Hello, my name is Erodel and I’m an alcoh… I mean AFC

I live in southeast Wisconsin; I’m in my late 30’s. My wife and I recently decided to go poly, but I was absolutely at meeting women. The last few months, I’ve been reading things like Without Embarrassment and forums like these and have moved up to AFC (yes, I was bad).

So far I’ve been getting most of my results from OKCupid and POF. I’ve had sex with 1 additional girl and would like to keep her long term, but she’s not particularly poly. My ultimate goal is to get good at picking up women, so I can make myself attractive enough to maintain a LTR with an attractive high quality younger woman, maintain my marriage and still have some fun meeting new women. I don’t expect it to happen tomorrow or even this year.

My wife is my first partner, and we’ve been together for about 15 years. We have kids. We’re in a VERY solid relationship. Please feel free to pass along any random advice on how I should proceed differently than other AFC’s do to being married (like do I need to limit sex with my wife to build desire).

Cool, welcome!