| I'd have gone with the follow-up question..."what did you talk about?". If they were talking about how they missed each other, he was asking her to come over, they were reminiscing about old times, it would be a cause for concern.
Likewise it would be a cause for concern if it happens more than once/twice.
If her response indicates that there was an emotional component to the conversation beyond "hey, whats new? how you been? hows your dog?", then I'd reevaluate the relationship.
At that point, I'd just be straight forward with her. Say something along the lines of "I understand that you two had something at one time and if you don't feel like that's resolved entirely, you're free to go find out. I like you, and i see enough of a possibility that my feelings could develop more for you over time for me to want to build something with you. But if part of you is holding onto something from the past, then I need to get out into the world and continue looking for whatever I'm supposed to find." The key is to let her know you'd LIKE to be with her, but you don't NEED to be with her.
At that point, either she's going to tell you she wants to be with you or she'll be relieved, agree and say she needs space to figure stuff out or some other girl BS.
If she says she wants to be with you, then you need to tell her that you aren't comfortable with her ex talking to her. MAKE SURE NOT TO MAKE IT HER FAULT.
Spin it so that it sounds like you're on some machismo trip. When I first got with my girlfriend, the last guy she was "talking to" texted her at 1 a.m when we were hanging out. I went bipolar rage mode, told her I wasn't mad at her but that I was pissed at him because he knows that she's with me and he should know not to text her (especially at 1 am) out of respect for me as a man. At that point I called him and told him if he ever texted her again, I'd hunt him down and gut him like a pig. Granted, I'm a 6'4'' 263 lb amateur cagefighter with an explosive rage problem and I've been powerlifting religiously since I was 14, so it had an effect that it might not for the average guy. Needless to say, we never heard from him again. Also worth mentioning, after I called him out over the phone we had rough, crazy monkey sex and she told me "that's your pussy, no one else can ever have it" while she was cumming. One of my most alpha moments.
Girls like it when you're territorial and put other guys in their place over pussy. They don't like it when you get jealous and posessive towards them, that's the key to remember.
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