hey guys,

i think a sticking point im having is not knowing how to appropriatly convey interest... both when, an how much...
during my AFC life of the past I was caught up in this idea that I should always be playing hard to get...

last night i was out with two AFC friends and an HB8..the AFC's were all over her, and i was taking the laid back approach - not conveying interest..later in the night i got a chance to talk to her alone and ran some DHV routines she responded well... i made a couple of SMALL remarks such as when she told me she likes maths? during one of styles E.V routine i said "wow...i totally have a thing for smart girls" or something like that...lol

anyway after the night out we all went for a late night dinner..while under the table her legs seemed to keep bumping into mine...im sure u guys have had this before..so i took it as a IOI and let my leg rub up against hers a bit...then id pull it away trying to spark attraction (push pull)

anyway i didnt go any further then that, and then we all got up and left..perhaps the best example was when we all got in the cab to go home, I could have jumped in the back seat next to her but instead intentionally went to sit in the front, my rationale at the time...not wanting to seem like the other AFC's who were diving for the back seat...anyway she ended up falling asleep? on the AFC's shoulder, and all i got was a hair ruffle from her, at one point in the drive home..lol

my questions are: do i make it obvious im interested? should i have escalated the under the table action? perhaps hand on knee/leg etc..?
what are your general rules / theory on how much and how to convey your interest in the target?
perhaps i shouldve thrown in some lines like "you've got to explain to me why i feel drawn to you"?

i feel so AFC in this area..!! help appreciated!

cheers!!

the way the situation would have best been handled would have been to be the focus of attention within the whole group. you should have been in constant conversation with all the guys and hardly acknowleding her, and when you did allower her into the conversation, it should have just been friendly neggs. then, once you did have her alone, built comfort. you dont have to demonstrate intrest. if you prove yourself desirable enough, she will by trying to prove herself worthy with her own IOI's.

good luck next time,

PB

man your totally right, my problem was not with not having demonstrated interest it was with my game. If my game was tighter then she would have been all over me, regardless of whether she thought I was interested or not, and then I could have gone from there.

thanks for the advice man
cheers

p.s any tips on being the focus of attention for the group? i was trying hard with this set, but man i think the other AFC's new this too and it was so hard to control