ME: Let me be honest..blah blah blah *explaining my age, location, etc** and I'm looking for an older woman for casual hookups. You can take a look at my profile and if you're interested, lets have a chat!
HB: thanks but no hook ups for me good luck in your search honesty is good


Usually...so far, I've gotten like 5 replies back that led to decent conversation..the rest straight up just don't reply....This lady says thanks, but no thanks....then wishes me good luck and compliments the honesty I show..

Am I wrong to be reading into this? I would think a female would just not reply..Why is she going to respond back, telling me no, if she's not at least somewhat interested?


Any opinions on how I could handle this?

They're somewhat interested: if they weren't, they wouldn't be sending you messages at all. There's one thing about your profile, though, that I think is scaring them off.

I'm trying to sell a car on Craigslist. I'm asking for a few thousand dollars in cash. The other day, some guy sent me an email telling me he was very interested in the car, and asking if he could do monthly payments on it, to which I responded with, "No, I need the cash up front." He replied with, "Can't do it, then."

What happened with my car, and what's happening with your cougars is the same thing. They're interested in your picture, or profile, or whatever, but the fact that you want to just hook up is turning them off, like my not accepting monthly payments turned off my prospective buyer. Women, especially older women aren't incredibly fond of casually hoooking up with people they meet online. If they are, they don't like admiring to it, even to themselves. It makes them feel slutty.

I think you're projecting. If you saw a girl (an attractive, disease-free girl) with an ad for casual hook ups, you'd bet your ass every guy on this side of the Mississippi would be on that like flies on shit because physical attraction and a high probability of sex are all we're really looking for. Women, on the other hand, are looking for intangible things, and definitely won't go out with a guy if they know that all he wants is sex.

To make a long story short, I'd take the part about casual hook ups out of your profile. Women simply aren't turned on by willingness to have sex like men are, and, while hooking up with them might actually be in the cards, they're not going to meet up with someone for that purpose alone.

Just because a girl replies back saying thanks but no thanks doesn't mean she holds any interest. She could be just being nice and reply back. Her being interested from a thank but no thanks is 50/50 at best. You can take a chance of her being interest but don't be surprise if it doesn't go anywhere.

As far as whether they're interested or not goes, a lot of this will depend on who you are messaging. HB 7-10s receive a TON of emails. If they wrote back to everyone they would never leave the computer.

In this sense both Jurupa and Sexual Chocolate are correct. If you received 5/200 emails back, its not enough of a pattern, but if you are finding that a high number are responding to tell you that they aren't interested, they might have otherwise been interested.

Alternatively, if you are much younger than these women, they may just be very flattered and want to let you down politely. Its hard to say, without more info about who you are targeting and knowing more about you.