In my elder topic I mentioned that I had a good but crappy life as my life is pretty womenless. I have watched the PUA show and am reading The Game right now.
Most of my problems with women start with the wellknown approach anxiety.
Well, I got rid of it I think.

Yesterday I was in a club with a good friend of mine as a wing, he also knows this forum and had the same problems aswell. In the meantime he knows a plenty of girls and doesn't have to worry about his virginity anymore.

Anyway, my goal that night was to at least approach one girl. it's something I have never done before in my whole life appart from my former oneitis. this was someone new. the thought alone gave me wet hands while on my trip to Rotterdam.

As I and my wing were observing the dance hall from the atrium's balconie, I noticed a good looking girl dancing all by herself, This is very rare as I remember Mistery saying "pretty girls are very unlikely to be found alone"
I told my wing she was standing there, and my wing said, "well, If I were you, I would take this chance"

normaly I would overthink this situation, but this time I thought the 3 second rule could come in handy. without thinking I walked downstairs, onto the dance floor towards here. during the walk I felt no anxiety or whatshowever, I was like "Fuck it"

I acted like I would walk past her but as my eyes looked at her and I saw her noticing me, I did 1 step back and said to her "how come that a girl like you is dancing there all by herself?"
She said her friends were actualy a few meters away from her.
The conversation didn't last long, as I quickly ran out of things to say (that will be the next thing I'll be working on)
When I said "I thought it would be a nice Idea to accompany you" I knew it wasn't very great. and I got a response from her "well that's not neccesairy"
After she said that, a guy out of nowhere comes up and said she didn't needed my attention.

I could make a fuss about it, but I thought that this situation would go nowhere anyway so I ejected.

While walking back, I did had this awesome feeling that's still active at this very moment. why? well, I approached without anxiety, and got rejected without caring.
really, there was no flying fuck that I could give about it. I got this in my head:
There are billions of girls around the world, I'll probably never even meet 1% of them. besides, a game is all about dying and pressing "reload" or "continue" right?

So that simple it is, just DO IT indeed!

A little later that evening I was sitting outside with my wing and while we were discussing about giving a fire to people who had a sigarette could reduce my anxiety, I noticed on that very moment a lighter between my feet on the floor, completely full. without thinking, I grabbed it, and started to walk past people giving them fires. It didn't lead to conversation though, but again, no anxiety or whatsowever as I just did it without thinking and OVERTHINKING.


Next step: a playfull conversation.

does anyone have any good tips for me to follow? I did notice the openers topic, I'm gonna check it out.

you don't get rid of it after one approach.

You need to rewire yourself, that takes time. If you really approach every day and work hard at it, you can do it in a month

hey mate props on your first approach, next time try stay in the set longer.
But what the guy said above me is right, you dont lose AA after one approach of getting rejected.
even for me i get blown out like 10-20 times a day, i still have some sort of AA but when i do get rejected i just laugh it off.
Its like a muscle, the more times u get rejected the stronger your inner game woukd be trust me, once u get rejected like 100-200 times rejection is nothing mate.
But for now you should keep hitting up the sets, remember to smile when you approach
hope this helps

Thanks for the replies!
I agree with you both, I remember Mistery saying in the PUA show "even the best pickup artists among us have AA, they just know how to handle it"

I'll definetly try out some more approaches the next time I'll go out, and use some better openers. If it goes like last time I think I will be fine.
Luckely I do have a good idea when to eject so I don't stand there like a freak after a girl rejected me.

This night has proven me the effect of the 3 second rule, I'll do my best keeping at it.

Great, just do not say "a girl like you" - you give way too much credit for her.