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PostPosted: Sun Dec 18, 2011 8:47 pm 
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I struggle deep inside with the pick up guys. I got rejected many times in my life and ever since i joined this forum and said to myself: whatever happens, do not give up. But I'm having a hard time. I got rejected many times, didn't really have success yet, and now my AA is starting to come back. I know should not give up, but i'm having a hard time in improving.

Could this be a matter of my self-esteem, and just gain more confidence?


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 18, 2011 8:58 pm 
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i think the main way to get over your fear is by caring less. you're anxious about picking up women because you care too much about it. if you care less, dont give a shit about whats gonna happen. just say what ever and do what ever you want, you'll get great results in everything especially women.

start by not caring about anything and dont give a rat's ass lol


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 18, 2011 9:01 pm 
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yeah i tried that haha, still i deep down care, really hate that:P


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caring isn't really the problem here, the problem is that you don't understand why you care. Understanding detaches itself from emotions and that's what you need to find


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Maaaan, i don't know how to stress this out. i mean i thought that i had to much things to fix and i was inferior to everyone, and ALWAYS feels down.
One day, i had this brillant idea "i'm going to do what ever i have in mind and not care what other poeple think or say or how they react. Fuck this i'm going out ton ight and i'm going to push my limits and not care about others, this is about me, i can do what ever i want and peoples opinion will not limit my freedom, fuck it" i groomed myself, went out, and kept applying the 3 seconds rule, EVERY 3 SECONDS. never let my mind get any thought, i sometimes sing a song in my head, and never let any thought goes to my mind, and trust me you're mind will make it REALLY IMPORTANT to start thinking about it, fight it off and concentrate on ...singing... open with what ever line passes to your head, just play that good comfortable mood, and let it flow NATURALLY.
You, my freind, like all of us, can naturally do it, but your thoughs are messing it up for you. always remember that you can do it and you are okay the way you are right now, RIGHT FUCKING NOW! your mind is your worst ennemy, and you can defeat it.

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PostPosted: Mon Dec 26, 2011 10:31 am 
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you're still in highschool, its tough being in a situation like that but you'll live though it, you have to, but you'll grow incredibly strong because of it later, next time just calmly tell them "do you get some sort of satisfaction about yourself in harassing me?" make them look like a fool cus anything they say will be immature and stupid.

focus and setting goals will bring your self esteem up. read alot and explore your mind, reading will change your view of life, believe me. start a diet and work out at home, exercise and a healthy living is i believe the number one confidence builder. get a job and make money.. money makes you feel like you have power. talk to girls, female attention makes any guy happy. success is the sweetest revenge.

its hard dealing with bullies but just understand that no one can define the person you are only you know who you truly are, all these people do.. is exist, who are they to judge you. you're a far better person then any of them remember that. life is bigger then them so fuck em, dont let anyone bring you down, dont let anybody have that power over you.. this too shall pass, be strong and be two steps ahead of everybody and work for a better tomorrow.


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PostPosted: Wed Feb 08, 2012 5:51 am 
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 11, 2012 4:08 pm 
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you are young. feel free to make a little break with the pua stuff. care for your hobbies


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