Ok, 2 questions, and id appreciate any help on my bad inner game here i guess.

I have been seeing a girl for 4 months now, who I asked out a few weeks ago and shes been my girl friend since.

I find that I'm the one who has to initiate everything, like ask her out somewhere, ask her round, suggest things etc... and I compliment her loads, tell her shes beautiful, cute etc... and i never get anything back.

I did think maybe shes just not into me as much as i am into her, but when we are out she buys me drinks, and she travelled 4 hours just to come and see me when i asked her if she wanted to stay over when i went away for a couple of weeks. so.... and when i surprise her I can tell by the cheeky cute grin on her face that she likes me, but she never expresses emotionally with words, or by texts, so i always think shes being off with me.

Anyone else had that problem? and what can I do about it? Or are some girls just like that?


Number 2: Some girl on her uni course, she has recently been spending a lot of time with, as she thought they were friends, and the girl kept asking her round and putting her in a position where she couldn't say no... anyway this girl came onto her and my girl friend put her straight. Ever since, I think my girl friend feels bad about it all, and has to balance seeing me and her out..... Which naturally is pissing me off, but shes living with this girl next year (as they planned to before she knew she had a crush on her).... so..... any advice?

thanks guys

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Law of Attraction

How is sex? Details.

Stop complementing her.

Let her buy you drinks.

You initiating things is normal. It's expected that a man takes charge and says where you're going out to, etc.

Didn't understand the issue with the other girl. Is she a lesbian?

1) She's your girlfriend now so you two should be able to communicate about certain things openly. Have you tried asking her if she's ever wanted to ask you out somewhere? Tell her you enjoy making plans for her but it feels like a one sided relationship because you're never doing anything she wants to do. If you make it sound like you're interested in doing things shes interested in, you'll come across as a caring boyfriend and maybe she'll start to open up.

As for returning compliments, I completely feel you bro. Men are human beings too and we all like to get our egos stroked every once and a while (as well some other body parts haha). The thing is, just how much of a concern is this to you? As you said, she is doing things for you that show she likes you. To me, actions speak louder than words and she may feel the same way.

2) I don't understand. Are you worried about this new friend taking away time from you and your girl or are you worried this friend is going to keep making passes at your girl?

You have to realize something.

Actions> Words.

Who cares if she says you are the most beautifull being in the planet, the most awesome lover, but in spare time gives blowjob to others.

Some girls maybe have hard time lying (joking m8 ).

Dont let her always pay the bills, that is just wrong. 50- 50 is a good ratio, or reward her for something she did. Or in the back of her mind she will think you are with her for FREE DRINKS .

My advice is that you should reduce the numbers of compliments, and NOT only compliment about her looks. I compliment to reward her for something. For example that 4 hours trip she made she totally deserved a nice compliment.

For example the other day I told a Hb to bring a dress she never used. So she brought it and I compliment, since i never give her compliments she was really excitted.

SO LESS IS MORE.

If you think you are being too needy, is probably because you are. So take a step back. And wait for her to initiate if she misses you, she will atleast complain.

Your second question I didnt understood sorry.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Thanks^^

Sex is very regular as well, but i'm the one to always start it. I want her to just get on top of me and be like... fuck me.... but its like im in charge the whole time. And i tell her to go down on me, i tell her to go on top.... she does it, but so does a blow up doll.

2. This other girl is a fucking cock block. I think my girl friend gets the impression that she has to see me one night, then the next night she has to see her friend. And her friend asks her to see her ALL the time. Heres is an example of what her friend does...

We are all at uni... So my girl friend doesn't go home until the monday for christmas so i ask her if she wants me to stay with her for the week end so shes not on her own. So shes happy and says yes. Her friend is going home on the saturday morning. So im with my gf on the Friday night and her friend texts her saying "wanna come over? im leaving tomorrow afternoon" so my gf text back saying shes with me so she cant.... then her friend texts back saying... i just changed my train to sunday so you can come over tomorrow night now and we can hang out. So my girl friend was put on the spot and said... ok i guess..

So i was bored shitless that night...

Guys, iv never had this problem ...

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Law of Attraction

Regarding sex: read this thread

how-to-fuck-your-woman-alpha-style-vt122553.html

Regarding that other girl: is she a lesbian? This comment sort of suggests she is?
If so, then your woman is the one with issues, specially if she's considering moving in with her next year.

Red flag

That's seriously uncool behavior on your girlfriend's part. It's fine for her to have girls night every once in awhile, but she should give you advanced notice on stuff like that. For the most part, you should ALWAYS have the option to be included when she's hanging out with her friends. I would not tolerate that behavior and I would be pissed off if I were in your situation. Personally, I would not continue to date that girl exclusively if she did this a second time.. I would start seeing other people.

Think of it this way, her lesbian friend is basically a dude with a vagina. If a girl ditches you to hang out with a dude on Saturday night and says you aren't allowed to come along, then your relationship is pretty much over at that point.

-Wolf

She's getting validation from you with minimal effort. Why SHOULD she do anything extra? You've set the frame that she's the PRIZE (e.g. telling her she's beautiful, chasing her etc.), when she's really done nothing much to earn it. Remember, it's equally important she feels you're giving her some resistance; as with anything in life, if something comes too easy, we tend to value it a lot less.

I wouldn't necessarily freeze her out or anything, but I'd make myself less available to her, and cool it with all the compliments until she's earned them by winning your favor in some way. If you continually praise her this will only show that you're needy - you even said it yourself she's not giving you anything back hinting to me at least that you want some form of validation in return (not attractive at all).

She also knows that by being emotionally aloof with you, that you'll pursue harder which you have been (I'm quite certain you have been). Don't reward her for being closed up with you, that's not cool at all.

And with respect to her ditching you for her friend. She knows you'll be there and that you're so sprung that she can go about her business and you'll be waiting with baited breath. You need to put some doubt in her mind, and this will only come about by making yourself less available, not contacting her as much, and stopping with the compliments (UNLESS she's earned them with a behavior you want to reward).

Be afraid of the lesbo friend, be very afraid! She's working on your girl from every angle imaginable. If your girl is 100% straight, then it's ok, but trust me, this girl is not gonna give up, she's gonna work hard and long to get with your gf, I know what I'm talking about.
If nothing else, she'll be a terrible cock block once they move in together. My advice from a lesbo point of view. If the lesbo has an influence over your girl, get a buddy relationship with the lesbo, let her see how cool you are and that you actually care about this girl. Be really kind to her and flirty with her, you can amog her this way without really amoging her, you know what I mean? Don't treat her like a dude with a vagina, but shoot for her girly side, she must have it even just a little. Act like her older brother, pretend to be protective and shit. Like good buddies, but with a girl, that's the best way to neutralize her.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Another thing, you're in college, experimentation time and a lesbo lurking, hmmm I hope they don't get drunk together often.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

lol

listening to this, reminds me of my two lesbian roommates when i was 19.

those chicks were the life of the party!

and we were like bros!

but i was protective and flirty a little bit too...

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