| i have had no dates yet, but i go to coffeeshops a lot and i sit down near girl with my tea and just turn toward her, smile, and say "how are you?" some are cold, some are friendly. i try to listen and talk less, because anxiety makes me wanna just dominte the conversation. i had luck last time, girls were friendly. you can read about it in my field log thread, i was dressed in a coat, a red scarf, very well dressed, and also had a Prada leather bag on my shoulder which I bet they noticed. the Prada bag was only $86, i bought it a private second hand store in another state, and i know its genuine and not fake or stolen, everyone is impressed by it cause it looks good and it's Prada, costs $1000 new haha. one girl looked at me like she was amazed. they were nice and they flirted back. i just flirt and not try to make conversation. how to flirt you can read about simple ways in Intimate Connections by Dr Burns. i just use the compliment thing and also the flirting i learned from social swing dancing. smiling and laughing, looking away and looking back at them. agreeing with them when they say something nice about you.
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