Ptown, thanks for the vote of confidence! We are certainly having some success, but we have a looong way to go. I have a better starting place than many who pursue PU because I’m a bit of a natural (and I’m a few years older than your average beginner). I don’t really suffer from AA and I’m socially calibrated. My biggest issue has always been that I ended up in these relationships that I really didn’t want to be in. I realize that I wasn’t really getting hung up on the gal; I was getting hung up on wanting her to want me. Does that make sense? I know now that options (and confidence in my ability to create them) is the answer. I have a completely different outlook when I have a list of hotties to text when I’m feeling the urge to merge than when I have only one.
The other area I want to progress in is being a good…no, great wing. I’m lucky to have LeDuke (who is making blazing progress). We really do count each other’s success as important as our own. I’ve seen enough fellas step on each other’s toes to know how truly rare that is.
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Rasta, I’m not trying to be a dick but you could’ve PMed that. We’re trying to keep this journal on track with only discussion pertaining to our progress or FR’s. For the sake of clarity and readability, please leave personal messages like that off our journal. Thanks.
Now on to the full FR on
Opening…and closing…Kee. A SNL to remember
As LeDuke covered, we were having a bust of a night. I opened the mixed 2 set with a cute black girl, who was really my style. I used a great relationship based opinion opener and they hooked immediately. I found out that they were not a couple. I went right into a funny DHV story that sets the frame that I’m promiscuous, non-egotistical and non-judgmental. I disarmed the male pretty quickly and we were high fiving like old friends. I used body language (rocking out) to draw her closer until she just took an empty seat next to me.
I lock her in by telling her I love her scarf and we should switch. I love the scarf lock in! I ask LeDuke to take a picture of us and use that as a compliance test and a chance to ramp up the kino. I put my arm around her waist and pulled her into me. She responded by putting her arm around me and rubbing my back! We stalled by reviewing the pic and decided to take a better one. I held her to me the entire time.
At that point LeDuke encouraged me to escalate the kino. Good advice, wing! I moved her chair closer to mine and made sure our legs were touching (and rubbing) every time we were both seated.
Someone gave her a bag of chips. She offered LeDuke and me some. I took a single chip out of the bag and held eye contact with her as I gently fed it to her. From then on, I would occasionally feed her a chip…sometimes when she was in mid-sentence, talking to her friends!
Enter wannabe AMOG#1.
She spots this guy coming over and says
Her: Oh great; this guy is totally obsessed with me
Me: Yeah? Oh good. He looks like a nice guy and handsome too. Why don’t you give him a shot?
Her, grinning: Shut the fuck up.
He comes over and starts hitting on her right away. I turn my upper body away and start responding to some text messages, ignoring the both of them. She kept kinoing me though, by rubbing my leg. He eventually noticed this and got sore. He was either trying to impress her or intimidate me, because he started telling a story about how he had just roughed some dude up outside. She wasn’t impressed. She just turned away and started talking to her other friends. That’s when he raised his fist to show me his busted knuckle.
Him: See what dumb mother fuckers who come to this bar make me do
Me: Wow. Well, sometimes shit happens. You gonna be okay?
Him, mean mugging me: Yeah, I’ll be okay. I’m going to leave now before I get mad.
Okay. Being nice wasn’t disarming him. I had to send a subtle message that my patience had limits and I wasn’t intimidated by his busted knuckle and big talk. I leaned closer to him, looked him in the eye and said, quietly enough that Kee didn’t hear:
"
That’s probably a good fucking idea."
I stayed calm, with a blank expression and just held his eye contact until he wandered off.
Somewhere around that time, LeDuke's cute ass target came in. Let me tell you, at first her bitch shield seemed strong but LeDuke lowered it with smooth game. He ran a great set. I see soooo much improvement since we started going out together back in Nov!
Enter wannabe AMOG#2
A little later she told me that another one of her admirers is approaching. He comes up, drunk as fuck, and starts in on her. He’s asking her to give him a chance to fuck her. Really. This time, I disengage from her completely. I rock out of the set and again started checking and sending text messages. She politely refuses him and comes to me, sitting close and rubbing my leg.
Him: Hey man, I’m just trying too…
Me: No sweat, player. Do what you do. I ain’t mad at ya.
He laughes, gives me five, and wanders off. She smiles so big at me and says
Her: I don’t know what to think about you, Hank
Me: Be on the safe side…assume the worst
Her: You totally need to take me out sometime
Me: Oh I do, do I?
Her: Yeah, you need take me on a date.
Me: Oh, see we have a problem there. I don’t really do that.
Her: Do what?
Me: The whole dinner and movie date thing. That’s a little outdated, don’t you think? What, are we in junior high?
Her: haha, oh I agree. I’d rather just stay in and cook dinner and watch a movie or some shit.
Me: Now that’s a date I can commit to. Here, take my number.
She does and texts me immediately so I have hers. Notice how she switched to match my frame?
We have fun conversation for the rest of the night. I use a little push pull, but mostly just basic charm. Come to find out, we have a lot of similar interests. This chick is cool as fuck and I’m finding her more attractive by the minute.
Closing time. I notice LeDuke get the number of his target and tell her good bye. I hand him my car keys (I drove) and tell him to warm up my car. Kee tries to give my scarf back, but I tell her to hold it for a minute. I asked her where she’s parked and she says out back. So I say, “
Well, let me walk you to your car. We’ll switch scarves there.” At the car, I tell her I’ll have my scarf back but I just use it to pull her closer to me. I hold eye contact and say “
Give me a kiss” as I move in to kiss her. She playfully pulls back and teases me, but I maintain by gently pulling her close and going in for the kiss every time she pulls away. Finally, she gives in and we make out like teenagers against her car for several minutes. I slap her ass one good time before I say goodbye and walk away.
As I’m driving LeDuke back to his car, bragging about the kiss close, my phone rings. It’s Kee. She says it’s a shame I have to go back to LeDuke’s place when I could’ve just come home with her. I explain that I’m just dropping him at his car and I can be at her place directly after. She gives me direction.
Once at her place, it was on. This gal gave me NO LMR! What a change from my recent close with K. We were naked, hard at it, within an hour of me walking in her door. Holy hell; her body is super sexy. Big, firm, natural tits and an ass like…well…a black girl. The sex was great; uncommonly filthy for a first time together. There was dirty talk, the best head I’ve had in ages, name calling and a facial involved. I didn’t leave her place until late the next afternoon…and I spent the night with her again last night!
I didn’t use any real routines on her but, by reading the report, you can see that I used several PU techniques. I can honestly say that before discovering PU, I would not have talked to this girl, much less gotten a SNL!
To echo LeDuke, the moral of the story is; open, open, open. The next set may be the one that turns your night around!