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its just us and a few locals in which shes knows (they went to h.s. together but were not potential threats..) at the bar. ...
How many times have you been to this bar? How often did you leave her side to use the restroom? Did you meet the friends at all, or did you sit by yourself while she talked to the others?
I agree with everyone here about what you could have done differently. However, I think we're missing a key ingredient that you may have realized yet.
If you were to place yourself in her shoes, what would you look and sound like? Were you alpha or AFC? Did you fit into the environment at that time, or were you out of control peacocking? We have an example in our book where in my early days, I went overboard at a gangster hole in the wall bar. Aside from almost becoming target practice for the local hooligans, I failed because I didn't have the proper look. Once people had cleared out and it was just a few of you left, and now that she had maybe sobered up, I'm curious what she saw.
With local dives like this one, it's not a bad idea to befriend the bartender/owner and tip them well. They know these regulars better than anyone, and can give you insight an entire PUA forum would miss. Use your resources.
Thanks for the reply.
In answering your questions i was definitly the alpha... everyone in the bar new it as well (the bar tender told me i was looking good and that things were going well...i took that as a sign that this girl was super into me... which was obv to me and everyone else...)
Also, i was not overly dressed or not... it was my frist time at the place but she was dressed up... nice shit and skinny jeans... and i had a polo and jeans on... nothing out of the ordinary. So im going to assume that that didnt kill the situation.
The friends were afc imo.... they were all sitting together drinking and just chillin out... no girls around them...not attractive guys.... ect. The one friend of hers did come over and say hi (he memtioned he had a GF and made it obv he was no threat) and he even said that we looked like boyfriend and girlfriend... twice.
so i think i did more then fine... i havnt contacted her in over a week and she hasnt texted me either...
whats the next play? thx.
Duke