Hey guys, what are some (effective?) things you do to re-calibrate if you mess up and show too much interest before it is time?

Don't forget to consider scenarios with girls who you did NOT just meet.

Personally I use a little negative body language and neg a little if I catch myself in time, I usually don't neg much.


Is asking advise about another girl ever a good idea to throw them off?

mess up?, show interest too much before it is time?,

listen man, you can show absolute interest from the start, what is most important in my opinion is your congruence to yourself along with the way she perceives your value,

value is subjective to the person, and for women it is seemingly much different then for men, and much more widely subjective from woman to woman, this is why if you ask 20 women, if they find tom cruise physically attractive you would have a wide range of varying results,

the important thing is to find what your target is missing, and apply this, by limiting yourself to this one size fits all mold, you truly are not accounting for yourself, and are playing the game to match her, (becoming another person, in order to get the girl) there is a lack on congruence within you,

what is fairly universal is people paint a picture in their head of who you are, and they seek to define your congruent state,

seeing is how value is subjective to a person in different ways (more widely so when considering what women value), you need to congruently, focus on cultivating your strengths and presenting them in a way, that would be most likely to attract those that find those traits valuable, and if you are aiming to take down a target who is unknown and you specifically want that target, find out what it is she lacks, then fill that void, you can generalize alot of women as submissive, insecure, and emotionally reactive, so the regular value mold that is given, is BE SECURE, BE EMOTIONALLY NON REACTIVE, AND DOMINANT/CONFIDENT, thus this mold covers a wide array of women who will respond to you if you can change your personality to be congruent with the mold that offers this wide selection of consumers (the women) to see value in your product (yourself),

now speaking in specific terms to your question, are you aware of what a congruence test is?, aka a ''shit test'', shit tests test how congruent you are with your beliefs and actions, she will test to make sure that you have the value you have been demonstrating up until the point she tests, in other words she wants to find out if you are who you are, or if your putting on an act to impress,

in other words, there is no too much interest, there is only being in-congruent with the interest you have shown, the same thing goes with being indirect, if you put on this prize frame act, with the whole, I'M HIGH SOCIAL VALUE, I'M THE PRIZE, I'M THE ALPHA MALE, you must remain congruent with that, or she is going to notice the in-congruence, and get turned off, this is why you learn all these body language tricks and are told to practice the routines 100s of times until it seems natural, you want to come off as congruent as possible, if you come off 100% congruent, you will barley receive any shit tests at all, everything will just fall into place, and the women who find you valuable will be immensely attracted to you,




NOW ONTO YOUR QUESTIONS ABOUT ASKING ADVICE ABOUT ANOTHER GIRL,

ok here is the thing, healthy competition for you, can be a good motivator, false dis-qualifiers can push a woman's guard down, and give you a better chance to get to know her and display your value to her in the case she does not find your passive value (looks) to be that great, she might value something else about you with the guard down, this being said,

dis-qualifying her from you completely can be a bad thing, making it known that you are valuable to others can be a good thing, putting things in the way for her to obtain you so that you are challenging, can be a good thing, throwing a wall in front of her that makes you impossible to obtain can be a bad thing, keep that in mind

GOOD LUCK

You know what, as soon as I forgot about the whole not showing interest too soon thing and just started telling girls straight away that I think they're hot things are seeming to work better for me.

I've got to field test this more though. But the past few nights I've been out, I just thought fuck it... I'm going to be honest or else I'm just going to feel weird and fake. I'm approaching her because I think she's hot, so I'll tell her I think shes' hot. First girl said jokingly "I think that girls more your type", pointing to a fat one. I laughed, so did she. I chatted for a bit, then told her she's beautiful. She ended up at my appartment, furthest we got was her foot massaging my crotch cause there was cockblock there and I wasn't in game mode per say. She was hot though, definately my type.