ex-gf drops me after 10 days (close to f-closing) with LJBF. I ignore her, move on and she keeps calling to talk , "check that i'm ok". She then calls crying upset and needs to talk but is adamant that she ended it and it was a good idea.

I've never got into this situation before - help? I still want her.

What do you mean "I ignore her"? Does that mean you stopped persuing her and she keeps calling you?

Best thing you can do is let her see you with another woman. If you don't have another woman, find out what club she's going to and get a female friend to help you make her jealous. Show up with a woman and have that woman hug you, hold your hand and put her arms around your neck, smell your neck, in general, PDA...you'll be gold with this girl.

I'm convinced there's nothing more powerful than pre-selection/jealousy.

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Later,
Alphagame

You are writing a book? On what topics? Why do you think you are ready to explain anything?

To your question:
ex-gf drops me after 10 days (close to f-closing) with LJBF

Girlfriend? after 10 days..... She was your girlfriend for ten days and then you got the LJBF... How long did you 'date' prior to her becoming your girlfriend. Sounds like it was a very short amount of time.... During that ten days, I bet you gave yourself to her. Became a big puppy dog.

So you ignore her and she has to 'contact' you..... Good....
Then she starts crying.. Why are you listening to this at all.... Because you want her? Again, puppy dog time..

Look up cat-string theory..... and then do it.

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Recommended reading list.

Double Your Dating by DD
(This will work on your inner game)

http://www.freewebs.com/xfman/
(This will work on your outer game)

no book, an anthropological perspective of sexual selection for the PUA, an explanation of why the PUA image works. I'm an anthropology student with psychology interests

Let me explain better, I worked this girl for two days and we got serious, I stupidly let my guard down and got whipped. She ended it after fooling around, no fclose. Then LJBF. I suppose I want to punish her really because she's the type who never got dumped before.

I've never worked an ex, there must be routines I can use. I think the jealousy might work but here's the score now:

I told a bunch of people I was bummed out so it would get back to her, then spent the next 4 days in clubs partying with buddies hoping she'd call and hear me out in the club - picked up the phone every time it rang said "sorry I'm with people, talk tomorrow". Idea was to give silent SPAM and let her stew.

She got bummed out and when we finally bumped into eachother she said she missed my company but she had to end it because it felt wrong. I asked if she wanted to talk about it. She got pissy and said only if YOU want to. I broke off and went to buy cigarettes telling her I'd see her. There was no way she wanted to talk, she wanted to fight or punish me.

So now I've messaged her best friend and housemate to ask her to look after HB and to tell her not to worry because I've moved on. the message looks like this -

"Hey, please keep an eye out for HB, she's a little bummed out from what I can tell and I just want her to know that its ok, I've moved on. I wanted to talk to her today but she bit my head off, think you could help me out? It's a pity that things have turned sour like this just as I was getting to know you, take care"

a little flirtation there to help me out if ever I want to work her friend (hehehehehe) but high risk of totally losing her...

I wouldn't leave that message with her friends/roomates. Fuck that girl. Just game her friends if the opportunity arises, and that'll be all the material you need. If she says something, just say...."we're just friends, remember?" Most likely though, you are DLV'd with her friends as your pre-selection status is gone now since she LBJF'd you.

YOu can not act bitter about it. You are going to be like Fonzie and you know how Fonzie is right? He's fucking cool, and that's what I want you to be. COOL.

Dude, if you are in contact with her friends, try to find out where she'll be if possible, but you've got to figure out a way to not DLV yourself when you find out.

Once you find out where she'll be, show up with a female friend and make sure the female friend knows she needs to help you make the girl you want feel jealousy. Personally, I've never tried this before, but I think it'll work. I have no female friends, therefore, no experience. I'd guess that if it works, your female friend is gonna become attracted to you too.

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Later,
Alphagame

I reckon you're right, I'll forget her and fuck her friend. It's true, we're friends after all.

DLV... tough one, her friend was jealous I was seeing HB and often stopped to talk with high IOI body language.

However last convo with B didn't end great as I wrote