Suppose you have no friends, no family, no nothing. Or better yet you moved to a completely different city and you know no one.
No one calls you at your birthday, no one calls you on Christmas or new year.
No one knows you.

How do you start a social life from scratch?

Any ideas?

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'Does she grab your hand?' F*ck you! I want to grab her mind. If I can
grab her mind, she'll be grabbing whatever I want, any way I want her to." - Ross Jeffries

I would imagine this is the easiest scenario honestly, because you can be anyone you want to be from scratch. Make up your story, meet people and tell them you are new to the city and you are trying to meet some people.

Hey Mind Hacker actually finally hits it on the head.

If anyone believes guys come here just to learn about becoming a PUA, they are missing it.

It all goes together. Popular guys get girls because they have alot of friends, and the more friends you have the more people want to be your friend.

Guys with all their shit together dont come on forums like this.

Its more about freidnship than pussy aint it???

Just a thought

Mind Hacker since I like you ill give you some advice.

The first thing you should do is get your shit together.

You cant attract women or anybody when u have nothing going for you.

Like how can you take a woman home if you have no home. Sounds funny but that is a big roadblock.

And u cant have a home unless you have a job, and you cant go out with nothing to talk about when u meet people.

Dont make shit up. get your life in order, and opportunities will open up to you.

u cant attract interesting, without being interesting.

when your real and comfortable in your own skin, and dont need to make things up, u come off as somebody "cool"

the trick is working on your self first. the rest will follow.

Hi Mind Hacker. To your question.
I think that's one of the best situations to be. When you got to a new place or a new college for example. You may not have any friends there, right? Having no friend is good. So you can start meeting people, and you can build your status. Be friends with some of the interesting guys who're good with girls and some of the bully types of the more masculine type so you'll be seen powerful since you're with them.

How to start a social life from scratch?

The answer is meet people right away. Meet girls as well, or to girls you aren't attracted to or girls that you don't wanna do. Be friends with them 'cause having a few girls are friends is good. Be very close to them, take them with you to places, like clubs or anywhere you go when you wanna hook up with some hot chicks. Having girls around you, the other girls will think that you're preselected and since these girls show interest in you or surrounds you. They will think that you're fun to be with, and aren't afraid to talk to girls or defines confidence. But you can always walk out of them if they act bitchy to you but you know being friends, you've work out if you want, anyways, be mature and maintain high status.

Okay the best way to make people attracted to you is to be yourself, 'cause you're gonna make friends and if they don't like who you're are, it's gonna trouble in the end.

About being yourself, in my view point is being who we want to be, the man you're in your dreams. You know what you need the most, POPULARITY. It's a turn on to any women. Talk to everyone who you sees, young or old; no matter what the age is. You can be friend with a guy who's into sports, you can tell him about your passion for sports and you can go to places you go to play. You can meet his friends, their friends and by being interesting, build a social circle and almost every guy knows you. Hit the gym or do yoga classes or any classes. Meet people there, hangout with them. Meet their friends and that's how you make a social life. Go to club to meet people. Hey, there isn't any barrier or roadblock to meet or make friends with people.

But what you should be able to communicate you alpha status. Carlos Xuma wrote a book 'Secrets of the Alpha Male' and Steve Scott's '24 Traits of An Alpha Male' are good books. Since you wanna start a social life from scratch, read the books before you go out so you'll know what to do from the start.

Hope that helped.

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The guys are right about getting yourself together and I don't really know you, nor have I read a lot of your posts to know about you but the scenario you mentioned is unfathomable to me... Unless you got dropped off from another planet or were raised by apes.
We all live in a society, we share common bonds it is these bonds that build your network and the first real bond we have is the ability to communicate. Babies have different cries for different needs and they start off only communicating with their parents and as that grows they build friends and the network grows. If you get moved into a completely unknown situation though you still have the old network to fall back on, seek advice and maybe even come visit if you need someone to be a wing.
To build a lifestyle from scratch doesn't really make sense... Who cares if you have an awesome car and great apartment if you don't know anyone. I was a college athlete and one of the things i noticed most about the guys who succeeded was their attitude and it is the same with people in the real world... You want to hang out with the guys with the right attitude and you want to stay away from the ones with the wrong attitude. Women are the same way... Get your attitude set and then start looking for people that are the spokes on the networking wheel communicate with them, ask them questions and then get to know them and use them as a branch to others.
When people on a team transfer one of the things I noticed was that for a transfer student the building a life at a new school was a lot easier for a couple of reasons. First they had done it before and second because they plugged into the upperclassmen network which opened more doors. Yes, they were new and could invent themselves but they also were more set as to who they are and that helped them get their stuff together. The thing is just to get out. The times I moved I always try to lay low at 1st and see whats going on and make some friends at work then use that to build a larger network of people you dont have to see everyday and then the fun begins.
Anyway, just my two cents. No matter what you are building a lifestyle. Sitting at home and watching Jersey Shore is a lifestyle... so is traveling and meeting people.

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Id have a look at meetup.com or some other website and join a club based on something you have a sspark of interest in then have another location to bounce some of the people or any girls to even if theyre just pivots,perhaps you know of a fancy club to take girls salsa dancing afterward or perhaps you drop hints of a meetup barbeque... if your not confident then partner up with another dude from the meetup club that also wants lifestyle so you can team up and organise..

Make heaps of female friends and theyll look after you,birthday parties,wingwomen/pivots etc...

works good bro been doing this sort of thing for around a year to get away from club game only..

For the sake of convenience and probability I am going to assume that you moved a new town because a new job or a secondment with your job. Its not a bad position to be in mate. Loads of guys I work with come from all over and some of them go home every weekend or fortnight but I am also going to assume that you won't be doing that. I would recommend that you go to a bar or casino (not a club because it is difficult to make and hold good conversation there) and have a few drinks. Then go and talk to strangers! Just say hi and talk about anything. If you can talk to another person by themselves, because the chances are they are probably in a similar position to you so you have something in common. If not approach only groups of 2 or three at the most. Once you get a bit of convo they will probably ask that dreaded awkward question 'where are your mates?' to which you can reply 'miles away' and smile. Give them a brief summary of your position and explain that you are working away from home, you don't know anyone around here and that you have been bored shitless this past month doing nothing but watching dvd's and going on facebook at your place and decided to get out for a drink. You can then exchange numbers and perhaps meet for a drink another time. This routine can be applied to either guys or girls... because you have no social setting here then its hard to be embarrassed by going out alone.

I would also recommend that you carry any existing sports or hobbies that you have forward and google these sports in your new town. Again go along and explain that you are new and keen to get involved and play. If you don't have any real hobbies or sporting passions try a new one! If there is a squash club a few streets away go along and ask about beginners coaching. Its a great way to build friends and social network. Also join the local gym- this is a big one because not only will you become friends with the guys you spot or speak to in the sauna you are also getting in shape.

Whist you may think you are at a disadvantage not having any friends and not knowing anyone, you could look at this as a chance to become who ever you want to be and still be yourself. If you have an opportunity to re-invent yourself I say take it!

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