter if she slept with more. Cheating is cheating. Move on.

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EVERYBODY IS CAPABLE of making mistakes in that scenario. To claim women are more likely than men, or to make it seem as though girls do this all the time because they are "emotional creatures" is comical.

That's the thing about pickup, it's a lot harder to do when you hate women or think they are lesser beings.

well how do i treat a girl without boring her to death? what do you mean i was vindictive underneath it all? i am actually quite rebellious and mischevious but i didnt show that side to her cus she was actually very mature and sensible!! guess i wanted her to like me too much and worried what she thought of me.

If they feel like they can screw around and you'll stick around, then they will, and they will drop you. That's boring. Believe it or not, they like being on eggshells. But if they put YOU on eggshells, you're swimming up shits creek with no paddle. Girls do not want flowers and presents.


Let me tell you 2 brief stories.

My first girl, I was nice to her, I did everything like a gentlemen, but I was insecure about losing her and so guess what happened? I lost her. I moaned about it for a while, everyone does, but its over and I'm glad.

The girl I'm seeing now, I'm not so nice. I don't jump up to do shit for her. She respects that. I don't telegraph feelings. She is a cold hearted bitch who mentally dominates her ex's who still contact her. I respect her for that, as psycho as it is, because she knows how to play. The last guy she was with laid out roses and candles, and she literally got up and walked away. Its not the gifts or romance.


Why did I tell you that?

Because in both stories, the nice dude gets shitted on, but its alot better when you're the spectator.

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There's 1 reason why this thread cannot end well. It'll leave the OP, and possibly other posters and even just readers, paranoid about their next relationship. You guys are going on about how women are almost guaranteed to cheat if given the opportunity. Now, next time a girl the OP's dating says she's going to a party back home he'll freak out like a jealous psycho because everybody's telling him that girls are fragile, irrational creatures who will always make the poor decision when presented with a difficult choice.

Seriously, end the hate.

Not really, but if you're at the point where she's passing out with some guy in her own bed, its time to be serious. Maybe he was just gaming her in her own bed, telling her that she must be so lucky to have the best BF ever, some kino over a couple drinks, bringing down that ASD, then nailing it. Isn't that what 90% of this forum is about? Put yourself in the other dude's shoes. They don't always make poor decisions, but you can't tell me there is no pattern when it comes to this. It wasn't her poor choice, there were a bunch of poor choices leading to this. She should have never invited the dude back to her place, and it should have been in her mind that it wasn't a good idea, but what is a bad idea if you never get punished? Or if you don't value your relationship enough to stay out of that situation? Its textbook.

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