Hi,

My name is Austin and I'm 18 and I am pretty good looking, well-spoken, funny and friendly. I am trying to be an Alpha Male, ya know the guy who gets all the girls, the money, basically the life every guy wishes he had. There are tons of people I could ask for advice, but I am not friends with them because they're in the popular clique and I'm really shy at introducing my self, especially when AMOGs and women are present. I had a GF for three weeks and she was a 9. I don't know how I managed to pull her, but nonetheless, we never did anything. I maybe got a kiss goodnight once. What I need is advice on boosting my self-esteem, appearance, confidence, game, etc. Any advice is welcome and I am trying to be a popular Alpha male so that when I transfer to either MSU or CMU IN TWO YEARS, I will be able to game all the girls on campus and become a stud, enjoy my two years partying and hooking up with girls, instead of being a loser.
Sincerely,
Austin

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"Women are not the prize, it is you. Put yourself on a pedestal for once."

If there was an easy answer to this, every guy would be outrageously successful, rich and surrounded by beautiful women... so unfortunately there is no trick to it. A few things I have found that helped me;

1. Let go of your ego, you're ego is your worst enemy, that little voice in your head that says "I'll look stupid if I do that", "Don't tell that joke, it might not go down well" these are all based on your perception of the kind of guy you think you are.. This is probably the hardest thing to do but a big ego = insecurity. Doing things that make you happy or that you want to do with no regard of what others might say (be rational with this now) takes balls!

2. Force yourself out of your comfort zone. Confidence is portrayed by what you do and how you act, so act confident... eventually you will become confident. So next time your little pussy voice comes up with some excuse why you shouldn't talk to the girl walking past you, give that pussy voice a firm back hand and talk to her!

3. Value yourself, sounds stupidly cliche but value your opinion, value your time etc. If you do this, you won't feel the need to seek approval and this will show in your interactions. People are attracted to people that don't seek approval and will start seeking your approval!

4. Number 3 can be hard if you have nothing to value yourself on. Make the most of your time; learn new skills, read up on interesting topics, do interesting things, get fit, dress well etc etc. This all seems simple but so many guys sit at home on their x-box for hours only breaking to masturbate or have a slice of pizza and then wonder why they have nothing to say to a girl.

There is a lot more but these have all helped me come a long way. Browse the forums, there is endless information on inner game.

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'Be who you are and say what you feel; because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind'

Letting go of your ego is key. If you have the courage to do as you feel without fear of being judged, you'll have a life worth living. No matter how you come across.

Don't worry about your image or game skills until you have this part down. If you try to please other people before pleasing yourself, you'll be miserable.

I bought this hypnosis cd and book by paul mckenna all about confidence. I even put it on my phone so, I listen to it before bed and when I wake up. Man, life has not been easy. I lost my dad and sister in a accident, I spent a lot of time being pissed off at god, and at girls. One year, I am having dates, day 2s, picking up, and having a sex life. Another year, I wish I wasn't even born or I could take my sister and dad's place. I still feel that. Its not fair. I feel this and I am coming to accept how I feel. The confidence book is helping and I am becoming a much stronger person. I want to be better at this then I ever was.