Okay so I have heard the dreaded 'lets just be friends' from the girl I thought I had a chance with (or might have one time had a chance with) and for whatever reason it hasn't happened. So she wants to be friends, we hang out sometimes, go for coffee etc etc. However, there is one thing really, really annoying me. She goes to parties with her hot friends and she never invites me! I have a certain expectation with my buddies that if they know of parties with hot chicks or their girlfriend's hot friends that they invite me to these parties or introduce me to these girls.

What I want to know is this,

Is it wrong to expect this sort of networking from this girl? And how do I hint that she should invite me or introduce me to her friends? I am going to be brutally honest with you all cos I don't give a damn about being her friend unless there is something in it for me. There is not enough time in my social calender for her unless I am gonna benefit from our friendship its frankly just not worth pursuing.

H.mon

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P.S guys who have overcome this and dated her friends how did you do it?

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story of my life mate. this shits happened way too many times to me i just move on. by all means may i ask why you still wanna be freinds with this girl? is it only get to her mates? because chics would hate to see their guys go for one of their pals unless she cringed at the thought of being with you. and its probably awkward since she may think that you might try it on with her. forget her and move on. thats what ive been doing and its worked out pretty good so far

Well you are half right. Basically she say's that she only want's to be friends..if this is the case why isn't she introducing me to her hot friends and inviting me to parties. If she doesn't feel any sexual tension then what can she possibly lose by introducing me to her friends? I invite my friends to parties and expect them to do the same in return. Why should it be different for her? I'm not trying to make myself out to be the socialite of the city but I have enough friends and they are all based around mutual benefit. If she isn't willing to introduce me to other women and allow me to network then there is no benefit to our friendship. If she thinks highly enough to be my friend (and we have been friends for a while now) isn't it high time she introduced me to her friends?

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Here is my 2cents worth I hope it helps.

1) Friends can be a shit test.
2) By being friends and not inviting you she is teasing you.
3) Her friends will be into you if she invites you out and she knows it, which is why she hasn't invited you out with them.

Action plan.

Break out of the friends category. Do this by being the alpha you.
Tease her with your full arsenal. Get the kino happening when she is laughing.
Act dissinterested. Let her see you with other girls.

Do not give an opinion on any guy she is dating, or is looking to date. This is what I call a no news for the press tactic. Girls like to see what guy mates have to say. By ignoring her she will confused.

Talk about all the sex you are having with chicks and how you wonder what life in a monogomous relationship could be like.

Flip the script on what she considers to be a norm and let her hang. The tension should build enough for you to kiss close in a week or two.

If this fails drop her all together and move on. You may find in two to three weeks of no contact she will be chasing you with casual invites etc. Then game on. Otherwise best to let it slide.

She might just want to keep you for herself for purposes of validation. She already knows that you find her attractive, and I'm sure she enjoys the feeling; sharing you with her friends might cause you to dote on one of them instead of her, thereby killing her source of validation.

At the moment, I'm not quite sure what you should do, but hopefully, my 2 cents can help you make the best decision.

Let me know if you need any clarification.

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"Simple. Escalate, if she's into you, she will escalate with you, if not, you will know soon enough." - SexAddict911