Hey guys,

I've just broke up a 9 months relationship, and now and building a single life again.. But I have a basic problem.. I don't have friends here to sarge with me.. the ones I've showed PUA material didn't show the enthusiasm I was expecting.

So, I'm seriously thinking about sarging alone.. but it feels weird to go to night clubs alone..

anyone has been through this before?

We all have it is difficult at first, but you will get over it. Just like you got over your AA you can get over sarging alone.

The truth is life is always easier with a wing, he can help you out in a shit loads of way. But now at least you can work on your craft just you and the girl. Try and go for smaller sets but more than 2. If you open just 2 the other girl is all alone and the most you can do is probably number close (mb k-close if you get to isolate her) only because the other girl is gonna twat block you.

So stay with 3-5 set groups. Charms the crowd, FTC are needed, say I was with my friends over there and I saw you and you guys seemed like fun. I have a table you guys should come. do this too two sets and you will have your own crew.

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-Raphael

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I understand your problem. It is a pity that your friends don't want to be involved in the whole PUA thing.

Sarging alone is really difficult. When I think of getting in my car and drive to a bar to be there completely by myself ... just the thought of it gives me huge AA. BUT, that is way sarging alone is GREAT !!!

First of all, if you continue solo sarging at some moment you don't need anyone around you anymore. This feeling of independancy is great. If you are used to sarging alone, next time when you are with friends and they prefer to go to another bar than the one you like, you can simply leave them and go by yourself to the bar you like. Do you see what a strong frame that is ? You can do what you want without depending on others. That is a real alpha man trait. You don't need anyone. You'll manage on your own.

Secondly, when you are sarging alone you meet more people than when you sarge with friends. If you are alone you will force yourself to speak to others. If you are with friends, you probably will not push yourself that hard. Also, when you are alone people feel less intimidated to approach. In my life I have gone out alone 4 times. In 3 of the 4 times people approached me ... also women.

If you really want to become better at PUA, my advise would be to sarge alone. You will feel very uncomfortable because sarging alone is out of your comfort zone. But as you do it more and more, you will feel more comfortable every time.

Today I went solo sarging for daygame. I have never done solo sarging for daygame. It was really hard for me to speak to anyone. But after 2.5 hours I finally managed to open. With wings I would probably have approached a little bit more. But for my progress I know that what I did today is gonna help me much more. I also loved the fact that I didn't depend on others in how I was going to plan my daygame. I could do daygame where I wanted ... start it when I wanted ... stop it when I wanted ... I could eat or rest when and where I wanted ...

I am not gonna say that solo sarging only has benefits. It took me 2.5 hours to open, which means I was 2.5 hour walking around completely by myself. But it is a small price I am willing to pay in order to get everything handled.

Thaanks guys.

Loved your shared experienced, Lionel..

Actually, I like to spend time alone.. so, sarging alone may be more my thing than to other guys who likes going out with friends.

I think I'll push myself to do that.. maybe first daygame..

And I have another reason to sarge alone.. I'm very picky on the time to go out, and coming back home.. I just can't stand changing the night for the day..

Then, by sarging alone I can go out earlier, so I can get back home before 3am...
that's an option..

I just moved to a new place about a month and a half ago. Since then, I've been sarging alone twice or three times a week.

THE MOST important tip I can give you is to get that first rejection ASAP. Otherwise, you might end up useless for the whole night, like I was a couple of nights ago.

On these words, I'm getting ready for an awesome night!

Happy sarging.

If you can handle going out by yourself, I guarantee you will have some of the best nights of your life. I've only just started doing it but this is what I do.

1. Go out with a clear mind don't think about what your going to do when you get there.
2. Remember the basic principles you need to talk to a girl but don't start thinking of lines, and especially don't base the night on being successful
3. Talk to everyone, but this will come naturally with the vibe you'll give off (don't be anxious).
4. If anyone ever asks "Where are your friends?", Don't say your by yourself I've gotten people say they feel sorry for me. Say "My friends bailed on me" then you'll be brought into the group.
5. Be comfortable whenever your walking by yourself your the fucking man!
6. Getting rejected should empower you, the more girls you talk to the more likely you'll get laid.

Naturally you'll start opening people and people will open you without thinking, you'll be free to move where ever you want and everything should fall into place.

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guys.. I'm loving the tips..

this thread is giving me the motivation to go out by myself..

when I do, i'll sure post a feedback here..

I went out alone last week for the first time. It was hard at the beggining, but i realized i have to do it! Just push yourself! You are free man, you can do it. Just have that attitude. I did well, flirted with 4 girls, one was hitting on me, but i didnt close the deal. Anyway, its good to go out alone.

How about replying "I don't have friends, I only have horny lovers"

All the sarging I do is alone. I'm not very good at it, due to old age and inexperience, but I'm learning, and writing my experiences into my blog at: http://geekymicky1.blogspot.com

Nope I wouldn't say that, I would just somewhat dodge the question and say. I have a table over there, why dont you come and meet some friends of mine, then neg them slightly. I can trust you to not be weird and scare them away cant I?

Do this to two sets and now you have a group of friends

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-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

Read the adventures I take as I discover my way towards becoming a mPUA or a dPUA (decent PUA) including completing the StyleChallenge ---> raphaels-journel-vt119594.html

Unless you actually have a table and some friends I wouldn't never say that. A lie will always have to be covered up with a bigger lie and women can smell bullshit.

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i have done it, sorry but I disagree. I actually went into a bar, went to a seated set, made friends with them told them I am going to amke more friends and will be back, then met another large set of 4-5 I dont remember I think 3 girls and two guys or 1 guy w.e point is I brought them over and made a table of 10 people then more people came to us and yea...

So disagree with you... It was a bar though not a club maybe thats the difference.

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-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

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I remember my first times going out by myself ... I didn't even walk in any clubs and just walked around downtown, till I decided to go home.

The next time I made a lists of goals to boost my state and momentum. The lists was to talk to anyone on the bus ride there, to talk to the cashier when I buy gum, to talk to people in line, to talk to bouncers and bartenders .... Simple conversations like how are you, how was your day, or even asking fake directions to places I know the directions to from random strangers ... by the time I was in the club I was in social mode and was able to easily talk and approach sets. The reason to have simple small goals is to provide your brain evidence that it is okay to approach strangers ... and your brain will only see the upside to things when you accomplish these small goals and your brain will allow to access that charismatic personality of yours.

Now I do this preliminary warm ups and I can get into state very easily every time I go out!

Basically, I do simple small tasks/goals to provide my brain proofs that it is okay to approach strangers. I do small goals to be accomplished so that my brain only sees the positive up side to things. Resulting with a more social charismatic personality in the venue!

Hope that helped,

Sincerley,

Donston

People are afraid of going out alone. I was too, but i pushed myself and it was great. If you dont do things that you are afraid off, fear controls your life. Just do it

Just by sarging alone you're doing what most people can't.