| As a little background info about myself, I`ve been online dating since 2005. Conservatively, I`d estimate I`ve met 80 women online. It would have been more but 4.5 years of LTR were in there. I`m fairly experienced with this stuff, and my response rate probably varies from 30% in a bad month to 70% in a good month.
I wouldn`t worry about the fatties not emailing you. For one, they probably would `t email for fear that they would crush you; but second, according to Freakonomics, a lot of men will never receive a single email. The litmus test is responses, not unsolicited emails. Also, 6`s and 7`s may be receiving more emails than 8`s on some websites. This stuff in unpredictable.
The easiest thing you can do is to change your profession. Women do not like to date students according to the study in Freakonomics. You could try the "ask me/tellyou later" or "Future Bill Gates" approach, or put in your part time job or whatever. Also, this same study showed that Long Term yields the best results for men. I recommend you change it from "Hang Out" to dating at the very least.
I might also recommend you change your tag line as well. It is interesting, but I would imagine that you're scaring away a chunk of women. The most powerful consumer behavior tricks are pretty clear about qualifying the consumer rather than qualifying yourself, so you might want to go with something about the girl instead of something negative about you. "Can you hold your own" or "Give it your best shot" might convey the same attitude and yield better results.
However, there`s a number of deeper problems that I can see with your profile. The biggest are your pictures. They probably count for about 90% of your profile.
Myspace shots aren`t good for guys (OKtrends). Get a friend to take some photos. Change outfits a bunch of times so that it doesn`t look like a photoshoot, and get them to be taken in a bunch of locations. Then use OKCupid's "MyBestFace" or Hotornot to see which of your pictures are the best ones.
You have some good ideas for the photos. You should be in the picture with your dog though (and no doggy crotch shots). I like the piano idea, but we need to be able to see your face (or at least the back of your head). The one with Porky is also interesting, but you might want to explain what you were doing here. It looks like you`re babysitting, which would make you look like a good dude, so I might include a caption talking about this.
Lastly, OKTrends says that men do better with photos where they are not looking into the camera, and are not giving a big toothy smile. Grin, looking away from the camera.
As far as your profile goes, you`ll want to take another shot at it. Youre doing a good job at suggesting that you have value by setting your standards high, but you still need to qualify, or else no one you would be interested in will respond. Demonstrate your sense of humor in describing yourself and your ideal mate. Give the women of POF an idea of how they would fit into your lifestyle.
I like the idea of a woman taking you for sushi, but unless you make yourself out to be fun and interesting, its not a convincing suggestion of value.
For better responses, get specific in your interests. I would reccommend against listing off which video games you play unless it is crucial that the girl you date is a gamer, but list the performing arts you've enjoyed; where you volunteer and a few of your favorite movies instead of listing the categories. This will give girls a chance to bring up a topic with you.
You have some work cut out for you, but I have no doubt that you can be successful at this! Good luck and let me know how it turns out.
Jpow
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