pryor,

in a sort of sick-and-twisted way,

sometimes these bitches will actually USE that high that being with you provides to do two things:

- give them the energy to cheat
- make them feel valuable enough and entitled enough to cheat

whenever i've been cheated on, it was always at the height of my "greatness".

almost a girl's way of "evening" things out.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

That makes a lot of sense what you just said Mack, and it makes me sad to agree..
What are we suppose to do? Hold ourselves back because the girl we like is to insecure and we don't want to build her confidence up to realize her potential?

How do we pick the good ones apart from the bad ones? Women are a headache

**UPDATE**

She came home last night to give me some things. I said "is there anything you want to tell me" and her face was a complete blank. Like she literally had no idea what I was talking about.

I told her about her txt, and that it seemed like it was directed to another person. She said "are you serious?". Kind of started laughing, but when she saw I was dead serious, she asked me "why would you think that?" like insinuating she had no reason to be cheating, and like she was hurt by just the thought that I would suspect her.

I explained my point of view, told her the txt seemed abrubt, random, out of context, and that it seemed like she was answering someone else. She said "don't you think if I was cheating I would be more careful?". I said prove it, call AT&T so they tell you which numbers you texted at that time. She gave me the phone without hesitation and told me to call them. I tried calling but they were closed. But the fact that she gave me the phone without thinking it twice made me believe her.

She then said: "if I was sleeping with someone else I would tell you right now". The thing is, this woman is so different from any other woman that I've met that I believe her. She has been scary honest with me since day 1. I think this may be the first case where the "incentive to lie" quote doesn't apply.

She said that she had been in a very abusive relationship in the past, where her BF constantly questioned her about other men, was jealous all the time, and that this was the sort of thing she was worried about and wanted to avoid.

I quickly tried to turn the tables by justifying my suspicion. She said "that's what came to my mind at that moment and I said it. You had the day off yesterday, and I wanted to see if you were up for a morning session".

Ugh

She asked me if I could promise I'd never be jealous, to which I said "listen, I can't promise something like that. It's normal human behavior to feel jealous. It means I care about you. I could tell you that I'm not a jealous person, but that I'll never feel jealousy? No, I can't promise you that".

At least we ended up in a good note. We kissed on the mouth when she left, and this morning I gave her a ride and she kissed me when she got in the car.

Now I doubt myself and why I became so paranoid. Truth is I fuck her like the whore she is, make her come every single time, I lick her asshole, fuck her up the ass, tell her her pussy/ass belong to me, grab her by the hair, choke her, spank her, come all over her face.

Unless she's a nymphomaniac sick sick sick whore, she doesn't have a reason to cheat on me.

But everyone agreed with me, so either we're all paranoid about women, or the txt was indeed fishy.

I have some work to do to get back at where I was. I need to fuck her specially hard this Friday. I'm thinking I should spit in her mouth... or am I watching too much porn?

Mack what are the other forms of dishonesty? I tried googling it, but am interested to know...

they are more properly known as pcyhological "coping" mechanisms...

which is another way of saying "wrong ways of dealing with shit".

basically forms of dishonesty

- rationalization: making excuses, buying into your own excuses

- projection: finding the same flaws in others that you have in yourself to make yourself feel better, even if you have to create them out of thin air

- denial: acting as though, actively trying to believe, that something isn't as it is

- avoidance: changing the subject, distracting, being too busy to deal with it

- intellectualization/dissociation: trying to act like a scholar (or independent party) about the situation that he/she directly caused

- passive-aggression: trying to control people through manipulative means

there are coping (or defense) mechanisms...

but wherever you see these behaviors,

you will usually find a lie or a misdeed.

there are more.

google it.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

thanks man

A text like would raise my eyebrow as well. But it's good you two handled it and got over it like 2 adults...something I don't see much when it comes to two people confronting an issue in relationships, so kudos.

You're watching too much porn lol On the other hand, who am I to say anything, I did some sick shit in my days.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

This is moo point by now because you two resolved it, but I returned back to this post a few hours later and took a step back to analyze it a little more.
I dont know what was said before the text thats under suspicion, but the first thing that came to my mind was shes trying to imply freaky sex with you to burn some calories. But you say it was completely out of context so I could be wrong.

Ahem.

i get paranoid sometimes too.