I was investing in a girl since sept, she wasn't reciprocating so tonight was the fall out. It was weeks in the making and i have a so be it attitude. I want to fail forward. That means rather then live defeated, i accept i failed but i take the positives out of the experience and use it to be better in the future. I'm finding myself looking to send pof emails to a few woman but i deleted each one because I seem to be talking about what happened with the semi ex that i just let go.
That isn't going to cut it. So i want some help.

The girl i let go i liked, Something about her kinda stuff. Not beautiful and to many people she was just ugly and i got. What the heck is your interest in her. I feel now i can look at her perceivable flaws and just be stronger about letting her go.

So now i want a pretty girl, and i want her to be better by comparison which i think is immature but do i embrace that and fulfill it and conquer or do i swallow it and be mature and non bias. Shrugs. I want to feed my ego and reward myself for being mature in the past about dating a girl who i felt was. Eh in the looks department. Ive done better, i'll do better. But the idea of setting out to do better is unbecoming. Shallow huh.


I want advice on how to move forward. There are a few girls Ive known online just from pof and been superficially emailing them here and there. I now want to ask out but all my writing goes back to talking about the deaded relationship issues that just 5 hours ago were argued to an end. I know thats wrong and not a way to get successful.


Right now there is a Jackie and a jess, last week there was an Ann, a Nicole and a Erika. So Ive had options and it seems the Jackie and jess are giving them selfs to me. Do i take whats coming to me or hustle to out due what i had. Do it forget about what i had and not compare but still forge ahead to honestly fulfill my interests.


Plan 1, Try for better and what i more naturally want.
Plan 2, Take whats being offered to me.

I am not sure what you really mean by "fail forward", or what you are even saying because your grammar is a bit confusing in places. If you are trashing your ex-girlfriend in these messages that is never a good idea initially. You should be referencing that very little, if at all. You say you want to "pay yourself" and you have the right to. Honestly, anyone does. You can be as picky as you want, a wise man once said. It is really all up to you if you want to take what you can get or strive for something else. If you want to get better at your game, try for these girls on POF. Posting some examples of your chat logs where you are getting stuck may be helpful. If you want to just get laid, take what you can get. One will take your farther than the other in the long run. I'll leave that up to you decided which one that is.

Fixed the paragraphs

You can refer to my post for advice and Ill add to it. If you feel guilty about being "shallow", don't. It will only hold you back. You want what you want and there is nothing wrong with that. As far as your conversations coming back to this pseudo-ex of yours, you always have to be thinking about what frame you want to take the conversation to next. If you are noticing a pattern, think about what you can do to steer the conversation away from that issue. Look for common places you get stuck and ask for help if need be.

As for this girl, I think the words of my good friend Marshall Mathers may help you: "But I do know one thing, though. Bitches they come they go. Saturday through Sunday, Monday. Monday through Sunday, yo". That is the attitude you need to keep when it comes to women.

Thanks man. I caught my self before talking about her to other potentials. So I'm in the clear.