Lets make it short and sweet.
I have a new girlfriend, i'm aroused by her, i find her attractive, i'm hard as fuck when we have sex, but i can't cum. :O[/b]

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that's common for me

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

any tips...? or are there just days like those?

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Stop wanking

i was in an LTR for a long time.

you learn to "orgasm" with someone you are very "close" to.

i LOVE fucking hot chicks.

but i CUM easier fucking someone i feel "in love" with.

sounds lame, afc even, but it's true.

i've banged 11's and not came.

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Seems reasonable Mack,
Newport77 i have reduced it quite considerably, also stopped watching porn :s

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I have this exact same issue. Definitely stop porn as it reduces sensitivity and arousal levels - see http://yourbrainonporn.com.

Alcohol and drugs can also cause delay ejaculation although I assume you are not smashed every time you see her.

The other thing is to forget about orgasm / ejaculation as the goal of sex. Go as far as to say you actually won't orgasm, try not to. When you take the pressure off and immerse yourself in the moment you will stop thinking distracting thoughts 'Why am I not cumming?' etc which hinder orgasm. You need to be completely relaxed and non goal orientated. Enjoy sex in itself.

Finally how is your lady finding the sex? Often the male orgasm is triggered by high arousal levels in the woman...

Has this been an issue before?

this is so true.

this one chick i banged seemed to hate penetration, i would make her cum like twenty times orally or whatever, then when it came time for "the fucking", she laid their like a dead opossum on the road, which made it impossible for me to cum. as the deal clincher, she would say "why arent you coming?" which sealed the deal. sex with her was a frustrating fiasco. never get into a relationship with a woman who has a sensationless vagina. trust me.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

intrigued 101, thank you for the link it is very interesting, and i'm pretty sure my girl is aroused during sex, she's always wet and screaming ( i don't think shes faking )

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just don't cum then; and enjoy the energy boost you get that way.
contrary to the often experienced low after cumming, this energy boost can be harnessed and used for different things such as keeping the energy level in the relationship high, for increased creativity, etc..
love seems to have turned you into a half qi-gong master.
don't rush it..the time will come, when a woman will drain your energy, juice, money..

[quote="neyos"the time will come, when a woman will drain your energy, juice, money.. [/quote]

then you'll need a mop, keep one on stand-by

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I have experienced this problem before and for me it related to a) not being that into them and b) they're arousal levels and how "in the moment" they seemed. I'm currently with a girl who means a lot to me and I can cum no problem, but before her I was just sleeping with an FB and i had problems finishing.

When I stimulate the girl I am currently with and I feel her body squirm with pleasure and hear those moans and sharp intakes of breath it REALLY turns me on. If she just unzipped my pants and started fondling me it would probably take a whole lot longer.

This happens to me whenever I'm fucking a new chick. I don't know what it is. Maybe my dick is just that way when it's exploring a new pussy. Make the experience so good for the girl she won't mind and will actually want more and will try HARDER to make you cum. It's funny, if you make them cum and you don't, they'll think there's something wrong with their methods because you're not and they'll put more effort into it.

When I finally do cum though, it's always a HUGE load lol. That always gets the look from them while you're

U can't cum because u have a tiny dick and arent getting enough friction. Maybe find an asian or a really petite girl who hasn't had much dick.

Oh man I hear ya! I once dated a girl who found penetration initially very painful. I'm not huge down there but she was very tight. After a few mins she would be ok but the first few mins was always such a turn off for me. Sometimes it was impossible to stay aroused.