Hey there, I want to get into the game. Not only to attract and meet the most beautiful women but also to boost my confidence (which at times is almost non existent) and to break free from my shyness, social anxieties, and low self-esteem. My family and current friends have not given me means to be social, I can't keep a conversation going, I cannot approach sets, and i can't start a decent conversation. I want to be this likeable guy that people want to be around, I want to give out the impression that I am fun and friendly. I'm a good looking 19 year old guy and I barely got my first girlriend, but my life is boring and uninteresting and I want to show values. I need serious confidence and self-esteem not only for myself but around others as well. I don't want to become a PUA solely for women and not to cheat on my gf, but to have that kind of confidence around women and people in general. Also, I want to be a Dj but how can i be a DJ if I'm afraid of people? Where do I start?

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Hey man!

Seems like you're really beating yourself up over this. Stop it. First step.
The more you overthink all this the more it's going to bring you down, and that lowers your value to other people.

My advice to you to start building up good people skills is to join a few clubs or societies. I know it sounds silly, like you're off to playdates, but at least you'll be in an environment which breeds thought and interaction between people.

Next time you're out, (walking down the street or sitting on the bus), catch a few girls eyes as they walk past. Don't feel unwanted if they don't notice you when you notice them though, most women can see you coming from a mile away, tricksy arent they?

In regards to you being afraid of people, well, be afraid! They're real bloody scary. You could be a great guy yourself but you and I both know the world is full of tools. Don't go changing who you are man, but if you're set on getting your confidence up, its going to happen! Each chance you get at a party (I assume you're in the US so I didnt say bar or club), try and just throw a couple of "Heya how are you's" around. You don't need to be starting anything deep here, but it gets you into the habit of meeting and greeting, and will wear away those nerves.

If none of this is useful, say so! We can have a good old bit of banter about it and maybe come up with some new stuff. Take care though man. Welcome to the forums.

Cheers,
Nick

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Hey Mr. Nick.

Thanks for your advice man. Those are really good ideas and I really do plan on putting them into effect. Also, I know I can stop beating myself up everyday but it;s difficult when I made it my lifestyle. These forums are full of great advice and I honestly think I can get the change that I want. I already started to write down all my problems on paper and I'm trying to over come those problems.

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