i recently started talking to a girl i used to go college with and we got along really well.. she has a bf who treats her really badly and never shows her any affection and doesnt even give her a "happy birthday" or a "happy Christmas..."

so we argreed to meet one night and we went to the cinema and it was great.. before i knew it she was holding my hand, like cuddling my arm and kissing my shoulder... she was so happy.. then on the drive home she put her hand between my legs and started rubbing my inner thigh and kissing my arm.. we got back to my place after a really good night we just sat outside my house cuddling and taking she has her hand down the back of my trousers.. then before we left i went to kiss her and he pulled back and said "i cant im sorry i want to but you know i have a bf"..............WHAT THE HELL!!! HELLP! this girl is stunning!!!

This is all based on what I got from what you said. It sounds like she may be seeking the attention that she doesn't receive in her relationship, and you satisfied that need, but at the same time with all the IOIs, regardless of how bad he treats her, she does still have a boyfriend. This can be easily played, keep her around but DO NOT put all of your attention on her. Your single, she's not, you have the ability to play the field, she doesnt. There's no telling without knowing her, or the position she's in, of when or if she will leave him, but as long as you keep playing into this game it can turn south very quickly. Keep her around as a friend. The next night if you guys go out again let the attration build on its own and let her make all the moves. You dont wanna be looked at as the jealous creepy type, that's not how I'm seeing you but if you two are caught flirting that may be thrown on you to keep herself out of trouble. But if she makes all the moves she's in control of the situation and it just kinda happened... Make sense?

cheers buddy yeah i get what your saying this happend before and we went on a date and her bf found out and then we just stopped talking for like 4 months but now all seems to be happening again.. but your right i dont want to be used to get the affections her bf doesnt give her and just that :/ very complex situation.

Happened to me as well a while ago. Got IOI's and all that, i even managed to set a sexual SPAM but i messed up in the end when she mentioned her boyfriend.
In your case(same as mine) she wanted you, sexually that is. The thing she did was a shit test, which you have to respond with a boyfriend destroyer. Something in style with: "You'r boyfriend does not have to know anything". You have to indicate her that it is safe for her to ditch her boyfriend and choose you. The reason she said it was because she felt bad doing this towards her bf, but you have to indicate that it's okay.

Hope it helps.

I'm in a similar situation as you..but a little further down the road.

I've been seeing this girl who has a bf and we've hooked up with each other multiple times. Just a word of warning, do NOT get emotionally attached to this girl. Hang out with her, have fun with her, but don't start catching feelings for her if she's still in a relationship. That's what happened to me. It's a recipe for disaster. Now I'm in an awkward situation where we both said we love each other, but she's still with her boyfriend. Now it makes it so much harder to just walk away.

i've the same situation too.
did she tell you what is the reason that she still hooking up with her bf ?

Should have kissed her at the movie. Should have pulled over as soon as she kissed your arm, held her chin and kissed her. Should have kissed her as soon as you started cuddling.

Instead, you waited for the last second. The mood was gone. Her romantic getaway experience was over, she was ready to go back to reality. You missed your chances bro. (She likes her boyfriend BECAUSE he gives her so little attention. She complains to you about her boyfriend because you give her so much attention.)

Suggest she bring her girl friends out with you guys this weekend. Its sort of a neg or a sign of disinterest.

cheers guys