I'm not in a relationship but this is in regards to a girl I'm trying to be in a relationship with.

At first she wasn't into me, then 2nd date it got reaaaaaaaaally sexual from there on out. 3rd date we met up, told her I had an STD (HPV, not serious) and she freaked and wanted to slow down. 30 min later we were sexual again (her choice). Since then she's wanted to slow things down and see where it goes because it's not worth it to have sex/get intimate with someone who has an STD if it's not going anywhere. I understand her concern but I went from getting head and following around a ton to making out and her barely rubbing my dick.

Went to her house on Wed, hung out, cuddled, made out and some light stuff cause she was sick. She hasn't spoken much since so I figured somethin was up and gave her distance. Today she said we shouldn't go any further because she doesn't feel a spark. I replied back with "so you were all over my dick on the 2nd date and I invited you to my huge company sales banquet with 300 people there and now you say no spark?"

Is this a shit test by her? Does she really not feel anything or does she just want me to challenge her? So confused by women......

Second date you guys had sex?

Perhaps she was needy and need some sexual healing.

For me it doesnt seem a shit test.

Your response was rude and mean. next time tell her ok and move on.

Gave her space if she trully wants it she will come back. Dont think is the case.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

We didn't have sex but did sexual stuff. I fingered her, boobs, she gave me bj, etc. 3rd base stuff I guess.

She gave you a bj before or after you told her you have HPV?

Before. Then after I told her is when she said she wanted to slow down. She's rubbed it, we've made out and I've done some stuff to her but that's been it.

You withheld this kinda important tidbit of info before she sucked your knob. Fine, she still engaged in sexual activity with you after, but I bet you you not being up front with her and letting her suck your dick without informing her factored into her decision.

I dont care that she kept fucking with you after, you put her at risk by not telling her. Sure, there's always a calculated risk in engaging in sexual behavior, but you omitted telling her you have HPV on your first encounter with her; you jeopardized her health knowingly. I don't blame her.

Everything happened so suddenly, I didn't purposely withhold it. I never worry about telling women since it doesn't happen that frequently. Basically I forgot. Even so, there's a small small chance of it being passed via oral (less than 0.5%)

How long have yuo had it? Do you get warts on your penis? Isn't there a cure for HPV?

About 5 yrs, 1 or 2 small warts once/twice a year or so. Use cream or get them zapped away. No cure but they're supposed to go away after awhile, who knows.

Where can i read more about this?

Dr or urologist is most reliable. I've read a lot of info online from mayoclinic and such and my dr's have disproven some of what those sites say.

Jebus...

Do you really think she believes you "forgot" that you have an incurable STD? And that you "forgot" to tell her?

And you're really here WONDERING why she's pushing you away? And you're really WONDERING if its a shit test?

I don't want to live on this planet anymore

hold up...

did you wait till the third date after you had already fucked her,

to tell her that you have an STD?

if i were her, i'd not only not fuck you again, i would put your face on my dartboard.

i like how the op described HPV as no big deal, when it's the leading cause of deadly cervical cancer in women.

you might have just killed the girl.

that's grounds for being a little upset i reckon.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I'm sure she's more interested in getting an STD test rather than giving SHIT tests, but that's just me.

I told her on the 3rd date. 1st date we talked, 2nd date we did sexual stuff but again, NOT SEX. 3rd date I told her before anything else because I felt something was developing.
And yes, I did forget about it. I have a strain that doesn't cause cancer and the few women I've been with in the past have said it's no big deal. I didn't have sex with her then tell her, I told her about it before we got to that point because I wanted her to know the risks with it before it went further. I told her that online info is invalid and to talk to her gyno/doctor about it and ask whatever she wanted. I told her if she didn't want to go any further it would be fine and I would respect that, which I do.