I don't know how it started but i was looking at my cousin who's a natural and alpha male. he was fighting with his girlfriend who is my friend and all i managed to understand is that he's fed up of her being so needy and always seeking his attention and getting mad when he doesn't call her everyday etc...

and i thought why doesn't this happen to me, a girl that loves me so much, that when i get mad at her she just seek more attention...Then i realized that i always avoid conflict with her (not my gf yet, but we are close and she's heavily attracted to me) , even if i get mad i never show it, i was like "oh i'm being a nice guy again!!".

this time i asked her to show me her pic on facebook because they're locked, she refused playfully, so normally i brush it off and tease her playfully about it like i always do instead of getting mad at her. but here's what happened (chatting online) :

Me: Does this means that you're not gonna open your pictures?
HB: Yup
Me: okay
HB: 3:)
(20min ignoring her)
HB: My penguin (yeaa i know, she always says that and i always reply with the same)
Me: what?
HB: !!!!!
ME: what do you want?
HB: why are you talking like this?
Me: because...
HB: aaah, don't do this to me
Me: ?

(next day, 31/12)

Me: Happy new year
HB: Thanks, you too
Me: but it doesn't mean that i'm not mad at you anymore
HB: loool, don't talk to me then!
(40min ignoring her)
HB: is there a restaurant named _____ in _____ ? (here i was about to ignore her again, but i thought that will make things worse and i felt needy again )
Me: I don't think so, do you mean ______ that italian restaurant?
HB: _______ ?
Me: _______ you idiot, *link*
HB: heyy
Me: yes?
(15min)
Me: ____ says hi
HB:mmm, okay, say hi to her.


Well please point out my mistakes, i know i did, and what should've i done instead, and finally how to get her back normal without appearing needy or desperate, i didn't want to appologize or anything because i would appear needy.
please help.

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

Seems to me your 1st mistake was wanting to pick a fight just for the hell of it.

Let's take a look at your conversation:
So far, so good. You don't want to show me your pictures? Ok, no problem. I could care less. I ignore you for 20 mins, then you text again "my penguin" cause I'm in control. First mistake. You showed her that her not showing you the pics got to you. Honestly, everything went downhill after this
You even sent her a "?". "Why are you talking like this?" No response.
Honestly, dude, u should've let it go long time ago.
I've had enough of ur bullshit. You mad? lol, don't talk to me then.
Testing you. She wanted to know if u had the balls to ignore her.
She's obviously in control.

You should start following the 2:3 rule. Means you send 2 txts for every 3 she sends. I counted 12 & 12.

wow, started a fight...

that's TECHNIQUE!

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Okay, Okay, I know i was wrong now, thanks for the pointers. but what should i do now? NEXT? ignore her? call her and appologize?
I just thought i should call her and ignore about the fight, but what if she's cold towards me (and i bet she will).
or say "i know i shoudn't been mad at you, but i was stressed out by many things lately etc..."
how can i fix this?

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

Under no circumstance should u apologize.

How's ur sex life with her? How kinky is the sex? I'm not joking, I need to know these things before I give u advice, because the advice will be different depending on ur answer.

We didn't had sex, we made out few times, but never fucked closed her, bad luck i guess
Ps: she's 18

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

She may be 18, but I'm sure she's not a virgin.

I'll be honest, you need to fuck this woman asap. Do u live alone? Go out for some drinks, get her drunk and fuck her. Read my thread on how to fuck a woman Alpha style.

Okay i will, but we're ignoring each other right now. how am i supposed to ask her out in this situation, she wont even talk to me if i call her... how to fix this i thought i should at least tell her that i know i was wrong etc "everybody makes mistakes, i know i shoudn't be mad at you but what's done is done, nothing happened"

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

Every person/relationship is different then another.
Face it, you showed her an unatractive side of you. And it's not the one where you got mad, it's where you lost who you are becuase of insecurities.

Insecurity is a reason why many relationships fail. On either side.

It's ok to never get angry at your girl. Just state your bounderies and tell her if she does something that anoys you.

How to fix it? My advice; be the guy you where when you attracted her. Cut the how-do-i-be-perfect play

Coudn't imagine a better reply, thanks

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

Why didn't u guys spend new years eve together? What time did u txt her "Happy new year"? You didn't have plans before the fight to go out together?

Under no circumstances should you apologize. Get that out of your head.

How do u know she won't talk to you if you call her? Did u call her already? Is there something ur not telling us?[/code]

Well, i just called her, managed to have that usual energetic voice tone etc and:
HB: (with low pitch voice) hi
Me: hey how are you?
HB: i'm fine, you?
Me: I'm good, I know i was wrong when i was mad at you, but mistakes are made, and i was stressed out lately (i made sure i didn't sound desperate or seeking anything from her, i said it as if it was just an informative statement for the sake of it)
HB: Yea, i was mad at you, you were talking creepy and i didn't recognize you then.
You: I know you are, that's just all i wanted to say.
HB: i forgive you, just so you know
You: I know you're such a generous and forgiver person (playful tone)
(small talk)

I agree that by doing this she was in control again, but i just done what my mind told me too without being influenced by the AFC feelings etc, at least i got this off my chest and we're back again...

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

I would contend that this isn't yet a "relationship" problem. This is still an HB you're trying to close.

Thank you for your helpfull reply!
It's a relationship problem indeed.

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

yea, bro. i'd say you handled it well with the apology. i'm not sure how else any one would've managed it. you picked a fight over something silly. how does one not pass control when he/she is wrong in a relationship?