Newb here looking for feedback. I think you'll find this entertaining if nothing else. (First is background, if you want to just get to the question, skip to the bolded part below.)

Talked to the 9.5/10 I've been push-pulling for a couple weeks this morning. For an update, I'd gotten a little tired of having to initiate conversation with her and decided to give her a sharp neg/IOD just to stir up the pot.

So this morning, I ran into her on the way into the office (we're both temps). I had my earphones on and she was slightly ahead of me. She sees me, I have a baseball cap on and am looking down at the moment so far as she knows I don't see her. She stops completely and lets me catch up. At which point I look at her then go back to messing with my Ipod.

After about 30 seconds she realizes I have no intention of talking to her (like I said I got a little tired of initiating) so she asks me "what are you listening to?" I just show her the Ipod screen without saying anything.

Then I mention a little bit about how I can't listen to it at work. Then I go to walk in the building...I open the door...she starts to walk in as though I was going to hold it for her and I go ahead and walk in myself as though I was paying her no attention. She stands there looking stupid for a second, then walks in and keeps some distance from me. We go up the elevator together, no talk and I walk in ahead of her paying her no more attention.

Anyway...end of work...we're staying overtime...I'm making small talk with some other people and I bring her into it. She's reluctant at first but she comes back around fairly quickly...and she starts playing a song I asked her about and I go over and listen to it with her.

Anyway...on the way out (she left before me but given my behavior when we came in I don't blame her) I catch up to her at the light...and start talking like a normal guy again...and here's where I pull something interesting.

I tell her..."Hey, this morning...when I was listening to my music I wasn't thinking about the door." She pretends it didn't bother her, but I tell her "Eh, you were mad." and basically I sound like I'm making amends. But I never apologized for blowing her off for my Ipod in the first place.

How do you think a woman reacts to something like that? It's interesting for a guy to seem to be aware enough to apologize for not holding a door, but not for ignoring her for his music. Probably had the effect of a neg. But you guys would know more then me.

I think she genuinely felt ignored. i would have been a little more flirty. if she asked what i was listening to, instead of just showing the screen, maybe give her an ear bud. a little kino then maybe. and at the end of the day, i might have said, hey i hope you didnt think i was ignorin you today. but in all honesty, it was pry not so wise to listen in the first place. you coulda put one ear in and left the other one out to talk.

Agreed. Here is the problem. You are punishing her for behavior you should be rewarding her for.

What if you say "sit", your dog sits, and then you hit him. That ain't gonna work.

If she initiates conversation, that's an indication of her interest in you, and you should reward that with some kino, a smile, a friendly comment, or all of the above. Save the freeze out/ignoring thing for when she's being a bitch or doing something you don't want. Like if she says something to put you down, or doesn't react the way you want to something you said.

Keep at it and tell us how it goes. Good luck.

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Negging generally shouldnt be harsh enough that it ruins a person's self-esteem just meant as a back handed compliment or something that makes throws them off track for a second.

Agreed with the above imo she just felt a bit neglected if thats the right word

Lol snubby, I loved your comparison of women to dogs.
Smile and smug at them when they do something acceptable.
Bitch slap them on the nose when they do something unacceptable.

XD

You guys are right. I just got fed up and frustrated with her for a moment. She's not very good at flirting or showing interest in a guy...

Ironically, I've seen this before. There was another really beautiful girl I dated (watch the R. Kelly video for "Fiesta," she's the girl in the green bikini grinding on him at the end), who had a similar sort of social retardation. She would just say one or two words to me then expect me to carry the interaction for the next 20 minutes. When I wouldn't, she didn't know what to do other then stand there.

Oh well, fortunately with this girl, I figured her out and her interest in me is at an extreme high. I just need to decide what to do with it.