Hey Mack,

My girlfriend just booked a summer holiday with all her friends.They're going to Magaluf in Spain also known as Shagaluf!! for a week.Some of her friends are bringing their boyfriends, she asked me but i can tell she doesn't want me to go..I said yeah when she asked but then she was like it costs alot and i would have to bring some of my friends with me because she and her friends paid for a room and that i'd need a room with people (just sounded like she was making excuses) ..She says she really wants me to go but I don't believe her...

She says she won't cheat but I can just see her going out clubbing every night, pool and beach parties and their will be alot of alcohol and guys hitting on her who are better looking then me..
I don't know whether i should book to go aswell or will that look real needy..from your experience with girls do you think she will cheat? i feel like i have to go to make sure she doesn't..

, she asked me but i can tell she doesn't want me to go..

hey, my question is:

What is the ideal relationship?

Should the girl be running around to please the guy all the time?
Should the guy just be open, let her go out and do what ever she wants?
Ive been told that if you say all that romantic stuff like "youre the one for me" ends relationships.

i know how to pick up girls and create attraction, but im useless afterwards. it usually ends up in me running out of material and going back to my old afc self...with them running away.

So I'm somewhat new at pickup but I picked up a very cute girl flying home from winter break to home. Were both 20 years old Juniors In college at universities in states somewhat far from each other. She isn't from where I live but was just visiting someone for a couple days. I met her while sitting down at the gate- we immediately gelled and got along really well. Our plane got delayed for like 6 hours- and the time flew by like that! Holding and making out with her on the plane was the greatest time I've ever had with a girl. We've talked every day for like 3 weeks now whether its texting/on the phone. and we ve both made it clear how interested we are in each other. She also believes in astrology- and according to astrology our two signs get along very well- which probably helps me. Imagine she's this girl- who believes in this astrology thing and this great confident man comes up to her in the airport and charms her. ITs probably like what she's always imagined.

I kinda like the fact that I could be this guy for her. I honestly think of her all day. I'm a good guy whether I want to be or not. I've tried fucking girls I barely know and I cant. I'm a virgin and my subconscious wont let me get laid (get hard when were about to have sex) with a girl I don't love. I missed many chances to have my first kiss til I did it my freshman year of hs with my first serious gf and I'm proud of that. I see so many beautfiul girls and I know I would like to fuck them. But whether I like it or not Im a good guy and am looking for something really real and beyond life.

This LDR will be a lot of work but I'm confident in myself to keep her charmed and interested. Do you or anyone else think I'm being a big vagina by falling for of the very first beautiful girls I pickup one I learned the stuff? I read what other people write and they seem to hook up with a lot of girls before they get in a relationship. I do not plan on cheating on her. I'd love for your perspective on this.

Hey Mack,

My girlfriend just booked a summer holiday with all her friends.They're going to Magaluf in Spain also known as Shagaluf!! for a week.Some of her friends are bringing their boyfriends, she asked me but i can tell she doesn't want me to go..I said yeah when she asked but then she was like it costs alot and i would have to bring some of my friends with me because she and her friends paid for a room and that i'd need a room with people (just sounded like she was making excuses) ..She says she really wants me to go but I don't believe her...

She says she won't cheat but I can just see her going out clubbing every night, pool and beach parties and their will be alot of alcohol and guys hitting on her who are better looking then me..
I don't know whether i should book to go aswell or will that look real needy..from your experience with girls do you think she will cheat? i feel like i have to go to make sure she doesn't..

keep it light, mystical, like two ships who occasionally pass in the night.

lol

Well yeah it looks like we're gonna keep talking and all that. And I agree with you about the relationship stuff and that's how I feel we are. It does not look like were planning on committing to each other - we're just staying in contact- talking every two or three nights. it's pretty nice.

sup mack?
so im in a LDR, i know your opinions on this in general but i've committed to it and i've been doing it for 8 months now- the distance ends in 4 and i figure its worth stickin with. im pretty sure she's never cheated in that time, i would be certain its just i dont trust anyone on earth other than myself anymore (not her fault by the way, an ex)

this is the situation at the moment, between sept and dec we only saw each other once, and had to wait like 8 weeks for it which is kinda too long, and while we were apart we SPAM literally almost erryday. while she was home for NY we talked about stuff and she dropped the bombshell that
a) that had been too much and often -she hadnt enjoyed it
b) she sometimes feels that in order to "get the most out of her year abroad she should be on her own"

so we chatted and decided to try to make it work, i figure a) is fixable. for this i reckon best thing I can do myself is take a step back, be busy and relaxed and let her guide how often we SPAM etc while trying to make sure we see each other every 3-4 weeks. seems like a no-brainer to me but i'd be interested in your (and anyone elses) opinions on it

as to b) im pretty clueless as to how to deal with it. sometimes im like fuck it lets just break up but then as soon as i think that i remember how much i actually like her and her me, how good it is when we're together and how we've already done significant amount of long distance and we're on the home straight, so to speak. So i guess im asking what do you reckon? how would you handle this kind of doubt from her?

whatever, think thats all there is to say, let me know if you wanna know anything else etc.

so just to be clear do you think essentially end it until she comes home? I can see the advantages in that.

or do you mean give her the cut in attention she seems to want while remaining in the relationship?
we've already cut SPAM back from daily to once every 3 or 4 days and so far we're roughly equal in terms of initiating contact, but we do send a fb message daily. she is abroad so its too expensive to text, very frustrating because texts are a much more relaxed way of maintaining contact in my opinion. i could quite easily cut my part of that and allow her to initiate more often.

Im not going to lie, from my side i feel like we did talk too much before, it didnt phase me at the time but there were plenty of times we'd be sitting on SPAM just to sit on SPAM and not really have anything to talk about: when she's at home we don't chat on the phone every day afterall. so i havent taken that badly.

for now we're seeing each other again in a week, so i could bring up the reduced contact and if its helping her feel happier in the relationship when i see her... what do you reckon?