What do you mean, what do you do?


Nothing..because you are still dating the same person that was in the skinnier body. From a woman's perspective, I'd dump a guy immediately if he told me I was getting fat. Instead of being immature and fucking shallow by posting here, why don't you try to see if you can help? Plan dates that don't involve food; hiking, skiing, maybe some paintballing. There has to be a reason she's gaining the pounds. Maybe shes stressed, maybe shes having girl problems.... MAYBE SHES PREGNANT?


Try to help your girlfriend before freaking out....

I've been having the same problem in my relationship as well. My girl was a fucking knock out when I first met her. Now she's fat. It sucks.

i like a little junk in the trunk.

nothing like ramming your cock into a pointy pubic bone to ruin the moment.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I really hate it when science ruins our hopes and dreams, but if a man lost his status whether its money or connections a hot looking babe would drop him in a (broken) heartbeat. Your chicks getting fat? Talk to hot chicks your girl will adjust or be weeded out by natural selection. Remember if she ends up looking too good then you will be out. Like I said the Fat chick has longevity if you can feel it for her.

Unfortunately we are superficial creatures competing for scarce resources.

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you can fake it till you make it, but if it feels REAL go with the flow!

She looks alright in that pic! Don't know what your worrying about there

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you can fake it till you make it, but if it feels REAL go with the flow!

That's true, he could tell her straight up. I did try both, she was really really hurt by the direct approach and it resulted in issues everywhere, from her general insecurity to the bedroom, wasn't nice and took a lot of effort to fix. There are nicer ways of saying it, maybe I wasn't clear enough in my message. But one thing is for sure, if she decides to lose some weight, he has to support her all the way through, including eating healthy with her, not eating junk in front of her, etc.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Lick her asshole. But seriously, I'd love to take my girl jogging if she was fat, or even go on a protein diet yourself and get bulk and tell her you're going on a diet and she should join with you, but switch up her diet!

Txacoli and Paris both have one thing in similarity, if you insinuate it, do it with her, don't just watch her go on a diet and watch your scale moving slightly higher. Work with her, and like I said and others before make it a relationship thing. If you really care about her tell her such, and that you would love to go jogging and just listen to how her day was, or better yet. GIRLS LOVE MALLS, just ask her to go to the mall and trust me, walking around for 2 hrs helps, for sure. Listen to her, compliment how she is looking when makes progress, and get some new clothing with her, make it a group effort.

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Shoulda told her in the beginning of the relationship you'd break up with her if she ever got fat. That would have saved you trouble of having to deal with this problem now.

Mack that was some funny shit haha so true.

My plan is to quite simply to work out with her for no more than ten minutes a day, just to get her in the swing of things. She's not grossly overweight. I'd say she could stand to lose about 20 pounds.

I have dealt with this situation before. There are several things you can do.


1. Be blunt, and agree when she asks you "have i gained weight?"

- The response will be bad. She will not work on changing herself. If she by chance does, she will resent it, and leave you.


2. If the conversation comes up, refer to "health" and say you are concerned that she not go down the unhealthy path because her future is at stake and that you would be worried for her if she ends up unhealthy.

- Usually this will give the results you seek. She will recognize that its a serious problem health wise, and proactively try to change it, without harboring negative feelings towards you because you emphasized caring. But it may take some time to initiate the change in lifestyle and motivation.


3. If number 2 fails to bring results or changes, start being slightly flirty to her skinnier (or hotter) friends, or your skinner (or hotter) friends.

- Girls are jealous, and she will recognize that she may indeed lose you if things dont change.




Generally speaking, weight gain is usually a sign of a problem, either emotionally or physically. Stress, certain medications, hormonal changes, depression, worrying, guilt, sadness, lack of physical activity, lack of sound sleep, not enough water, too high of a calorie intake, etc. If you can pinpoint the cause of it (which sometimes can be very difficult if things overlap) then there is a better chance of reversing it.

simple answer.

be active, be healthy.

invite her along.

bring her along (even better).

if she doesn't go, then that's on her.

guess you might just happen to bump into a girl who likes to spend time with you (doing healthy and fun things).

her loss.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Roosh's war on Fat women ==> http://www.fatgirljihad.com/6/declaration-of-holy-war

one of the funniest things I've ever read

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