I have been doing a lot of work on myself recently in the last half a year.

I read the game a few years ago and have studied and read about various aspects of pua on and off over the past few years.

I am quite charming and from the outside people think I am quite good with women. Which I am on some level.

I find my progress slow so far becoming a better person and attracting beautiful good natured women, but definitely made some progress.

I have turned my focus to my inner game, starting to read self help books etc in order to gather myself and change.

Thinking about I have found my sticking points:

Fear of Rejection.

Procrastination.

Self Criticism.

I have always been like this as far as I remember. Instead of beating myself up about whatever situation that may not have gone my way (which I would have done in the past) I just accept it now and hope the next one will be better.

Self-criticism has never gotten me anywhere. So if hit a plateau or find yourself not making much progress on your journey. Don't worry about it. Accept yourself and keep going.


P.S. If anyone has any advice or articles they found worth reading link me up.

Fear of rejection and self-criticism stem from one thing only - lack of confidence.
Lack of confidence stems from one thing only - a "bad" childhood/traumatic experiences, especially in childhood.

Something(s) happened in your past that has led you to doubt your own self-worth and also self-respect e.g. your parents were overcritical, you didn't get enough attention, you were bullied, you were assaulted, you were rejected by someone you really liked/loved. You need to be honest and explore all the issues you can think of - thinking about those traumatic experiences will make you feel uncomfortable and you will want to stop, but if you ever want to be a confident, self-respecting person who is good with women, then you need to face your demons. Relive the pain and ask yourself why it was so painful; do you think you were bullied/attacked/rejected because you weren't good enough, strong enough?
When I was a kid, I was attacked by someone and had to go to hospital. For years I was shy, self-critical and lacked self-respect because my underdeveloped childhood psyche blamed it on myself. After exploring the issue I realised that it wasn't my fault at all - I was very well liked, this other guy was just a bad egg and very insecure.
Explore those issues, and then think about why you ought to respect/trust yourself - what is good about you?
Then you remind yourself every time you get overly critical of yourself (honest and constructive criticism is a healthy thing) or start feeling anxiety.

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Thanks I really appreciate your reply. The strange thing is I didn't have a traumatic childhood and my parents were always very supportive. I was bullied a bit in school I remember one experience in particular which was not nice. I was about 7 or 8 which might have something to do with how I feel today. But asides from that I was brought up well.

Something I have noticed recently is that I am so much like my mother. I know I got many of my traits from her negative and positive. She worries a lot and is indecisive, spent some part of her life not feeling good enough. I can only think that I learned these behaviours through osmosis, because the root of all my issues with women is not feeling good enough. I'll be the first to admit that and do whatever it takes to change it.

Alright, there's a reason out there for why you are feeling inadequate, but it is beyond our current level of understanding (i.e. a psychiatrist may be able to explain why, but we can't).
You should probably just focus on writing down all the good things about yourself that make you special, that make you VALUABLE. Are you particularly clever? Honest? Compassionate? Good at ice hockey/guitar/whatever? These things all make you a valuable member of society whom other people would like to get to know.
Also, I want you to spend 5 minutes every day looking yourself in the eye in the mirror, and remind yourself why you are valuable and why people are lucky to have you in their life.
Confidence can definitely be trained in this way; eventually this conscious process will be internalized and you will do it subconsciously every time you feel you "aren't good enough" - like a good footballer doesn't need to think about what he's doing, he just DOES it.

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Thanks very much mate. I appreciate that and I'll give it a shot.

basically dogg if nigaz talk shit bout the way u duz it just says to them fegitz ay brah ill moose stomp on ur lil pussy fase so bak da fuk up ya feelz me

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