I have this gf for a month now. started 3 month ago as her rebound and it was cool with me, then we became fuck buddies, and then it started to get serious.
I wanted a change from being a playa to have a legit gf for once and she seemed down but wasnt over her ex and was scared to be played by me.

I legitimately didn't do anything bad, didnt get numbers, didnt even touch another girl. but caught her texting her ex (call him X) saying "i miss you" and he replied "i miss you too babe"

fucked her, dumped her, and said never again. but she came back like crazy, so gave her another chance.

Her best friend is a guy, a guy she had a 2 year relationship with before X. but she claims that nothing is happening and i have to trust her on that.

she tells me she loves me a month in.

she is on her phone all the time, texting everyone, even her mom.. and i have mentioned a few times that i dont like "being jealous of her phone that it gets more attention than me".

i want to end it, but at the same time im really attracted to her and she is a smart girl (in school) and i havent officially caught her fucking up again but i have the guy feeling and 0% trust.

all my friends tell me its not healthy relationship and i should end it before its too deep in.

what i decided is too be just like what i used to be, i wont dump her, i wont cheat, but i will go out to the club without her, will flirt with girls (not with intention do do anything). i know its stupid but i dont know what holds me...

is this case "a playa being played" ?

always trust your instincts.

your thoughts can, and sometimes do, betray you.

but your instinct? you know, that feeling in the bottom of your stomach, that uneasyness in the static electricity on your skin...that shit will NEVER betray you.

your thoughts are based on your experiences alone. how many years have you lived?

your instincts are based on hundreds of thousands of years, every time one of your ancestors made a choice that resulted in him thriving/surviving, that "sense" is passed along to you as an instinct.

instinct is the wisdom of our elders - going back to the beginning of time - i am in my mid-thirties and i've only just learned to completely trust my instincts. they have never betrayed me. i've betrayed them. sometimes to disastrous results.

fuck what you think.

what is your 'gut' telling you about this situation that you are in? in one sentence.

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Great answer, Mack.

it tells me to get out of this relationship because this is stupid and not getting better, but at the same time i want to be with her and i keep fighting and saying that it will be better.

i guess it just a matter of time before we both realize this isnt working.. because after today's fight we had, it clearly showed that im in control of breaking up but said, either we stay together and stop the bullshit or we move on, what do you pick, she said stay together. fuck i hate this drama and bs

what you have going on there is a battle.

a battle between:

- your istincts
- your ego

your instinct is telling you "something is broken" , "something is missing" , "something is wrong"...

those are pretty fucking strong instincts to fight against. if you don't trust her, it's because she is doing things that create a sense of distrust within you. right or wrong, it is what it is. unless you go through life not trusting EVERY SINGLE PERSON (then you may have a problem), but if this girl just strikes a chord in you and it resonates in a bad way, there's probabaly a damn good reason for it.

your ego, on the other hand, is the one crying about staying together, and making it work, why? because it doesn't want to be wrong. it wants to feel special and satisfied. fuck the ego, man, trust me. that shit will lead you in the wrong direction. if "pride" is what is keeping you together...it's already over, my friend.

don't listen to your ego.

listen to your instincts.

one is meant to make you feel important.

the other is meant to literally keep you alive and intact.

that being said, if you choose to listen to your instincts about this girl, that doesn't dictate what your response has to be. you still get to be reasonable and thoughtful in your response TO your instincts of distrust in her.

maybe you could just step back
maybe you all could take a break
maybe you could just end it
maybe you could agree to see other people
maybe you could be just friend
maybe you could throw her ass of a cliff
idk

but the point is, let your instints guide you, not control you.

just don't create a disaster.

but you wanna talk about ego destruction? i'll tell you about ego destruction?

ego destruction is when 6 months, or 12 months, or 2 years from now...you have to end up firing her ass because you were right all along, but you didn't listen to your instincts. nothing hurts like that. trust me.

each time i've ignored my instinct about a girl, it was a disaster, i ended up being the fool, and my instincts about her were 100% correct.

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yep i was right all along.

checked her phone today when she went to the bathroom, and guess what i saw.

on her ex, first of all she removed his last name but im not dumb enough to know that if there is a word 'babe' in the message thats her ex. without even reading the text i put the phone back and when she came out of the bathroom i told her to pack her shit and leave and delete my number to make it easier.

i feel great that i was right, feel horrible that i was played and didnt listen to you, my best friends and most importantly, myself.

This is deep stuff filled with knowledge.

What we look at is control.

How much do you want her to have. How much does she deserve.

Nice girls are nice. Some girls are smarter then me. I steer away from those girls. Everyone knows how to break their own heart. Some women love that drama.


My friends say I like them young and dumb. There is some truth to that. I like to be in control without anyone knowing it. U know, Under the radar type of shit.

My advice, Forget everything about her. But remember her type. Is this something a women would do. lol

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damn brah,

what did she say? or do? when you told her to "gitdafukkowt!"?

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she didnt say shit.. what could she say lol she got caught and knew that was the end.

she is back to her ex now so im actually pretty happy that its over.
i never felt so dramatic, stressed, unhappy in my whole life. pimp is back.

* EPIC HIGH FIVE *

at least you've got your pride, because you trusted your instincts, and proved to yourself that you are a capable, intelligent, right-thinking person.

which is WAAAAY better than the alternative, which is being fucked over and lying to yourself about it.

this way you walk away with your head high...feel that?

good luck to ya!

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High five brotha

that bitch tried texting me a few times, i either ignored or shut her down and deleted the messages so i dont have her number even in my texts.

ps.
for those who have iphone and have siri, say "woman", see what the reply to that is bhahahah

yah, a great app for droidphone is also "Extreme Call Blocker"

it's excellent

many features

for such instances

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