| Basically, last night was one of those nights where things just worked. I'll try to indicate points of interest in bold to allow you to avoid reading all the details. If you've got any feedback, let me know.
Stage 1 - house party
The only people I knew at the party were the 2 popular people who organised it. This is my favourite gig as my best element of game is opening groups of people with whom I've got one degree of separation as I can justify being there. I've never really quite nailed how I connect at parties so well, but I think it's a mixture of several elements:
1) Tell person b a story from the past that I shared with person a. Person a is any person who's present.
2) Jump from one group to another before the conversation dies. I like to think that if you can craft the conversation to die just after you leave, people will associate fun times with you being around.
3) Avoid the overpowering people who will AMOG you to start with. After a while, they will be curious about how the party seems to be following you. AMOGing is far easier (/only possible) with social proof.
Anyhow, at this house party, I realised that this girl was in to me when she gave an IOI that's not often mentioned; we were playing a drinking game. In this game, if you won, you could assign drinks for someone else to drink. She didn't know me but gave me the drinking penalty. This to me is a massive IOI.
As the evening went on, all the IOIs were there, legs tightly together pointed directly at me even after I moved. Interrupting my conversations to make sure I knew her view point. I dealt with her as I would my 10yo niece; make sure that the person that you were talking to finishes what they were saying then answer her point in the shortest way possible. If you can do it while pointing yourself away from her, even better.
A sort of routine I've been working on: I made an outrageous comments about something that she knew lots about and I knew very little. I then shoot down her reply with anything. If people could laugh with me all the better. I didn't give her a chance to come back as I moved her out of the conversation (change topic, turn away from her and talk to someone else). At this point, she will want to tell you 38 different ways in which you're wrong, stupid and an arsehole. She can't, because she's not in your current conversation. Last night, she went and told all her friend how much she hated me. As we all know, developing any emotion is better than none and I'd suggest it's easier to develop hate then turn it to lust.
Stage 2: walking to the club
Be the true gent to another girl. The less available this girl is, the better. You're showing that you can be a really nice guy if you want. Interlink arms when walking. Offer her your coat etc. You need to pick a girl who's going to understand that you are not hitting on her for this.
Lead the way. Don't look for the target; she's following. You're developing massive jealousy here. Impose your will to take shortcuts if you know them. Basically, be alpha (sorry to the guys who I've just annoyed!).
Stage 3: the club
First step was to buy a round of shots, but only for the guys. I found a space near a girl who was slightly below my level (a girl who you can easily develop attraction with). While waiting at the bar, I opened asking how cool she thought my outfit was. While she was talking, I made a paper rose out of a napkin and gave it to the girl with a sly grin. "Hi, I'm Zebra".
Next step, I gave a quick tour of the club to the people who were new to further demonstrate leadership.
I headed outside where I know they always put the newest bouncer. Chatted to him. Introduced myself to several guys outside; "I'm sorry, I don't know you, but what you just said is so true! How did you find it out?" This gets them to share a story from which you can create connections = instant integration into groups.
So far, I've been at the club for 20 minutes. I can now walk from one side to the other and I know 4 groups of people. I pat them on the back, or grab the girl's waist as I go past to move her and allow me to get through.
As I wander through the club, a girl from a 4 set walks over to me and asks me to take 'our' picture. Great routine: Yeah, sure I say while grabbing her by the waist, pulling her in close and taking 'our' picture. This ALWAYS gets a laugh. Remember to actually take the group photo afterwards though. I tried not and you look like a tool.
First up I dance a little with the group. Perhaps one song as my dancing is not great.
I now give the target some attention. I know that she's still going to be there and will be with her friends. This stage of the night, there's no intergroup contact; I don't need to worry about random guys hitting on her. That's why I feel I can safely leave her alone*.
To start with target still wants to tell me whey I'm an arsehole. I agree with everything she says while kino escalating. I then tell her that I couldn't hear what she said and I had no idea what I was agreeing to. She leans in closer to shout. I take this as a sign to start dancing. It's very hard for her to have a debate about something while I'm dancing with her and spinning her. Her anger now bursts out as laughter at the ridiculousness of the situation.
I run the 3 photo routine, except I forgot the first photo, so it was actually a 2 photo routine. Always look her in the eyes when you say "now one with us kissing" then glance at her mouth. I always used to offer my cheek at this point which would obviously never result in K-closes.
Her friend talks to her. I wander off. Hopefully I'm training her to not ignore me.
I go back outside. I greet the bouncer on first name terms. I've now got social proof with the people outside. All blokes apart from a 3 set they're all looking enviously at. I really can't remember how I opened them. We chat. I tell them that it's cold and we should conserve body heat. We all cuddle. All the dudes think ' lucky bastard'. 2 of the girls finish their cigarettes leaving me with the third. I ask her who they've all got lined up for the new years kiss. She tells me that the other two are taken (and therefore she's single). HUGE ioi! I tell her "you've got beautiful green eyes". She tells me that they're blue. I move in closer to really examine them. "Yeah, you're right they're big beautiful green eyes". "No, they're blue!". "So then, who's going to be staring into your lovely blue eyes at the new year kiss?". She grabs me by the hand and takes me back indoors. I then notice that my target is stood outside on her own smoking. She quickly extinguishes and follows me back inside.
I'm not quite sure how she managed to separate me from blue eyes but she did. 5 minutes to new years. I tell her that "We're so going to make out". She replies with; "You're such an arsehole". I give her a look. She follows up with "and that's why it pisses me off so much that I'm attracted to you"
Midnight inevitable make out kiss.
Midnight + 5 minutes. Still going.
Midnight +10 minutes: her"we need to go somewhere a little more quiet".
The rest I'll leave to the imagination.
Bear in mind that, pre-make out, the only talking I did was a couple of sentences that made her pissed off with me.
*Ran a similar procedure a month or so back and hadn't noticed that one of the guys in my set was after my target. When I came back, he'd made his move. Learn from my mistake!
Last edited by zebraG on Sun Jan 01, 2012 8:14 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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