Last Night I went to this party on campus at a town house, I went in there, maybe 20 - 30 people. I didnt know many people but i made friends. There was this cute girl, when I said I was from england to the girls I can tell some were interested, but I wanted her. I made sure she was my beer pong partner. We played all night together, we were good and having fun.

We started talking and I began to like her, I asked her friends about her and they said, OHH You cant get her she has like 2 guys going after her. I was a bit bummed but she came over sat next to me and started talking, I felt like she was interested. So I was honest with her, i asked her, she said that they are over selling it, she was hooking up with this one guy a while ago who was maybe coming tonight (he didnt), and then she thought this other guy was a dick. I started to tell her that I think she is cooler than the other girls, that she is like me and we get a long great. I asked her about her past boyfriends, and she said she had one serious boyfriend, who broke her heart, and he is in this room. She told me , it was this blond guy. Looked like a fag, then i asked how did he break your heart, she said he slept with one of my friends after we broke up and he is wanting to date another friend. And im like wow, he is a dick, are you over him, she was like, i would never date him again but its hard to get over. Then I said, hopefully I can show you what a better guy was. I then told her, ive rejected more girls then ive gotten with, and im picky, and she says "thank you, ill take that as a compliment"... then i said, i was going to ask to hang out... but i mean i dont know you seem like you got enough boys on your plate.... and she was like haha no i dont, and i said, can you handle competition, and she is like, im confident i will finish on top.... She told me she was a virgin... and that she doenst smoke, drink much, quality girl

she was like "do you want my number?"... i said sure... added it, she was like,hw about hanging out sunday? and i said sorry im with one of my other girls sunday then i was like, no sure sunday

I dont know what the first text to her should be... I was thinking "Beer pong partner, how you doing? How about we go to a pub sunday night with my friend and his girlfriend and play some pool"

She even invited me to another party at her house tonight more beer pong

i can only speak for myself here but i would go for something more personal than the two of you hanging out with friends present. sure, they can meet eachother or whatever but i would focus on one-on-one time so you can get to know her better in a different setting. im in college and this always works for me.

Okay, what would be the best first text to send to her

well if she is inviting you places then you should accept. obviously she wants to get to know you better, even if it is another party. since you two are in college then there should be some quirky food hotspots in town that is frequented by college students. i would check and see if she wanted to get some food in between classes or something, keep it light. or if your campus union has an activity council that has cool events like laser tag or concerts or sports games coming up you could see if she wants to go there. i find that basketball games work best because they allow for more conversation than football games do. unless your school's team sucks....then....i wonder whats on hbo today.

ONly go to the party if you can make yourself the life of it. If you're the type who clams up at parties and keeps to yourself or just plan on chatting with her, you'll look bad. What r u gonna do when she interacts with others? Stand with your hands in your pants?

SO if u go, make sure you're social with other people to and not hanging on her shoulder.

Thats good advice,

I can come with some good friends, 2 or three of mine and that will be cool? I could ask her


Also, whats the first text i send her... should i keep delaying it

mmm I feel that "only go to the party if you can be the life of the party" is a little too over the top. I would say that "only go to the party if you're able to comfortably interact and relax with others while she's chilling with her friends" is a better mentality to have.

obviously she was attracted to the way you were acting when she met you or she wouldnt have invited you to drink with her again. just be chill, be yourself, and dont overthink it. go in, meet new people, mingle, think george clooney. and you should wait to set something up after the party. who knows, you may see a different side of her that you don't necessarily find attractive.

FUCK, I texted her the following at 5:

Hey! Tomorrow night we hang out? Good luck finding a better beer pong partner tonight

her reply at 5:30...

Ok, sounds good. Enjoy your night -----> WTF



My reply at 10:00PM:

Perfect. Enjoy your night

WTF - I DONT EVEN KNOW IF WE AER ON OR ANYTHING BUT THATS A SHITTY TEXT

send her a text with the time and place

recommendations on what to do? my room? a bar? food? fucking no idea

Sounds like your in mate!!

My advice would be to not become to available, take a step back.
Be slower to text her back. Try and get some 1 to 1 time.

DO NOT BE PHASED THAT THERE ARE OTHER GUYS AFTER HER!

Let her know that it doesn't bother you. [you are better than them.]

Make yourself the prize. [subtly, with a few negs, etc.]

All the best buddy. :)

Negs are extremely overrated and in fact can backfire, often severely if used on a woman who has low self-esteem (which afflicts more women than you think).

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