| Hi! This is a long post, but it's really hard sometimes keeping it short. I hope you read and help me.
I'm back again! Last time I had a thread here the advice helped so much that I was able to get a girlfriend (that is now my ex) and I hope such good advice will come up again.
So basicly there's this girl in my school and during these past two months I've started to get to know her.
I've been gaming and trying my best and I've gotten better with my inner game and outer game.
She's my bros bestfriend and that's how I met her and we all go to the same school.
But during these two months she has had me so confused. Sometimes I feel like it's going great and things are flowing. Kino is good, talking is casual and stuff but then the next day it might be completely different. She won't even say hello to me when she's walking by.
What I've figured out and heard from my bro is that she is really insecure about herself. I've heard that she had a rough time in school when she was younger and got bullied and such stuff.
I'll try to make this as short as possible and tell you about the "big" things that have happened in these two months so far.
I was with my bro, and she came over. And we slept over as well. During this night I made many good moves. Good kino, good natural talking and I demonstrated al lot of value.
I regret one thing though. I feel now when I think back that I triend to flick the "preselection" switch a little to much.
It was good night. This was about 1 month in from when I decided I'd start gaming her. I felt that that night wasn't the night to make a move.
Another thing was that we told eachother our first impressions of eachother.
And not only then, but during the night I tried to get the idea into her that she and I didn't really know eachother.
And that was true. But i wanted to enforce it because my bro told me 90 % of her friends were boys and she might take me as one too.
So I wanted her to feel as she didn't know me well enough to call me her friend. Just a cool guy she's talked to sometimes.
However, first impressions. She told me she thought I was a funny guy and she didn't have much else to say because frankly, we didn't know eachother that well.
Sometime during this night she asked me "who is ***"
My ex that I had mentioned a few times before and during the night. But not in a negative way. More like "That reminds me when I ate this dish with my ex girlfriend. It tasted so good balblabl into a improvised routine"
And of course she knew who my ex was. But it felt like she wanted to make sure. Almost like she didn't want competition.
And then 1 week or so later. I met with my bro, and he was with her and we chilled and I sensed some IOI's from her which i've done at other times aswell.
We decided for newyears eve that we would hang. So the next day we did.
With a couple of other people as well. And that night started out bad directly. As soon as I met up with them she barely looked at me. She was looking for her bestfriend (my bro) cause he just disappeared. She was with two of my bros friend as well. They arrived together.
And then on our way to our destination I heard she was gonna kiss a stone because she said she forever alone. Joking of course. But she didn't have anybody to kiss.
I said "ah cmon! You have to kiss a human being, not a stone" and she laughed and said she was gonna kiss a stone. I knew I should say that she should kiss me or something like that, but I needed to build up some courage.
I was more afraid to ask it then to get rejected. When we reach our destination not more than 2 minutes later I say to her.
"Hey, I don't have anybody to kiss aswell. Do you want to kiss me?"
And then her facial expression changed into a face that pierced through my chest and it looked like she really didn't like the idea and she slowly said "..noo"
I embraced the pain throughout my chest, which surprisingly went away not more than 10 seconds after. My answer was just "okay" and a little smile.
Like, no big deal. I later realized how stupid I was for not saying "I didn't say you could, I just asked because it looked like you were thinking about it/thinking about something/felt sorry for you"
Something like that. Mysterys kiss gambit, botched.
However, something interested happened when the time for the kiss came. She was a few feet away from me and when I turned around and caught her eye midways it looked like she regretted it.
That she wanted to get kissed. Of course she did. Everybody else was kissing. But I don't know, maybe i'm just imagining it.
The rest of the night went really well for me with the group. I was kicking ass with my group dynamics game and showing a lot of value, but I barely spoke to her. After getting dissed like that in the first 15 minutes of the night I didn't feel any motivation.
But when I did spoke to her I did it good.
I spoke later with my bro about that face and stuff and he said that he has gotten that face a million times so he knows that feeling. Also, he wanted her to kiss him because he was drunk and everybody kissed eachother lightly on the mouth and cheeks.
But she didn't want to and he was able after some drunken babbling get a peck on the cheek. And he said to me that it took him that much to get a peck on the cheek even though they're best friends. So me asking for the kiss might've been to much for her.
And now lately the IOI's and IOD's from her come so randomly at they take eachother out. After that fail at new years ever I didn't see her for about 2 weeks. I went to another country and chilled in the sun. And then school started when I got back.
Today, when I'm writing this have been a pretty good day. But she is so hard to read. And lately she barely looks me in the eye.
And sometimes she keeps the eyecontact and say hello if it's the first time we see eachother that day. Other times she don't.
I just remember something I told her during new years eve when we were eating and everybody was just talking. We heard that a guy we kind of know was outside and she told me that he looked at her alot.
I asked her why she thought he did that. And she answered with no confidence like "i dont know, because he looks at me?" and i was trying to boost her selfesteem a little and to get her to say what she eventually said which was "because he wants to fuck me?"
That might've been a bad move. But I don't like it at all when I see people with low selfesteem. I try to help them with it.
And this makes me think.
Maybe she is not looking at me because she remember that conversation, and she doesn't want me, the one who gave her the idea that a lot of eyecontact can mean something like that, to see her giving me that interest.
This is a very farfetched thought, but judging from everything that has happened this two months there is a possibility.
Sorry for this really long post, I hope you understood what I was trying to say and have advice for me.
Thank you all!
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